Let me explain to you what you think of the saying "no money, no second child"? Let's give you a brief introduction! Not having enough savings is the first reason why many mothers are unwilling to have a second child. Do you agree with the theory "Don't have a second child without money"?

0 1 This is not a statement, it is a fact! Unless you just eat and wear warm clothes. I have this poor, proud and miserable second child around me. Husband and wife, the woman has no job, and she didn't even arrive at the age of 20 when she gave birth to her first child. She lives on the man's monthly salary of more than 3,000 yuan and lives in a 25-square-meter student dormitory temporarily placed by the unit leader. His office is one minute away from his residence. His wife gave birth to a daughter. Because this man used to be my colleague, I send money, milk powder and clothes to my children. I also told the couple. After a period of time, this man actually bought a car of several hundred thousand yuan. I asked him where he got the money to buy a car He replied:? Pay the car down payment with tens of thousands of yuan of gift money received at the time of marriage, and pay back the car loan 3 100 every two years. ? I asked him: you live in the unit, why don't you stop at the unit to buy a car? ? He said:? Go home and open it! ? His family is from the countryside. I thought to myself: This baby is so proud. The monthly salary is 3500, and the car loan will be changed to 3 100. I don't know what his baby eats and what his wife eats. ? His daughter is about to go to kindergarten, and the couple said it was too expensive and they didn't plan to let their children go to kindergarten. After a while, his wife was pregnant again, and I didn't even bother to send money this time. Anyway, when he gave birth to his first child, I should have paid off all the gifts. I really didn't bother to take care of such a respectable person, and my values are different!

In the town where Xima is located, the average wage level of ordinary wage earners is around 4000- 1000. If the couple earn 1.5 million a month, they can earn almost 1.8 million a year. This is the income level. Let's calculate the cost.

How much does it cost to raise a child a year?

Kindergarten tuition: generally 6,000-7,000 yuan a semester, one year 1.2 million;

Interest classes: one class costs about 5,000 yuan a year, with an average of three interest classes, and the annual interest is about 1.5 million;

Clothing: children grow fast, and basically buy new clothes every year, which is almost 2000 yuan per season (it is rare, and a down jacket is almost this price in winter);

Toys, etc.: Although the money is not much, because children are young, they always like the new and hate the old, and they keep buying them at buy buy, as well as birthday gifts for children and so on. There is always 1000 yuan a year.

Social security and commercial insurance for children: social security in 500 yuan, commercial insurance is 2,500 yuan, 3,000 yuan a year.

The above is almost 33,000 yuan, accounting for more than 1/6 of the total income.

If you want to have a second child and your income doesn't increase, you may have to remove 1/3 of your income from raising children alone for one year.

This pressure is too great!

Nowadays, young people want to give their children the best conditions within their ability. Therefore, having a second child without creating better economic conditions will only increase the pressure on couples and reduce the quality of life.

It stands to reason that it doesn't matter to anyone whether others have a second child or not, so there is no need to care about any remarks, and such remarks are a bit provocative. You can have a second child without money. Nothing more than being born and raising a poor quality of life, education and companionship. In some places, there is still the idea of favoring boys over girls and raising children to prevent old age. If there is no boy, you must have a boy. So having a second child has little to do with having money or not. Nowadays, however, it is difficult for poor families to give birth to expensive children. With more children, the quality of life will decline, and the world where children can broaden their horizons and feel will become smaller. Do you have the heart to let your children watch others being educated in science and technology? One more child, not just one more person to eat, is a double burden, food, clothing, housing and transportation, which aspect does not need money? Besides, providing for the aged now requires money, so there are too many places in life that need money, and there are really not many places that need people. So, I think it's good to have a baby. A child doesn't need to worry about someone grabbing toys and delicious food with him. Children don't have to worry about their mothers sleeping with their brothers and sisters at night. Children can be accompanied by their parents, and no one can let him pass the buck. As a child, we can do many things we like, and we have time, energy and money to feel the world on earth. You don't have to take care of the boss all day, you have to take care of the second one. Before the boss finished his homework, the second child came to make trouble again. Both the boss and the second child are sick, and no one can control them. Maybe my reason is a little one-sided, but the truth. Therefore, my personal opinion is that one child is good. Don't have a second child if you have no money.

Although this sentence sounds harsh, it does make sense. For children, a better economic situation means better material conditions and better education level.

