Nowadays, science and technology are very developed, and there are many ways to educate children. But in relatively backward ancient times, they were not worse than now in some aspects of children's education. For example, women in ancient times usually took educating their children as their responsibility, which shows that special attention was paid to children's education at that time. In particular, the way women raised their children in the Tang Dynasty made modern women sigh.
In the Tang Dynasty, parents had many customs in educating their children, especially in taboo words. In ancient times, it was a common phenomenon to wear Chinese-style corsets for babies, and there were no special rules on color. In the Tang Dynasty, people thought that children should wear red Chinese-style chest covering when they were born, because they were in a state called "extreme yin", and the red Chinese-style chest covering on the navel could convey yang to them and make them grow up healthily.
At present, adults have prepared enough clothes for their children before they are born. But in the Tang Dynasty, people usually gave their children a red Chinese-style chest covering after they were born. This is also very particular. "Chen Xiaoer's Theory of Pathogens" records that "three points are cold and seven points are full. Rub your stomach frequently and take less baths. "
Because the baby is just born and the muscles are not well developed, you can't wear too much. Just keep your back and navel warm. In the eyes of parents in the Tang Dynasty, whether it is summer or winter, we should pay attention to the warmth of children's navel to avoid diarrhea and abdominal pain after children catch cold.
Parents in the Tang Dynasty also paid special attention to their children's diet. Newborns used to eat breast milk, but now all kinds of nutritious milk powder appear, which leads to the fact that newborns seldom eat breast milk. Parents in the Tang Dynasty didn't think so. After the baby is born, they breastfeed.
Then follow the traditional confinement etiquette and take good care of the children during this period. Moreover, in some wealthy families, in order to make their children have a strong body before birth, they have already booked a nanny, that is, a wet nurse.
What's more, they will find three wet nurses for their children. Of course, this behavior does not mean that these aristocratic women are unwilling to support their children. At that time, looking for a wet nurse was a symbol of status and a manifestation of power and status. In ancient times, people, especially the families of officials, would find a wet nurse for their children before they were born in order to show their status.
There is another reason for this. The aristocratic women in the Tang Dynasty were pampered and had no experience in caring for people, let alone babies. Therefore, it is very necessary to find someone to take care of the children, which is also conducive to rapid recovery.
Saint Amethyst has a proverb, "It is my father's fault to raise but not teach. The teaching is not strict and the teacher is lazy. " These two sentences entrust all the children's growth to their fathers and teachers. In fact, mothers have a great influence on their children. In the process of children's growth, mothers spend the longest time with their children and have the greatest influence on them.
When children grow up, they are still in a state of ignorance about this familiar and unfamiliar world. At this time, parents are needed to guide. And everything parents do has an impact on their children. Parents honor their elders, and children understand "filial piety" from it. Parents take things very seriously, and children know that they are "right". Parents treat their friends sincerely, and children understand "sincerity" from it.
If parents do something bad, children learn some "negative qualities" from it. During the Three Kingdoms period, Zhuge Liang wrote a masterpiece handed down from generation to generation, which has been praised by later generations. One of them said, "I am a relative, but I am far from a villain." If you are with a person every morning and evening, you will learn something from him. The importance of setting an example is self-evident.
Children are kind by nature, but why they gradually differentiate into all kinds of people later, which is related to the environment in which the children live. The Saint Amethyst Record records, "Yesterday, Meng Mu chose a neighbor. If you don't learn, you will break the loom. " In order to give Mencius a healthy learning environment, Meng Mu had good intentions.
The famous poet Li Bai was actually stubborn when he was a child. He often goes out to play while studying. One day, he met an old lady. Aunt is grinding the stone back and forth with an iron pestle, trying to grind it into an embroidery needle. Seeing this scene, Li Bai was deeply touched and began to make up his mind to study hard.
A good learning environment can arouse children's enthusiasm, so some parents send their children to the best schools. Not only because there are the best teachers there, but also a group of children who love learning. They have received a good education since childhood, and studying with them will be beneficial to their growth.
In the process of children's growth, nature is the most easily overlooked by parents. Parents often impose their own growth experiences on their children, which makes it difficult for children to develop their own unique interests and hobbies. In the process of children's growth, parents should give their children a comfortable and free space and let them let go of themselves and their nature.
Some people may not have heard of the name Ganluo. He is the youngest prime minister in the history of China. At the age of twelve, Gan Luo had begun to show his outstanding talents, and was loved by the king of Qin at that time and was appointed as the prime minister.
The story of "Cao Chong is an elephant" is well known. Cao Chong, the hero of the story, is the youngest son of Cao Cao. Cao Cao liked him very much, and he didn't give him too much pressure since he was a child. Later, Cao Chong continued to learn and improve himself, which led to such a famous story. Children are always whimsical when they are young. Parents should not impose too many external things on them. The most important thing is to guide them to innovate and spread their ideas.
Letting go of the child's nature is not equal to indulgence. In the process of children's growth, parents still need to guide them on the right path. Otherwise, it will lead to a situation that "young people don't work hard and the elderly are sad".
"Expecting their children to succeed" is the truest mentality of parents, but for the sake of their children's better future, parents should not impose something on their children. Constantly forcing children to do something often backfires. What children need is not a successful route planned by their parents, but many routes leading to different directions in life.