Every mom and dad wants their children to be smart, and no one wants a stupid child. But in real life, many parents inadvertently make their children stupid.
Remember, these eight habits will make children more and more stupid, and it is not too late to change them. The development of whole brain education is the best way to change habits.
have one's meal
Now many families have no habit of cooking breakfast. When they sleep until noon, breakfast and lunch are eaten together, and children have to be forced to form the habit of not eating breakfast, just like their parents. As we all know, breakfast is the meal with the longest interval from the last meal. The food in the stomach has been digested all night, and the heat has been exhausted. If you don't eat breakfast in time to supplement the energy consumed by the human body, you will simply show hypoglycemia, dizziness and nausea.
If these performances are reflected in the children, the children's mental activity will be very low all morning, showing a state of inattention and drowsiness in class.
In addition, if children eat too much every meal, it will also affect IQ. If you eat too much, your brain will be dull and you will always feel sleepy. After a long time, children's brain cells will appear premature aging, their intelligence will also decrease, and then they will become more and more stupid.
Therefore, every meal parents give their children should be eaten well and full, not too full.
For sleeping.
Now many parents have the habit of staying up late, watching TV, surfing the internet and working overtime ... even children stay up all night. The child is in a period of physical development. If you stay up late for a long time, it will not only affect your height and immunity, but also present a series of health problems. The most important thing is that children often stay up late and can't get up the next day. The direct result is too late for breakfast and often late for school.
Due to lack of sleep, children will naturally feel sleepy in class, and their brain cells will not be active, which will affect their intellectual development and reduce their academic performance.
For reading
As we all know, reading is the best way to train a person's mind, because in the process of reading, a person is always in a state of thinking. And a person who often thinks, the brain cells must be in an active state.
But in real life, many parents keep asking their children to read more books, but they play games in front of their children, thinking that their actions have nothing to do with them, then you are all wet. Parents' habits affect children's words and deeds; The family atmosphere created by parents directly determines the temperament of children.
A mom and dad who often reads books and newspapers in front of their children, and a mom and dad who keeps books at home, will definitely have a child who loves reading; On the other hand, if parents don't like reading and studying, and there is no learning environment at home, children certainly don't like reading.
Children don't like reading and learning, and they don't use their brains for a long time, which will accelerate the brain decline, and even the cleverest children will become dull.
Critical education
Son, it's normal to make mistakes. Every trial and error is a child's growth. But parents don't put themselves in others' shoes. They always demand children according to the values of adults, so when children make mistakes, they can't help shouting at them, and some even use force. ...
Yes, your whistle can really scare the children and make them quiet and at a loss. In this way, not only can the child not realize the fault perfectly, but the child just shows anxiety and depression emotionally, which constitutes an introverted and withdrawn temperament.
In addition, American experts in discipline and domestic violence conducted a four-year follow-up study on 15 10 children aged 2-9, and found that among 806 children aged 2-4, the average IQ of children who were not physically punished was 5 points higher than that of children who were often beaten, while the average IQ difference of 704 children aged 5-9 in another group was 2.8 points. In other words, corporal punishment of children will lower their IQ.
For fun.
The word "play" has always been a sensitive word for parents, because parents think that children play is a waste of time and delay learning. Parents will feel comfortable as long as they see their children reading and writing; If you see children playing, you will get angry and start nagging, "Do you know how to play every day? Is the work finished? " .
The most important thing in learning is to combine work and rest. If you only know how to study, it will only give you the image of a "bookworm". The director is single-minded, inflexible and unable to communicate with others. And if you only play all day and learn nothing, you will naturally have no future.
Therefore, what our parents have to do is to help their children find a balance between "learning" and "playing". Make a reasonable timetable with your children, when to study and when to enjoy, so as to relax. Let children learn to combine work and rest and give them a chance to release stress. Only when bad emotions are released can we accept new knowledge.
Humility and kindness
I often encounter such a scene in my life:
A mother: "This is your child. Well, it looks smart. It will definitely be a descendant of Tsinghua Peking University in the future. "
Mom B: "What are you smart about? My child is stupid, but not as smart as you. "
Like this, parents often show modesty and kindness in front of others and speak ill of their children. Although adults know it well, children are still young and don't understand the meaning of the back. All they heard was the literal meaning: Mom called me stupid.
Once or twice, the child may not care. If you keep hearing this, it will give a hint to your child and make him work hard in this direction-stupidity.
Therefore, parents must pay attention to their words in front of their children, try to say some positive words and influence their children with positive energy.
For early education
Now more and more parents begin to pay attention to their children's early education. As soon as the baby is born, he is anxious to send the child to this class, for fear that the child will lose at the starting line. However, some parents have misunderstandings about their children's early education concepts, knowledge and methods, and there are some problems in education, such as being eager for success, eager for success, blindly following the crowd and so on.
Older than children, parents will give their children a difficult education and always set some high-policy learning tasks for them. However, the development law of each child is different. If the mission set by parents always makes children feel out of reach, then no matter how hard they try, they can't reach the policy.
The experience that you have tried your best but can't succeed will undoubtedly make your children less and less arrogant and less motivated. If a child always can't taste the taste of success, he naturally has no pursuit of success and becomes a clumsy loser.
For tears
It is normal for children to cry, but parents will be very upset when they hear their children cry, especially in public, as if to say, "Can you control your children?" At this time, the parents will be even more upset, and immediately turn around and point to the child's nose and shout: "Don't cry! I don't want you if I cry again. "
Out of fear, the child will try his best to suppress his tears, his face will turn red and he will have difficulty breathing. Parents also believe that as long as the child stops crying, the trouble will pass and the work will be easy. Originally, the child made a mistake or was wronged. If he did not vent his bad emotions and pressure in time, it was simply anxiety and depression.
I especially want to talk about boys. Many boys' parents have instilled in their sons the idea that men don't flick when they have tears. Don't cry if there is something for the child to hold back. But even boys need to vent their feelings. If negative emotions are not vented and alleviated for a long time, how can he persist in being smart?
For the sake of children's physical and mental health and bright future, parents should restrain their bad emotions and unsafe practices and habits, create a positive, healthy and positive growth environment for their children, and make full preparations for their children to become "smart people".