The two-month summer vacation is so long, how to arrange the children? Parents fall into "anxiety", children stay at home, cell phone temptation, TV temptation, overeating and sleepiness all don't work, and their health is worse. Children go out to play, internet cafes, ponds, bad teenagers. How to manage, how to manage? Then send it to training, but choose summer camp or training class, life summer camp or military summer camp, performance promotion class or art training class? Tangle, tangle or tangle.

In fact, what is more entangled is not choice, but parent-child opposition and personality distortion.

That summer vacation, I contacted a provincial English teacher and prepared to send my children to cram English. After working for a few days, the child reluctantly agreed. On the day of class, the child got up early in the morning and was unhappy. He eats breakfast slowly and looks miserable. I don't know what to do. I urge him to eat quickly. After eating, force him to pack his stationery and come with me. He didn't dare to go against my wishes, but his steps were particularly heavy, and the Long March of the Red Army was not as difficult as him. I sobbed quietly with tears in my eyes, and gradually the tears on my face merged into a stream. Mouth but dare not cry aloud. Judging from this situation, I know I can't catch a duck today. Back home, the father and son had a good talk. My son begged me, "Dad, don't send me to training."

The pleading eyes hurt me deeply. My son has always been obedient and rarely goes against our wishes. I can insist on seeing him off this time, but it will definitely leave a deep injury in his heart. My son's pleading eyes changed my attitude towards education. I thought deeply: what is the purpose of my education for my son? Do you study English and get high marks? No, academic achievement is a process, a way, and the purpose is to make a son have a strong body, a healthy mind, a happy life and a beautiful life. When I was a child, my son was lively and lovely, and everywhere was willing to "play" with us. Now my son has changed and is not interested in "playing". He just wants to stay at home and get used to living alone, which is a bit gloomy. This is all because I pay too much attention to my grades, which puts too high expectations on my son and brings too much pressure.

I decided to let my son learn to be happy that summer vacation. I designed the following activities:

When he takes his son to the library, he will learn to get a library card, borrow his favorite books and write his own reading notes. I introduced him to reading methods at the right time and told him some interesting and useful books. Support him to make an appointment with several colleagues, go to the library together and express his reading feelings in the QQ log.

This summer vacation, as long as there are meaningful blockbusters, I support him to see them. Sometimes we watch it with him, and most of them ask his friends to go with us.

I support him to take his friends to science museums and museums, and I provide financial support. Every time they come back, they are very happy to tell me how their friends cooperate and learn about some equipment, scenes and knowledge in the museum.

I sent him back to his hometown in the countryside for a few days. He was in close contact with fields, mountains and rivers, and learned simple labor, how to grow rice, where to raise fish, and what season to produce fruit trees on the mountain.

In mid-August that year, we made an appointment with several families with children and went to Shanghai, Nanjing and Hangzhou for ten days. Before I leave, I give my children some tasks. They should learn about the history and scenic spots of several cities by themselves, arrange their trips and tell them why they want to go to these scenic spots. Along the way, we tried to do what the children could do, packed and looked after the luggage, and used Ali to travel to buy air tickets, ship tickets and book hotels. When several children disagree, we adults are in no hurry to express our views. We just provide some reference opinions, and they can solve it themselves.

As long as he has time, I will arrange for him to go to the market to buy food and record the family living expenses. Every time I go to science and technology museums, libraries, movies and other activities, I ask him to make a budget in advance and then give him the money for reasonable arrangement. Especially on that trip, I asked him to write down every account and consider how to make rational use of it.

After the summer vacation, the children returned to their previous cheerful optimism. In the new semester, the class teacher has repeatedly mentioned that children are in the class and become the king of popularity. Cheerful and generous, articulate and helpful, especially good at organizing activities. The grades have also improved a lot.

This kind of play is not a person, but a group of partners, a group full of positive sunshine and positive energy. They are infected and influenced by each other, eager to learn and progress, and happy. In the group, they learned to get along with others and grow themselves.

This kind of play is not simply playing, but experiencing culture, understanding society, enriching experience and enhancing knowledge in playing.

This kind of game is not a continuation of school education, but a supplement to school education. Not forced arrangement, but active participation.

I hope the children can study hard, have fun and take everyone to play. "Play well", play with character, play with creativity and play with results. I think if a child can really play and has the passion and ability to play, then the ability to test is not a problem.