Children's adaptability is much stronger than parents think.
"Many times, children cry outside, and parents' separation anxiety is much more serious than children's. "Pistachio nuts are the directors of Zhuhai Yindu Kindergarten. She told the truth about "anxiety about entering the park". Adults always think that children are so young that it is difficult to adapt to the new environment. Coupled with the crying of children, there are too many worries and anxieties.
Hu Yiqun, an early education expert, believes that children's adaptability is much stronger than parents think. She talked about a foreign child whose parents are American. The child can only speak English. When he first came, he was really pitiful. His face and eyes are full of confusion and helplessness.
But after three months, he can basically understand the words of teachers and children and speak some simple Chinese. In another three months, he will be able to communicate with teachers and get along with other children in fluent Chinese.
Why are children so adaptable? This is because they are in the "unconscious adaptation learning period", which is the period when nature endows small life with viability. During this period, children's adaptability to the environment is beyond the imagination of adults.
Parents should learn to "treat coldly" and let teachers ask their children.
"My son came back from kindergarten and said he was in a bad mood, but he was not allowed to ask for specific reasons. Looking at the poor son's heart, he doesn't know what to do. " This problem is really common. After sending their children to kindergarten, parents are worried that their children have been wronged. They will try their best to find out what happened in kindergarten from their children:
"Did any children bully you today?" "Is the teacher good to you?" Some even asked directly, "Did the teacher hit you?" . Sometimes, when a child doesn't want to talk much or express himself clearly, parents guess his tragic experience in kindergarten according to his depressed mood, and then become worried.
"Teachers welcome parents to ask more about their children at school and treat us as friends. If you have something to say, just say it. " Pistachio suggests that parents, especially those of freshmen in small classes, don't ask their children any questions about kindergartens when they get home. "In principle, they should be given the cold shoulder. If the child is willing to say it himself, share it with TA. If they don't want to talk, they shouldn't ask a word. Because it is a child's' pain', it is difficult to get rid of' pain' and return to a warm home. Parents have to repeatedly emphasize that this is a painful understanding! Many children even have nightmares. "
Parents and teachers are not two opposing groups. Everyone's goal is the same, that is, everyone wants their children to be safe, healthy and happy. Because of poor communication, there are many social contradictions. The children in kindergarten are so young that their language skills are not clear enough. Parents had better not guess the teacher's behavior through their emotions and language. If there is any problem, they might as well say so.
Six improper ways to send children to the park
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A white lie, leaving without saying goodbye.
"Don't go to kindergarten today, get dressed quickly, and mom will take you to see the fish!" "You go to play with the children, mom goes to the toilet, and mom doesn't leave." This is how many parents trick their children into kindergarten. In order not to directly face the children's tears and entanglement, they left without saying goodbye. When children find their parents gone, they will cry harder and lose their sense of security and trust in their loved ones.
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Compassion, inseparable.
"Goodbye" has been said over and over again, but I can't bear to leave, hug and kiss. Parents always want to spend more time with their children, hoping that their children can have more comfort, but this will aggravate their separation anxiety, just like an actor acting. The deeper you get into the play, the harder it is to get out of the role. Kindergarten teachers actually don't like what parents do.
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Worry too much, double indemnity.
Parents are always worried that their children will suffer in kindergarten. After taking it back, they will pamper and indulge everywhere, and some will buy a lot of toys and food for their children. This kind of practice will only make children more and more delicate and willful. Some children will threaten to go to kindergarten, and adults must promise their children's requirements before they can go to kindergarten.
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Three days of fishing and two days of drying nets.
Some families have better economic conditions and are more fond of their children. When children cry, they don't go to kindergarten, and they don't send them over and over again. This practice will make it difficult for children to integrate into the group. Children who don't insist on entering the park will miss many classes, be unfamiliar with the rules of games and learning, and often become embarrassed "outsiders".
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Negative hints, threats and intimidation
"Listen to the teacher, or I won't pick you up." Intimidation and scaring are the unique tricks for many adults to "deal with" children, but such children are generally timid, especially in unfamiliar environments, and think that there are unsafe factors everywhere.
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Be suspicious, give up halfway
It is also the practice of some parents to leave the kindergarten decisively because they are worried that their children will wet their pants, have insufficient food and get sick. Their fears are sometimes objective facts. It is difficult for teachers to take care of every child when they enter the park. As parents, we should learn to put ourselves in the other's shoes, try to adjust our mentality, and don't give up easily.
Six ways to send children to the park easily
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The weather is fine, prepare for the bad weather.
Be fully prepared in advance. Parents should bring more sets of clothes and socks to their children to prevent them from wetting their pants, and prepare a bag in the schoolbag to hold the changed dirty clothes. Girls' hair should be well cared for, which will not bring extra workload to teachers.
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Positive suggestions
Influence children with positive energy "Our children grow up and can finally go to kindergarten!" "The teacher said that our children performed very well today and ate a big bowl of rice without the teacher's feeding!" In addition to language hints, it is more important to hint at emotions, expressions and behaviors, which can be understood and deeply influenced by parents' attitudes and children.
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Emotional assistance
Bringing comfort to children A plush toy is nothing in the eyes of adults, but in a strange environment far away from relatives, this toy carries the emotional support of children. At present, many kindergartens also advise children who have just entered the park to bring their favorite toys on the admission instructions.
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Trust garden
When it comes, some parents in An Zhi will hide in a corner of the kindergarten as scouts to see if the teacher has "repaired" the child, which will make the child uneasy and look for relatives everywhere, which is not conducive to the establishment of trust. Now that I'm here, I choose to believe that the trust of my parents will pass positive energy on to my children and teachers.
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Evade primary responsibility and assume secondary responsibility.
Don't preach to children. For a three-year-old child, it's no use just preaching. We should use some methods suitable for children's psychological characteristics, such as taking getting up and dressing as a game, not being serious with children, and knowing how to make detours.
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insist on
Don't let tears shake your determination. The first month of school is the most critical. If we can successfully stick to it this month, we will basically be done. In this critical period, parents can adopt the way of "being late and leaving early" to reduce their children's time in kindergarten and make them feel that the day is not so long and difficult.