Many parents worry that their parenting style is not comprehensive enough, and the future quality depends on the growth of their children at this stage. At the same time, many parents think that the better the child's ability, the better, and share the misunderstanding of early childhood education for your baby.

The misunderstanding of early childhood education on baby's growth is 1 1. You are not allowed to count your fingers.

Some parents and kindergarten teachers, when teaching their babies to count, will ask them to put down their hands and keep them in mind when they see their babies counting with their fingers broken. Psychologists say that this method of teaching babies to count is not scientific.

Psychologists believe that the development of children's number concept at the age of 2-5 usually starts with verbal calculation, and then the number of lit objects. Then children can calculate the total, and finally, they can get equivalent objects according to abstract language numbers.

Children need to go through the process from concrete to abstract in order to master the initial concept of numbers. From concreteness to abstraction is a general cognitive process for children to form various concepts around them. Therefore, when teaching the concept of children's number, we should proceed from the concrete. From the specific point of view, it is necessary to start with contact with specific things, and gain perceptual experience about the number of objects by playing with, contacting and seeing specific things in person. The richer this perceptual experience of quantity is, the more conducive it is for children to form the concept of abstract numbers.

The correct way:

When counting, let them count their fingers, buttons, toys, etc. And let them start with specific things.

Step 2 be willful

Sometimes, the careful care of parents will "hurt" the baby. For example, some parents are always afraid that their baby will fall and get tired when walking, so they like to push their baby or hold it in their arms. In this way, the baby's activity is small, the coordination ability and the exercise of big muscles are not enough, and the activity ability is particularly poor. When a baby eats, dresses and cleans up toys, it is always done by his family instead, which will lead to poor hands-on ability and self-care ability; When there is a dispute between the baby and the child, the parents come forward to seek justice for the baby. This seemingly love for the baby will make the baby have poor living ability and poor social skills, and dare not face the outside world.

In fact, children have amazing adaptability. They need exercise, communication and even a little adventure in order to fully explore their potential.

The correct way:

Let go of your hand, let your baby pack his toys, eat by himself, and get up after falling, which can make your baby happier and more fulfilled.

3. Excessive autocracy

Some parents think that to discipline a baby, we should start from an early age and let the baby absolutely obey his will. The baby wanted a red toy, but the mother thought the green one looked good, so she bought it. The baby wants to see Teletubbies, but the mother thinks another historical story is more meaningful. Everything is up to parents. The baby has no choice, and will be criticized if he doesn't listen. Over time, the baby will become timid, and his heart is always in a state of being suppressed, which limits his intellectual development and makes him timid.

The correct way:

If the baby's requirements are reasonable, try to respect the baby's choice and don't impose the adult's thinking on the baby.

Step 4 pull out the seedlings and encourage them

Some parents expect too much from their baby's intellectual development and growth, and are too hasty in the process of educating their baby. They don't follow the laws of the baby's physical and mental development and intellectual growth, but they are often counterproductive, causing the baby to be overburdened, difficult to adapt to the pressure, and have negative psychological tendencies and behaviors. For example, some parents let their 2-year-old baby learn English, and let their 3-year-old baby recite Tang poems and do math problems. This method is not worth popularizing.

The correct way:

For children, learning is playing. Playing with the ball exercises the baby's eye, hand and foot coordination ability, playing with building blocks exercises the baby's creativity, and playing with inserts exercises the baby's hands-on and brain skills. These abilities are conducive to future knowledge learning.

5. Raise children completely according to the book.

Many young parents mostly feed their children on the basis of books, and some seriously implement the requirements of books, thinking that this is scientific. For example, the book says that you can climb in 8 months, and you can string beads in 1 year and a half. If the baby can't, you will be extremely anxious and think that there is something wrong with the baby's intellectual development. In fact, the knowledge and requirements in books are not necessarily consistent with the actual situation of children. Some may talk early, some may walk early, and each baby's growth trajectory is different.

The correct way:

Take this book as a reference. Once you think the baby is different from what the book says, don't worry. Consider the baby's development comprehensively, such as whether he can't climb because he wears too much clothes, or whether he can't talk because he hasn't been given a chance to talk.

6. Child-centered

Some parents should give their baby delicious food before eating, and the baby can't move if he likes his parents. This way, the baby feels that only this is correct. If one day his parents eat his favorite food, he will cry, and the baby will be self-centered and think that only himself is important in the interaction with the child. Such a baby will become unable to share and love.

The correct way:

Treat the baby as a family member. When eating, whether parents like it or not, let the baby share it with everyone, so that the baby can learn to share and care.

