In life, many parents complain that they care about their children, while children are selfish and don't know how to care about their parents and others.

The ancients said: "beginning of life, nature is good!" In fact, it is not that children are born without love, but because parents love their children, do not pay attention to educational methods, and inadvertently deprive them of love.

So, how to cultivate children's kindness in life?

Love cultivation begins with dolls.

Infant is a critical period for the formation of various psychological qualities, and the formation of love is also in infancy. Therefore, to cultivate children's love, we should start from a very young age. In infancy, parents should always caress their children and smile at them, so that children can feel their parents' love for their children, which is the starting point for children to have love.

As children grow up day by day, parents should regard themselves as their children's partners, play games, chat and study with their children, let them feel the warmth of their families and the happiness of being loved, and lay the foundation for their dedication to love.

Parents should care about their children.

Parents are children's mirrors and children are parents' shadows! Only caring parents can cultivate caring children. Children always regard their parents as their role models, and their parents' words and deeds are imperceptibly influencing their children. This is the truth that example is more important than words.

Therefore, parents should pay attention to their words and deeds, be filial to the elderly, care for children, care for others and be ready to help others. Let children feel that their parents are caring people and they should be caring people themselves.

Teach children to learn to put themselves in other's shoes.

The so-called empathy ability refers to the ability to put yourself in others' shoes and feel their feelings!

For example, seeing the pain of others, let children feel and understand the pain of others in combination with their own painful experiences, so as to provide material or spiritual help to others.

Provide opportunities for children to give love.

Many parents only know how to love their children blindly, but ignore the opportunity to give them love. The implementation of love and the acceptance of love are mutual. If children are only allowed to accept love, gradually, they will lose the ability to give love. They only know how to take it, but they don't know how to give it. They feel that it is natural for their parents to care about him. Some parents think they should give their children more care and love. When he grows up, he will respect and love his parents. Actually, this is a misunderstanding. How can children care about their parents if they are not given a chance to learn to care?

Other parents think that children's task is to study, and nothing else is important. Only by studying hard can there be a good future, so everything is for the sake of children, clothes reach out and mouth open. Learning is important, but children's personality, habits, quality and psychology are more important to their growth and success, which need to be cultivated in life and study, and will not be achieved overnight.

Protect children's love.

Sometimes parents turn a blind eye to their children's love because of busy work or other reasons, or reprimand them, killing their children's love in the bud. For example, a little girl poured a cup of tea for her mother who just got off work, but her mother said anxiously, "Go, go, do your homework quickly. Who will use you to pour the tea?" Another example is a child squatting on the ground to dress an injured chicken. The mother said angrily, "Who told you to touch it? How dirty the chicken is! " "Children's love was thus deprived by their parents.

In fact, many times parents don't know that their actions will inadvertently hurt or deprive their children of love!

? Teacher Lu Qin said, "Children's love is tender. If you care about it, it will grow up. " If you ignore it, it will wither; If you hit it, it will die. "If you want a caring child, please cultivate and care for it in your life.

A trickle makes a river and a sea, and a sand and a stone make a palace of love. Giving sympathy and compassion to children from an early age is to cultivate kindness and kindness in them. Children's initial sympathy and pity is a reflection of adults' sympathy and pity. Therefore, parents' sympathy for others' difficulties and pains will deeply touch their children's hearts, infect and arouse their concern for others.

For example, on the bus, parents said to their children, "Look, how tired that aunt is holding her little brother. Let them sit here. " The old neighbor was ill, so parents took their children to visit, greet and help with things.

It is reported in the news that some people are short of money for surgery and their lives are dying. Parents bring their children to donate money and offer love ... It is often seen how adults sympathize, care and help others. This is the best way to cultivate children's kindness. Usually, children can learn to understand others and have empathy by comparing their feelings in a painful state with others' experiences in the same situation and understanding others' feelings.

For example, when a child falls, parents inspire the child: "Do you think it hurts when you fall?" The child must be very uncomfortable. Go and wipe his face. "When a disaster happens in a certain place, parents can guide their children:" The children there have no food, are very hungry, have no clothes to wear, and are freezing. Think about it, what would happen if you were here? Let's donate some clothes and food to people in this area! " ......

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Therefore, if you choose toys, you'd better choose an educational toy, such as toys with classic elements of Chinese studies, such as early education machines and Chinese learning machines. . . No matter how you choose, you should give priority to moral education!