How does a mother educate her children? How does a mother educate her children?
Be a quiet mother.
Be a quiet mother in front of the children. Don't nag, upset your child, and stimulate the "rebellious factor" in your child's body, which is against you everywhere! Instead of nagging the child, you are tired of being bored by the child. It is better to tell your child clearly where he is wrong in short and capable language.
2. Strong and critical mother
Such a mother always criticizes and corrects her children with an aggressive attitude and critical vision. When children face this character for a long time, they usually become unconfident, introverted, look at things negatively, dislike contact with the outside world, and like to be alone.
3. A mother who is good at praising
Give affirmation to any progress of children. Most children living in such a family are confident and dare to challenge. Facing all kinds of problems positively is very helpful for training!
4. Mothers who learn to empathize.
We should fully respect children's nature and tap their potential. Children are young and playful by nature. Make sure that children have enough time to play and relax and do what they like. We once took our daughter to learn erhu, but later found that she was not interested in erhu but loved painting, so she gave up erhu. She has been studying painting until now and enjoys it.
5. Mothers who are good at communicating with their children
Pay attention to daily communication with children and help them overcome their shortcomings. Discover children's strengths and weaknesses from the nuances, help children develop their strengths and make up for their weaknesses, discover children's changes in time, praise and encourage progress, criticize and correct mistakes, prevent minor delays, nip in the bud, and ensure children's healthy growth.
Ways for mothers to avoid failure in educating their children
1, don't impose your dreams on your children.
Most stay-at-home mothers give up their careers and dreams for their children and concentrate on their children's life and education. Mothers who make sacrifices are more or less expecting their children to become talents, so they have always been keen on the "crazy training" of their children. Some mothers have all kinds of early education after their children are born. In this way, although children have learned a lot of knowledge, they have lost the opportunity to start work and play games.
2. Don't overestimate your educational ability.
Stay-at-home mothers devote themselves to studying all kinds of early education classics and parenting knowledge, and some even think that they teach better than teachers. However, children's education process needs to go through four stages: family education, school education, social education and self-education, and family education is only a part of it. If a mother overemphasizes her own strength and ignores other aspects of her child's education, it will only harm her child in the end.
3. Avoid children's excessive attachment to their mothers.
Most babies are very dependent on their mothers. Wherever they go, there is a small follower behind them. Stay-at-home mothers share almost every minute with their children, so even though some children's self-awareness has developed, their long-term habits have made them inseparable from their mothers' care.
4. Achievement means everything.
In today's China, high-quality education resources are scarce, and children have to compete by grades. However, examination is not the only important thing. It can only examine the mastery of knowledge, but not the practical application of knowledge. Therefore, while urging children to master knowledge, we should also pay attention to cultivating children's practical ability.
The misunderstanding of educating children
1, don't spoil the children.
For the healthy growth of children, parents should give their children full love, but excessive love has become doting, doting and laissez-faire, which is harmful to their health. What are the manifestations of doting: parents are obedient to their children, responsive, obedient, and have no principles and requirements. Take care of everything for your child, over-care, and don't let your child do what he can or should do. The material life provided for children is too superior, even beyond the normal economic ability of families. Don't give your child the chance to get in touch with difficulties and hard environments, and don't let your child suffer a little injustice.
2. Don't set an example.
"What kind of parents are there, what kind of children are there." This is the * * * knowledge in education. However, it is difficult for many parents to realize this. Du Yu said that children are the spiritual products of parents, and all the problems of children before the age of 13 can be found in parents. Therefore, parents should change themselves, not their children. Set a good example for children and pass on positive energy.
3. Always want to control children.
Respecting the elderly is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, which also leads many parents to put on a dignified posture when educating their children, in an attempt to control their children and let them act according to their own wishes. But the result of control often leads to confrontation. Du Yu said that if parents just ask their children blindly without considering their requirements, once the children fail to meet the requirements, parents will be very angry and angry. Such behavior demonstration will also make the child learn and become an obstacle to his character.