Nowadays, parents are also very anxious about various interest classes, and they don't know what to let their children learn. There are more interest classes registered, which not only makes children under great pressure, but also makes parents financially unaffordable. If they don't go to school, they are afraid that their children will fall behind others and lose at the starting line. It's really not easy for parents nowadays.
Finally, how to sign up for an interest class for children can not only give children a skill, but also not make parents have too much burden.
Many parents, when they see their children reach a certain age, will read the interest class guide online and arrange corresponding seats for their children according to the guide.
However, have you ever thought about this interest class you signed up for your child, has the child been exposed to it before? Is he really interested? Is the child physically and mentally ready? Or is there anything that children have been exposed to and are particularly interested in?
If you don't know it clearly, taking the initiative to report to your child will only be counterproductive.
Some parents give their children a lot of interest classes, running on the road of various interest classes every day, and there is no time for entertainment at all.
It's better to go deep into a subject, choose one or two things that children especially like and study persistently.
In Zhihu, a parent said that her child enrolled in interest classes such as drum set, violin, English, dance, writing, pulley, painting, swimming and Japanese in the first grade.
I really wonder, can so many interest classes learn anything? And it costs a lot of money, time and energy. Can parents and children eat? ?
A friend said that when I was a child, I learned to draw and learn erhu, but my parents forced me to do it very hard and suffered a lot. Finally, I persisted and made some achievements. So I have been willing to be patient since I was a child. I am confident and not anxious when I meet difficulties. The formation of these good habits will benefit me for life.
On the other hand, my brother wanted to learn everything, signed up for a bunch of interest classes, and spent three days fishing and two days drying nets. You learned that novelty and then you stopped learning it. In the end, you will learn nothing. You have also developed a character that you always want to give up and escape when something happens, which is not worth the candle.
Others said that I signed up for an interest class at home when I was a child. After learning, I met a bottleneck and couldn't break through the difficulties, so I gave up, and my parents couldn't force themselves. As a result, I now see that people can sing and dance and draw on the piano, and I especially regret it.
Interest classes are still necessary, but we should also do what we can, don't follow the trend too much, and combine the actual situation with children's hobbies.
In the book Learning from Early Childhood Education Experts and Developing Children's Potential, a Columbia University professor tells that her son has been in new york's genius program since he was 3 years old. Do you think this child is great when you see him? How did he do it?
The professor said: "Without deliberate practice, I have often taken him to various museums and art galleries since I was a child. The child's curiosity is relatively heavy, which makes him see more and understand naturally. These are the contents of the genius class assessment. "
The professor's daughter studied ballet since she was a child and even performed in Paris. Everyone knows that learning ballet is a hard job. She thinks that this interest class must be initiated by her parents. With such good grades, her parents must have spent a lot of energy to supervise it.
However, the professor said calmly, "I didn't decide to learn dance, she decided." My husband and I like watching all kinds of performances, so we always take them to see them. Slowly, my daughter fell in love with ballet, and there were also hard stages, but every time she recalled the beautiful appearance of the girls who danced with her on the stage, it was easier for her to stick to it. "
Why can the professor's children be so excellent? Is it because they arranged interest classes according to the guide? No, just let the children have more contact, experience and feel from childhood, and stimulate the inner treasure.
An American preschool education professor said: "The biggest drawback of current traditional education is that children are an empty cup by default. We can't wait to fill it with water, but we never think about whether the child's cup is empty. Do they need water or something? "
In fact, children are "prepared" from birth, but their brains and hearts are dark. We need to project a beam of light to them through enlightenment, so that children can discover their infinite treasures.
Professor Columbia University's practice is to take children to experience life, constantly project light on them, and finally let them discover their own treasures.
Many parents think that children are only one or two years old, so young, even if they often take them out to experience life, they don't understand. What art galleries, museums, tourism, or wait until you are older.
However, when I grow up, I find that other children already know a lot, and my own children are obviously behind. At this time, I began to panic, so I enrolled my children in various interest classes, which only made them more and more disgusted.
A child who has never heard music or experienced a grand piano festival suddenly wants him to practice piano 1 hour every day. How can he like practicing piano so boring?
How can a child who has never been exposed to dance and seen other people's graceful dancing be willing to learn the extremely difficult ballet?
How can a child who has never been exposed to famous paintings or experienced a visual feast be suddenly asked to learn painting once a week and paint quietly for an hour?
All learning is boring, and it is those things that we used to think useless that make children experience happiness, make them moved and make them more determined and persistent.
To sign up for an interest class for your child, you can combine the following three points:
1 talent problem:
Parents can discuss with their teachers and combine their own opinions to see if their children have talents in these interest classes. If they don't have talent, give up as soon as possible, don't waste too much time and money, and re-choose projects with more talent for children.
2 Do not pursue more perfection:
Some parents offer many interest classes for their children. Seeing that the introduction says that drawing is good and can exercise children's creativity, they will learn to draw for their children. It is said that learning music is good, which can improve children's literacy and cultivate sentiment, so learning music for children; It is said that learning to dance is good, and it can also exercise and cultivate temperament, so I will learn to dance for my children ... The final result is that my children have learned a lot, but they have learned nothing, and they have only a little knowledge and can't get on the table at all.
3 Persist in learning:
Once a child has enrolled in an interest class and it is something he likes, then as parents, we should guide the child to stick to it. It is normal for children to flinch and want to give up when they encounter minor difficulties. Usually you can take your children to see some performances or exhibitions. For example, if children are learning the piano, they can take them to watch the piano performance, which will give them great encouragement. For example, if a child learns to draw, you can often take him to some art exhibitions to enrich his visual feast and so on. The method is the same, it depends on whether you are willing to do it.
A child will never get a bright future, because his weakness has been "filled" by you. On the contrary, it is precisely because his strengths are constantly being excavated and developed that he has won a wanton life.
The pattern of children has always been bigger than ours, so don't restrict them in the process of raising them.
What we have to do is to project a beam of light into the child's body and let him discover his great treasure.
Take children out to experience the world's mountains, seas, flowers, trees and famous artists, and let them discover what they are really interested in.
Don't always measure whether he is useful or not, and whether the child has learned. But from now on, let the children experience and explore the beauty of the world from the heart and enjoy the happiness of seeking knowledge.