Benefits of having a second child: Generally speaking, the second child is better and healthier than the first child. Besides, the two children also have playmates. My son and daughter are fine. In the future, when children are older, they can also share the responsibility. Later, you will understand that two are better than one, and early birth is better than late birth. Let the first child not be lonely. Especially for some parents of the only child born in 1980s, as an only child, they always feel lonely, happy and sad, and no one to share. It's not funny at all, and there are people who envy others having brothers and sisters. Therefore, it is better for children to have a companion than to be alone. In the future, when they grow up, they can also help each other, visit relatives more and walk more. Disadvantages of having a second child: the family burden is heavier. From birth to college, it costs money, and it costs a lot of money. You have to buy milk powder. There are also early education classes, training classes and the like, and it is estimated that there is also a lot of money, as well as food, clothing, housing and transportation. Maybe I was going to save some money for other things and take it out to raise children. After giving birth to a second child, it is estimated that mothers will not be so unscrupulous in buying cosmetics and clothes as before. Pay more time and energy. The husband has to go to work, support the family alone, take care of the study life of the older children and take care of the children. I am too busy to comb my hair every day, let alone have my own rest time. I wait on my children 24 hours a day, so I can't sleep well if I don't have enough to eat. How worried about the children. Affect family living standards and quality of life. Originally, the family planned to take some money to travel, but later with a second child, it was impossible to go out. The burden of living has increased, and working parents should work harder to earn money to support their families.

No money, no second child? I saw many netizens answer this question. Basically divided into two factions.

Most netizens who disapprove of having a second child think that having a second child will affect the quality of life. If you can't provide your child with an excellent quality of life when he is born, it's better not to be born.

Netizens who are in favor of having children can be summed up in one sentence, that is, life is a bit bitter, and it doesn't matter if the quality of life is poor. After having the baby, we can work together.

To tell the truth, I am in favor of people who have no money and don't have a second child. However, being in favor of not having a second child without money is not entirely for fear of affecting the quality of life. For the above two kinds of netizens, there is another situation that has not been considered, that is, what if the child is born with congenital diseases?

I can tell you responsibly that if there is no money, you will watch your children die alive in front of you!

Most women who have given birth to a second child have missed the best childbearing age, and the probability of giving birth to a child with deformity or congenital disease is higher than that of ordinary women.

I have seen it in Zhejiang Children's Hospital. Because there is no money at home and the burden is heavy, the 35-year-old mother can only watch her child die in only 18 days!

The child has congenital heart disease, and if he has the money for surgery, he has at least a 50% chance to survive. The cost of the operation is about 50 thousand yuan. But because of the lack of money, the child became a victim.

After the opening of the second child, the number of children with congenital diseases or congenital malformations admitted to Zhejiang Children's Medical Center is more than three times that of usual.

Some parents and children can't help themselves and give up, which has nothing to do with having money or not. Some parents' children, like the mother above, can only watch their children die because they have no money!

Some parents are even so poor that they don't even have the money for prenatal examination. It is precisely because of this that they have brought pain that children can never erase.

There are still some children who need to recover after surgery. Although they are treated, it is also a lot of money to do rehabilitation exercises.

People always subconsciously avoid the probability that is unfavorable to them. It's like people who buy lottery tickets always think they will win the prize, but people who buy insurance think they won't use it.

So I advise you not to have a second child if you have no money. If the child has congenital diseases and you have no money, your life is definitely not hard in the general sense.

My own child has congenital heart disease, although it is the first child. Although he has basically recovered, the cost of surgery, rehabilitation and round-trip between the two sides is definitely not less than 200,000.

Sometimes it's really scary to think about it. If I don't have a good job and have the habit of saving money, will I just watch my child die like that mother?

05 1, add a companion to the baby, so that the baby will not feel lonely and learn to love each other.

Many treasure mothers choose to have a second child, partly for their own reasons, partly because they want two babies, and partly because they will consider Dabao, hoping to add a companion to Dabao and let the two babies love each other. In fact, the feelings of brothers and sisters are irreplaceable by any other feelings. Although I fought when I was a child, I still feel that it is good to have brothers and sisters when I grow up.

2. Parents can spend limited time with their children. In the future, the two children will be the closest.

Parents will get old one day and leave their children in the future. Now the pace of social life is very fast. People are busy with work and tired of life, and the relationship between people is gradually alienated and human feelings are even weaker. Finally, the closest people left around are their own families. Having a second child also hopes that the two children can accompany each other. No matter when you come, having a lover will not feel helpless.

I don't want my children to face the pressure of life alone in the future. I hope someone can share it.

Some time ago, a colleague said that he wanted to buy a house, but the down payment needed nearly 300,000 yuan, which was tens of thousands of dollars short. He wanted to ask his friends for help, but he borrowed a lot of money. Finally, his sister took out tens of thousands of dollars accumulated over the years to help him tide over this difficulty. People will inevitably encounter difficulties and bumps in their lives, but not everyone will help you selflessly like their relatives and be willing to help you share. I think this is also the reason why many treasure mothers choose to have a second child.