In order to increase the attraction with children, the gray matter of women's brains will become more concentrated during pregnancy and postpartum, and the areas that control empathy and social interaction will also accelerate. In addition, their hormones will be released at an accelerated rate. But at the same time, areas of their brains related to anxiety, depression, compulsion and fear will also be activated. The highly active amygdala region can make mothers extremely sensitive to their babies' needs.

But it also leads to women being more emotional at this stage. About one in six women will have postpartum depression, and more people will have compulsive behaviors, such as washing hands repeatedly and checking the baby's breathing repeatedly. There will be compulsive thinking in my mind, such as constantly worrying about my baby's health. These are the reasons that make women's behavior different from the past.

Women's social role has changed, and they must quickly adapt to the new role of "mother".

Before giving birth to a child, a woman is just "herself"; After having children, her role changed and she became a mother.

In addition, our society has established standards and expectations for the identity of "mother". In order to meet the mainstream standards, women will change their style of doing things. If they fail to meet this standard, they may even feel failure, guilt and anxiety.

In other words, in order to take care of children quickly, or to meet the social standard of "good mother", women will quickly change their behavior to adapt to new roles, which will make them look "completely different".

At the same time, society's expectation of "mother" status will make new mothers feel anxious.

In fact, the practice of motherhood is far more complicated than society expects. Although the above expectation of the role of mother is out of the objective need to take care of children, this expectation itself will also make women feel anxious, which seems to be "completely different" from before becoming a mother.

We divide this mental state into four categories:

1. drop

Most women are ill-prepared before becoming mothers, and they are still vague about how to become mothers. Before I became a mother, I knew it would be difficult, but I thought it was just a "sitcom-style difficulty." Although there may not be a perfect solution, there will always be countless "small climax" moments in the process, which will make you feel that life is still full of laughter and beauty.

Be squeezed dry

Physical and mental fatigue will also plague women who become mothers. A lot of repetitive work and lack of complete sleep will make them feel exhausted and hollowed out.

lonely

In most cases, being a mother is something that needs to be undertaken alone.

fail

The sense of loss is reflected in all aspects of life. Not only the loss of time and energy, the loss of friends and social circles, but also the loss of past lifestyles; Moreover, because I have children, I have no time to care about my intimate relationship with my husband.