Lovers in love are looking forward to becoming real lovers one day, and from then on, "choose one person to die, and meet one person to grow old." As a result, marriage has become a hall that many couples yearn for, realizing the dream of "facing the sun, facing the moon and facing the sun".
Couples who really step into the marriage hall miss the time of being in love. Will not be disturbed by rice, oil and salt, will not be trapped by chicken feathers all over the place, will not be troubled by endless trivial matters.
Couples envy those couples who are righteous, and lovers envy carefree couples. Perhaps this is the inferiority complex of human subconscious. What you can't get or lose is worth remembering forever. Happiness at your fingertips is often easily overlooked.
Marriage is happy, husband and wife are accompanied, the authorities don't know happiness, and onlookers envy and hate. I don't know if it is only the day I lost that I will understand the value I once had.
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I haven't seen my friend Song Li for a long time, and this time he took the initiative to ask me out. I'm a little surprised. I think he must have something to say to me, otherwise he will definitely spend hundreds of thousands of minutes looking for me for dinner. This kind of dinner is often based on chatting, the dishes are embellished, and even the top-grade rice is boring.
Accustomed to such a meal, I ate two biscuits to pad my stomach before going out.
Song Li invited me to an expensive private restaurant, which only serves acquaintances, and strangers will not be served even if they are willing to spend money. Elegant environment, exquisite dishes and expensive ingredients. Even the scenery is very Michelin chef style.
I was a little shocked when I saw Song Li, but I haven't seen him for half a year. I didn't expect him to be so haggard. I know, something big must have happened. However, since we can still meet here, it must not be an economic or career problem, it must be his marriage problem.
Sure enough, Song Li told me that he had been divorced for three months.
I didn't ask why, in the adult world, this kind of chat is only suitable for listening, not asking.
If he is willing to talk, he will naturally talk.
If he doesn't want to say it, this sentence may be the conclusion tonight.
Song Li went on to talk a lot, and perhaps few friends could listen to him. His story is a bit cliche, and the ending is also a bit cliche.
Song Li's wife stayed at home full-time for many years and gave birth to two sons and a daughter for Song Li. She is very filial to her in-laws and her family is very happy.
Song Li owes his success in his career in part to his wife. It is precisely because he has no worries at home that he can devote all his time and energy to his career.
Coupled with his ability and talent, his annual salary has reached seven figures in just a few years, and there is no need to worry about money at home.
Song Li said that since he succeeded in his career, he has been a bit erratic. He began to dislike his wife's inability to dress up, make up and poor figure. Of course, she will also dislike that she has no economic income.
The two men quarreled many times because of these things. His wife asked for a divorce, and Song Li agreed in a fit of pique.
However, after the real divorce, Song Li found out how much his wife had paid for the family and how much she had sacrificed.
My wife usually takes care of three children, the eldest goes to primary school, the second goes to kindergarten, the third goes to early education, and there are hourly workers and nannies at home. In daily life, Song Li doesn't know when his parents should have a physical examination, how much living expenses they should transfer each month, and when and how much they should pay for water, electricity and property fees at home.
After the divorce, Song Li's whole life fell into chaos.
His wife didn't fight for custody of the children, and all three children were raised by Song Li. His life is a mess now.
Song Li asked me what should I do?
02
A man who is "all-powerful" in the workplace always thinks that it is the most difficult for him to bear the financial burden of a family. Therefore, he has the right and qualification to ask his wife who has no economic income and only takes care of her children at home every day.
In fact, stay-at-home mothers are just as hard.
Men in the workplace also have rest days, and stay-at-home mothers are open all year round. Men can complain to women about their difficulties in the workplace, while stay-at-home mothers want a man to help her, which is often an extravagant hope.
What husband and wife need is mutual understanding. Women understand men's sufferings, and men also understand women's sufferings.
Song Li shouldn't criticize his wife for his success in his career. He may have a high position in the company, but after returning to China, he is only the husband of his wife, the father of his children and the son of his in-laws.
Only by understanding this role change can men balance the relationship between family and career.
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Song Li repented, and he finally knew his wife's goodness.
With a woman's sixth sense, I think there is still a chance between them. I said to Song Li, "From a mother's point of view, she is not fighting for the custody of three children, but giving you one last chance. Go to her, I believe she is waiting for you. "
Song Li and I didn't eat anything at that meal. I was relieved to see him go. I found that the instant noodles I ate at home were particularly delicious. I think so. It smells like abalone wings and belly.
Two months later, Song Li's wife moved home. Six months later, they remarried.
After such a thing, Song Li finally understood how miserable it was to leave his wife.