When parents tell their children math, they should first think about the third question. First, are you a teacher or a parent? Did you take his textbook or his homework when you were tutoring? Have you discussed with him what he learned or didn't learn? Thinking about these three questions will affect your mentality when you come to help your child learn math, and it will also affect his mentality. First of all, we attach importance to people's mentality. If the mentality is asymmetric, let's imagine that the communication between adults will also be affected by the wrong mentality. How can you be sure that your communication mentality with your child is correct? Let's look at the second slide.

Symmetry and asymmetry between mentality are reflected in four aspects. First, parents' mentality is eager to expect. What can you expect? What I expect is, when the child looks at you with eager eyes, what is he thinking when he speaks? Is that so? If he writes it for you completely, you will be satisfied, but do you know the child's mentality? The child's mentality is nervous and defensive, because she was impressed by your experience in the process of tutoring him in mathematics in the past. He did something wrong before. What you said was all his wrong questions. You followed him to do your homework. You didn't tell him what he didn't learn. She can't do the problem because you don't know what she can't do. You just stare at the wrong topic, and the wrong topic itself is what he is afraid of. He doesn't want to see his mistakes. Do you want others to see yours? You're not going to tell him anything new. You just told him the wrong thing, so he was afraid. So, what about the previous experience? If he doesn't understand you, he will be very anxious. When you are anxious, you speak faster, and if you speak too fast, you will become speechless. What about the result of becoming speechless? What is it? When you get angry, you lose your mind. When you lose your mind, it leaves a mark. As long as you help me with math, I have to be nervous, because after a while, what will you do and lose your mind? Then let's look at the words you use. What words do you use when tutoring him in math? Are you an adult, your parents, and are you a professional teacher by profession? Do you know what the vocational teacher said when he was tutoring children? These words are trying to be understood by children. Have you ever been a teacher? You have never been a teacher, so the words you use are not in his context. How can he understand them? So if he doesn't understand them, he will be speechless. If he is speechless, you will think that he is not serious and has a bad attitude, and then he will start to get angry and become helpless. Because you are depressed, he can't understand what you say, so you give him the math prize well, and then you think your coherent thinking is extremely clear, and then you don't understand, you don't understand. It's no use getting angry. She became afraid and nervous. At this time, you are helpless. Your helplessness will be further infected. Next time, next infection will be recorded. Next time, he will know that it is the result of the beginning again, so as long as you plan to help him with math, he will enter a state of tension. Then it's up to you. When you talk, you will stop talking about math and start talking about you. What grade are you in? Alas, at this time, you expanded the semantics of the topic, not for your math, not for his math, but for your emotional range, for the past and the past, and then for complaining, and then for this thing. What happened to him? I feel dizzy. I don't even know math, and I got into this situation in about 30 minutes. Are you dizzy or cute, dizzy in the middle. This is really annoying. This is what I call psychological asymmetry. You have ardent expectations, and you don't solve problems.

So, let's take a closer look at what happened. It is used for asymmetry. You should remember you when tutoring your child and help him learn the language. Can you use recording? Just record it and you'll know. Too many terms. What do you mean there are too many terms? Hey, you are always an unknown, and you can't count words. This is common sense. It belongs to the speed formula. I don't know what speed is. What is the discount of 20% when teaching? Right? This is a discount. He doesn't understand even more when you discount. He said that if it is sold at the original price, there should be a profit. You know this is profit, but you don't understand. Profit is profit, but you don't understand. Profit is money. Do you think he knows how to make money? He doesn't know how to make money, so you didn't entrust your business knowledge to him. If you speak faster and faster, and at the end of the day, the nerves in the cerebellum become more and more nervous, you still won't listen. I can't wait to speak for ten minutes if I catch a sentence in my head. He didn't even understand the content of 30 seconds in these ten minutes, so I have already said that you have said too much now. You expect him to accept 100 things, and you expect him to accept this 100 things in ten minutes. Let's see what kind of scene this is. We should study it. Where is our brain asymmetry? The so-called brain asymmetry means that her brain is still in the development stage. I just told you that she was only 25 million at the age of nine and couldn't make it for three days in a row. This is just a senior intellectual's family, not too curtilage, and willing to communicate, including China's family who works as a cognitive lawyer in the United States and a doctor's family. Before she is three years old, she will hear 65.438+million words. The low-income households don't even have 1 10,000 yuan. When they are nine years old, their intellectual structure is completely different, because their brains are different. His (her) brain is developing, and everything you say has to be poured in. If you speak too fast, you can't leave it. However, the adult brain is a fully developed brain, and it has already developed. At this time, you think, input and output. This kind of input and output is misplaced. His brain Many of our parents are such children, and they are very happy with you at ordinary times. Did she ask you a question? Then why is it red? You start telling him. After you talked for two or three minutes, he had nothing to say. He didn't even know what he was talking about. He doesn't understand. You let her know why. If it is red, you say red. We can't leave the red light. Mom can talk a lot. Only in this way can we be safe, our traffic can be orderly and everyone can be better. Can you stop talking so much? You've talked too much, and you've disturbed my train of thought. You just want to show that you are great. You know a lot, right? You didn't learn to be a teacher, so you want to show me that I am his parents in front of the children. I think there are many things that he can know quickly, so the output and input are misplaced, if it weren't for this dislocation. As a teacher, you should tell us how to change it first.

