Whether a woman has three children or not is naturally a woman's own business. Even if the three-child policy is introduced, it only encourages fertility, rather than forcing every family to have three children.
Women need to combine their physical condition, economic foundation, living environment and working conditions. We must decide how many children to have under the conditions of ensuring good health, good economic conditions, being able to raise children easily, not burdening all the expenses of the whole family and working freely. Before the implementation, it is necessary to consider the interval between the birth of each child, that is, everyone has limited energy to take care of the child, and the interval between the birth of the child must be 3 or 5 years to ensure the child's learning and growth.
Frequent maternity leave, state-owned enterprises will pay, private enterprises can not pay. The reason is simple: the profits and losses of state-owned enterprises have nothing to do with individuals, so they can smoothly implement the birth regulations issued by relevant departments. The income of private enterprises, except the wages of workers, is the boss's own. Once the loss occurs, the boss must bear it himself, so it is impossible to implement the birth regulations issued by the relevant departments.
If you don't believe me, please look at the bosses around you. Which is not the interest first? Just don't exploit workers extra. How to distribute the money earned to employees? Some companies can't even accommodate pregnant employees. How can you take maternity leave frequently? After all, in the eyes of the boss, employees belong to the weak, and once they lose their use value, they should be dismissed. Enterprises can find more than n reasons to dismiss employees. What can we do in this situation?
There is really no other good way except to leave. So, don't expect the company to let you take maternity leave frequently; A woman needs to do what she can to have three children.
Whether or not to have three children now has nothing to do with women, mainly because children are in debt from the moment they are born. Take a month off, buy milk powder, get wet, take care of children, go to kindergarten to pick up children, go to primary school, junior high school, high school, university, work, get married and buy a house. It's terrible to think about it. There are two children around, plus four old people are not idle. If there are no retirees, you have to hire a nanny. All kinds of expenses and burdens are really heavy. Unlike the sixties and seventies, children can be born with food rations. If the boss takes his second child and can't see cars all over the streets in urban and rural areas, you can rest assured that the children will be safe. At present, six people are tired of seeing one child. It is not a question of whether the unit can have a holiday, but a guarantee for the simultaneous development of education and medical society. Family burden is the main practical problem!
Seeing a professor's opinion of Tik Tok's three children, I was not calm in an instant. The general idea is that raising children is very hard, and adults can tolerate material lack, but it is impossible not to worry about their children's future. Adults can ignore their own gains and losses, but they can't ignore their children's gains and losses.
Ordinary people are not only a matter of material support, but also a child. In today's society, the development space he faces is getting smaller and smaller. Where is his future?
The problem of triplets is mostly the choice of elite families, because they have the ability to raise and give their children a better future. And the children of ordinary families, where is the position of children? ...
[Tears] [Tears] It's a university professor who said this! His contacts and resources are many times stronger than ordinary people, and he is feeling where the future of his children lies. Besides, we are ordinary people!
Today, when I was brushing Tik Tok, I saw another news: a star donated hundreds of millions in one child and more than one billion in the second child. ...
Watch the news in combination with the professor's words. I can only ask silently once again, where is the child's future?
Who's in charge of having three children or not? It doesn't matter who said it, what matters is what the reality says!
Ordinary people, have a baby. Children's material foundation is still so lacking, such as milk powder money and diapers, not to mention the school problems that children still have to face. Kindergartens, primary schools, high schools and universities have all kinds of cram schools, and every place costs a lot of money.
What is not a problem that a wealthy family can easily solve if it is an ordinary family?
Children must go to school. Are you sure you can enter the campus so smoothly? In today's involution, can you ensure that children are easily among the best in the class and admitted to a good school?
The admission rate of high school is only 50%, which means that half of the children can't go to high school and can only attend technical schools. There, can you guarantee that children can learn real skills?
Rich people think it's easy to earn 1 10,000, or even 1 10,000, but we ordinary people have seen 1 10,000 in our lives. How many people can earn 1 10,000? When a family has 654.38+0 million, at least 80% of the problems can be solved. But now, how many families can afford 65438+ 10,000 without borrowing money?
We ordinary people are not knocked down by the choice of having three children, but by the reality of our own environment and family!
Will companies pay for frequent maternity leave? The unit is a radish and a pit. It's only been half a year since maternity leave, and the unit is already short of staff. Everyone is overworked and exhausted.
How many companies are willing to hire women workers if they often take maternity leave? So, how much challenge will women in the workplace face? How much pressure and obstacles will it cause to women's career development?
Hey! Having said that, I can only silently look at my credit cards and calculate the repayment time of each card. ...
Of course, it is up to women to decide whether to have three children or not, and some companies are certainly unwilling to pay for frequent maternity leave.
One is about having several children.
I didn't have a second child. First, nobody cares. Being born is my own business. One mother takes care of two babies, and my energy is scattered. It is easy for both children to take care of them badly. In addition, the current social situation requires quality education, which can not be raised at all. There are at least 2-3 training courses. If a person takes care of them, it is simply too busy. Second, economic conditions do not allow it. For ordinary families, one person goes to work and one person takes care of the baby. The living expenses plus the baby's study expenses, tuition fees, training fees, clothes, snacks, toys, books, travel and other expenses are very heavy.
I remember that when the second child was released, many mothers wanted to have children. There is a long queue for every check-up, and the delivery room in the hospital is very nervous during delivery. When I was hospitalized, the hospital corridor was full of people, and even the kindergarten registration was queued first, giving priority to the neighborhood. The reality is that fertility is open, but the supporting facilities have not kept up. The relevant policies are not friendly to women, so many families are also very resistant to having a second child.