Let's talk about me first I graduated from Beijing Normal University, which is a special place to train teachers. A few months later, I returned to the middle school attached to Beijing Normal University to teach, and I handed in mathematics for three years. Then go abroad, go abroad and teach math in Australia. I have coached primary school math competition classes in China, continued to tutor in Australia, and went to Britain to participate in exchanges with the United States after tutoring. I have seen many children, not to say that in Australia, British parents are not in a hurry, and it is also true that parents gather for counseling. Then I said, some of the students who are listening here are also teachers. I wonder if you have studied. As a child of Chinese studies in Beijing Normal University, when studying pedagogy, the first one called the child as the main body. I believe you don't understand this sentence. Children as the main body are not enough. You don't understand, and you don't know the specific meaning. I gave you a photo. What do you see in this painting? Take a good look at my photos. I really took it for you. The child is learning to walk. He must walk by himself. His parents are helping him walk. Look at this. Have you ever seen mom and dad holding their children to walk? If you teach her like this, you will spoil its theme. The main thing is that I want to learn now, but you hold his hand to prevent the consequences of his fall. But the right to decide whether to go or not lies in his decision to lift his feet. Think about it. The same is true of tutoring mathematics. You have been preaching mathematics, and you have been turning his feet and pushing him forward. Then call him the main force? You're going to take away his theme. I said that the second child's brain decides whether to learn or not. His brain has a preset speed, especially when the child's neuron factory rights are activated, it will be slower. For example, if you say a word to him, you will say that this word is called length and this word is called the length of a rectangle. How can I put it? It takes him several times to know the length, so if a child learns a rectangle, it will be the first time for him to listen to the teacher in the classroom, and it will take him a long time to understand what you should do. If it is his turn to do homework at home, he will know that it is too late for him, and she has become an abstract understanding. You have to point to the table at home and say that you are sitting on the long side of the table. She won't understand the factory at first, but you let him do it and let him live. After two or three days, he will ask you, which side are you on? I am wide and I am short. He will understand soon. I stand on the long side of what she does, and children learn integers before writing novels at school. You tell the child that Zheng Xiaoshu says everything, and he won't understand. He won't understand these concepts when you tell him that 123456 is an integer. Some concepts are too early. His neurons haven't reached that position yet, so his brain has a preset development stage. Do you think it is possible to see the little book teacher who was watered in advance? Do you know that he has been teaching decimals since the second grade and the third grade of primary school? When I was teaching in Yumen Primary School, I asked this child, and the child liked my child's question very much, so I asked him what decimals were, and he said 123 was a novel. I said, why is 123 a decimal? He said that grade 123 is a primary school, so it is a decimal, grade 4 is also a decimal, and grade 6 is also a decimal. Teacher, how to teach this decimal? If parents take their children to the supermarket, they won't let them see this life label, and if you don't give it an abstract concept of life, he won't understand it. I came to you with my children when I was three or four years old. You like this yogurt, don't you? Just let him look after the children and see the price. He will see the decimal 2.2.08, and he will remember this. You don't have to tell her that you have seen him. Remember, when you told your child that you were ready and sitting on the table, did he ask your name? If you ask him what a table is again, he will say that four-legged tables are all made of wood, and you can sit on them and do your homework and eat. Can he tell her? You've never told this concept to children, have you? Because when he sees you, he can see the small numbers earlier. Can you let her see fractions and decimals earlier? When he saw this, when he understood this, you know? This is the speed of his brain, you just need to provide visible life. He decided to go, he decided to remember this, he decided to ask you this next time, let him ask you this. The matter hovered in his mind for some time. He asked you to learn the speed of your speech just to satisfy her cognition. This is based on children. You can't pretend to be the master. You can't drag his feet and say that you will take this step behind her ankle, because once you deprive the child. What do you mean, always depend on you? That is, anyway, if you stare at me and take care of this thread, I won't play this thing by myself in the future, so I can play as I want. Anyway, when I am unhappy, you will definitely take me to math. You will definitely ask me to supervise me, and he and she will fall in love with you completely. Learning happiness by your understanding has nothing to do with him and happiness. Of course, the child will avoid him. I asked my mother to teach me a book. How did my mother teach me math when I was a child? What my mother gave me inspired me to be happy, but I like what my mother did for me, which made me think math was really interesting. Mathematics is an interesting thing. How many centimeters did I grow in my summer vacation? I told my mother that I ate so many grains of rice tonight, and my mother took a small pot and cooked the rice I chose, so I knew how much I earned by choosing 60 cm. Most children don't know, and then I go out and tell people that I sometimes tell adults that I can eat 120 grains of rice at most, so you are ready to cook it yourself. 150 cm bowl is not acceptable. I said that all this time was brought from my life. I put my rice bag on the chessboard. My mother and I like playing chess. Our chess board has moved, but why should I put it like this? Why should I say this? The reason why I play like this is because I heard a story that there is a special ministerial class. Where is Niu Niu? Cowboy, I just hate China's math. These boxes are foreign. Since he is a foreign country, let's take a look at what the ancient Greeks called geometric measurement of the earth. This measurement is easy to understand.