Second, the company doesn't want to pay for the frequent maternity leave.
Female maternity leave is as short as half a year. Enterprises have to work, and jobs cannot be vacant. After the maternity leave, the original job has been replaced. After production, women also have some energy scattered to their families, which enterprises do not want to see. I have seen companies force pregnant women to resign on the grounds of job transfer, which is cruel, but it also reflects part of reality.
Therefore, whether to have three children or not is up to the woman. Formal enterprises will pay for frequent maternity leave. If there are no rules, it depends on the boss's character.
The third child is to let a woman retire from society and return to her family. It will be more difficult for women to find a job in the future.
Enterprises must not pay the bill. Giving birth to children is actually their own business. Although the country is open and encourages having children, how many people dare to have children in the face of meager income, high expenses and the pressure of raising children? If the conditions are not good, then everyone should have children. But now the pressure of life is great, and the heavy pressure makes the people of childbearing age flinch. No matter how much money boys and girls spend when they never go out, how much does it cost to get married? There are three children and four elderly people, so the current situation requires a monthly income to meet the demand, so it is really dare for the average family to have three children!
Whether to have three children now is not only the decision of women, but also the result of comprehensive consideration of various factors by both husband and wife. Even if women want to have children themselves, there are really many factors to consider.
First of all, whether women's physical and mental health, age and body can adapt to having more children, whether they have had postpartum depression before, and whether they strongly refuse to have children, I think personal wishes rank first. If this fails, others will be out of the question.
Second, family conditions. Raising a child now is really not as easy as it was when we were young. Coupled with the previous family planning, many only children gave birth to two children, and there were old people on both sides, which was a heavy burden. Whether parents' health and other factors allow them to help take care of their children, whether the source of income is stable and sustainable, and whether family financial management is properly distributed are all very realistic issues.
Finally, I think it is the feelings of the first two children. Some families have a great contradiction in having a second child, and children are willing to accept it. Nowadays, many children have more contact with the internet and have poor psychological endurance. Whether there are unconscious psychological changes is worth considering.
As for frequent maternity leave, depending on personal value and how to take it, companies certainly don't want you to take it all the time. It is actually a heavy burden for regular enterprises to always give you a basic salary and five insurances and one gold. Many enterprises are afraid and want to recruit those who are married and have children or are not yet old enough to get married and have children. But now it is difficult to recruit workers and the population is aging seriously, and some enterprises have relaxed their conditions.
Some people really want to go to the enterprise to have children. I have done HR before, and I have a deep understanding, which is different from what I said in the interview. But it's just a matter of trust. From a legal point of view, enterprises should not make implicit demands, so there is no guarantee. Once employees only work for a long time, they will get pregnant and can only admit that they are unlucky. So this is a two-way street. If you have served in the enterprise for many years and have high value, the enterprise should also feel that maternity leave is your welfare. After all, in fact, the burden on enterprises is not light now, nor is it a big head. On the basis of trust and reciprocity, the two sides can solve things happily.
As for some enterprises, they think that the value of some employees is already very low, and they should try to drive them away. There's no need to be afraid. In the third phase of female employees, enterprises cannot dismiss them, and labor bureaus generally stand on the side of vulnerable groups.
I love children very much. Do I have three children? I was not born, and I am determined not to. Why?
First, economic conditions do not allow it. There is no upper limit on how much a child will spend from birth, new moon, milk powder, kindergarten, early education, extra-long classes, schooling, travel to marriage and buying a house, ranging from a few hundred yuan a month to tens of thousands of kindergartens a month. Going to the front park is to take children to play, and going abroad is also to take children to play. Three children cost three times as much. I might as well have a child.
Second, there is no energy. A woman has to go to work, clean, cook and educate her children, and there are four old people on it. Spend most of your energy on children. Children need to be accompanied all day and all night when they are sick, and they need to pick up and drop off when they go to kindergarten, help with homework and send them to special classes. My son began to learn piano when he was 3 years old. I learned everything the teacher said in class. I came back to teach him and stayed with him. Homework needs parents to check and sign. I bought a school district for my children to receive a good education. From kindergarten, we should find good ones, enter good classes, and get on well with teachers. Elementary school, junior high school and senior high school have always been like this. Go home for the children. One child can turn around, three guarantees turn around. I also want to save some energy for reading, doing exercises and applying masks.
Third, I want to keep my job, I want to get a promotion, and I want to earn more money. Some women are afraid to give birth in a competitive place. It takes almost two years from pregnancy to maternity leave, so many opportunities have been lost in these two years. The back wave of the Yangtze River pushes the front wave, and if it can't catch up with this wave, it will be shot dead on the beach by the back wave. Take three breaks after giving birth to three children. I have no courage. The company will pay wages and insurance during maternity leave, but is the company stupid? The company is not a charity. There are many ways to punish you. The person who runs the company wants someone who will take maternity leave three times.
The state has issued a policy of allowing and encouraging the birth of three children, so it is estimated that there are not a few people who do not solve the corresponding educational resources, medical care and welfare for female workers. Except the rich and the poor. Rich people are not short of money, money can solve problems that I can't solve, and the poorest people are keen on having children.
The elite and the rich will not have more children because they have no time. Only those who raise children cheaply will have children. Terrible!