Parents are dominant and subject, but he doesn't know what to eat and what to eat. Nutrition is our decision. He only said that I would eat it as the main body and I would give it to him. I have the advantage. Now many parents want their children to be free at home and have no rules. What do you mean children have no rules? This mom and dad said to listen to Yueyang Tower before going to bed at night, and I handed it in in class. I run this parent class, and I am cultivating parents' ability. 52 weeks, Yueyang Tower, listen to my parents three times in the evening. Put it on three times. This Yueyang Tower says, you decide, you decide what to do. You tell your child that my family listens to him. This is the role of dominance. Its dominant position determines its development environment. I decide what he listens to, and I decide what he sees. He opened his eyes and looked at words as big as a4 paper. When he saw this, he naturally learned something, and I decided to provide it. It wasn't that he wanted to rob my mobile phone, so I decided to show it to him. 15 minutes is my decision. Now why do children cry so hard and loudly as soon as they go out? When traveling abroad, a child and several foreign countries ran around my father-in-law, laughing and slapping. That's because the beach can be in the restaurant. Why is it because even the rules have been lost, that is to say, the family has not been dominated by parents? You don't decide the link, you don't decide the means of support, you don't decide whether it can have it, even because it should have harm, it belongs to prevention. In fact, what I'm talking about is just a simple pass that a teacher must pass. You know what the subject is and what the dominant position is. You can't pretend to be the master, and you can't lose your dominant position. Let me ask you a few questions, which many parents can't avoid. If you can do it, you will do it. what are you going to do？ Can you tell me what you want to say? Try to say it first, and then tell us what you said in the process of speaking. What did you hear? What was the main point of this process? I don't understand anyone in the back. If he doesn't understand you, tell him enthusiastically. In other words, you don't know where he is stuck. Can we not talk about this? What should I say? That's not practical. I no longer consider whether chickens and rabbits are together. Are we now? Have you ever seen a chicken?

As I said before, how many heads does a rabbit tie? How many heads are there? How many legs does a chicken have, only two? How many legs does a rabbit have? Four legs? Let's make a record slowly. When you see a head, if the nose has several horns, you will understand by looking at my slides. She is four people with two bellies. Look at his two heads. There are only a few horns and four rabbits. Three chickens are hexagonal, and three rabbits are 12. I'll practice for him bit by bit, and he will be happy. He will save him as soon as he finds it. Now the chicken and rabbit add up to 12. You make me 30 feet. As long as he understands, he dares to hit him, and he will be happy as soon as he draws it out, understand? The child's happiness is the result of her moment, something she really understands. He will be happy when he knows. She will be happy, and she will have confidence in learning math. So I'll tell you this question. Most of my lesson plans say this. The curriculum plan is an award-winning curriculum plan. I'll show you my housekeeping skills. Let's not talk about this pursuit, but it will be soon, and so will the age.

What to tell him less and how to tell him are dominated by us. This is the gap and difference. What we really tell our children is to teach them with him as the main body and me as the main body. So what should my parents learn? Look at this slide. I'm talking about what parents should learn. In three aspects, children will be interested only if they feel logarithm, and they will not worry about mathematics. You've been competing with him. Will he like math? Secondly, the third is the development of learning psychology. Children's psychological development is emotional priority. If he likes the teacher you are looking for, he will do well in that course. He changed teachers in this course next semester, and it was unpopular at first sight, so he didn't like this course and his grades dropped sharply. Therefore, children's psychology is based on liking. Can you have fun tutoring him in math? Can you tell him to give me your paper and I'll do it? Such a scene? This is the content of children's educational psychology. If you can't learn all these things, you are still angry with that child, so why bother? My mother teaches math here, mainly about her role as a mother, not as a teacher. The mother's role is to arouse children's interest in this matter, and the mother's role is to help children build interest in life.