7. Satisfy the wishes of all children

Do parents have to be content to want a toy and McDonald's baby? Not necessarily. Uncontrolled satisfaction of children's requirements will make babies feel that everything is too smooth, and people often don't cherish things that are too easy to get, and the fun they get from them is gone.

The correct way:

If the baby wants to buy toys, you can tell him that if he insists on going to kindergarten all week, his mother will buy them for you. If the baby wants to eat McDonald's, you can tell him to have a birthday party here on his birthday. This gives the baby an expectation and a desire to pursue. Parents should pay attention to fulfilling their promises and don't cheat their babies.

8. Parents apologize for their baby.

When two or three-year-old babies play together, the baby will make others cry. At this time, parents will stand up and apologize for the baby. In this way, the baby doesn't realize his mistakes and doesn't feel anything wrong. He will not be responsible for himself when he grows up.

The correct way:

Parents should correct the baby when he does something wrong, because the baby doesn't know what is right and wrong, and both right and wrong need the guidance of parents. Tell your baby it's wrong to hit someone, apologize to others, let him bear the consequences, let him remember and understand right and wrong.

9. There is no need to talk to the newborn baby.

Parents are the first teachers for children to learn languages, which have a far-reaching influence on children's language development. Experts in infant hearing research found that the "auditory map" in infant brain was completed around 1 year. During this period, the more meaningful sounds are delivered to the 0-year-old baby, the more sensitive the neurons responsible for hearing in the baby's brain are. In addition, some studies show that the vocabulary acquired by babies depends largely on the number of words that mothers say to their babies.

The correct way:

When dressing the baby, when nursing the baby and changing the diaper, talk to the baby and tell him, "Mom is changing your clothes. Is it cool? " Stretch your arms, raise your head "and so on. In other words, it is very important to talk to children as much as possible, which is very important to develop their language ability. At a certain time, the baby's language will suddenly break out and speak a lot.

10, you play the good COP and I play the bad COP.

Some parents always disagree about their children's education, so they often disagree about their children's education. There is always a mother who punishes the child and a father who intercedes for him; Or the father is angry with the child and the mother defends the child. Some parents will blame each other for educating their children. In the long run, children have no respect for their parents and are speculative. Whoever protects them will look for them.

The correct way:

As husband and wife, we should be consistent in educating our baby, communicate more privately, and don't quarrel in front of the baby. When a person educates his baby, even if he makes a mistake, the other party should not accuse him in front of the baby.

1 1. The contradiction between parents will not affect the baby.

Most parents know that quarreling between husband and wife in front of school-age children is a very nervous thing for children. But many of them don't know that arguing in front of newborn babies or babies who can't talk can also affect their thoughts or emotions.

Psychologists found in their research that when the conflict between parents in the family escalates, children aged 8 months to 2 years will become very anxious and know how to try to stop the conflict between parents. Children over 2 years old, after witnessing the quarrel between parents or strangers, will quickly imitate adults, fight angrily in communication with their peers, and their behavior will become very rude. It can be seen that parents should try to avoid quarreling in front of children of any age.

The correct way:

Parents should learn to control their emotions in front of their babies. If you feel uncontrollable, go out of the house and come back when you are calm. Don't make a scene in front of the baby.

12, material reward

Rewarding children is not a bad thing in essence, but you must choose wisely when and where to use what kind of reward. If children expect to get material rewards for everything they do, then when they don't get material rewards, they will become depressed and even think that things without material rewards are not worth doing. Material stimulation can really have a great influence on children's behavior and make them have high enthusiasm, but its effect is short-lived. Parents only consider the short-term impact of material stimulation on their children, not the harm caused to them. In the long run, this method will inevitably have adverse effects. When children are repeatedly stimulated by materials, they will become more and more dependent on them and even do ordinary things. Therefore, parents should use material stimulation with caution and spiritual encouragement to children.

The correct way:

When the baby can get up on time and dress himself, parents should praise him in time and praise him: "You are great!" " "Or kiss him.

Misconception 2 of preschool education 1: Over-reliance on preschool education centers

Now most parents are busy at work, and the kindergarten age is too young to accept. There is an early education center now. Many people think that they can send their children here to be alone, or that they have nothing to do in the early education center, so let their grandparents take them to the early education center.

Correction: Although everything is fun, the early education center is not a kindergarten. Parents have begun to educate their children in the process of their growth, which can also be called early education. The main reason for coming to the early education center is that the teachers here are experienced and can make up for the lack of parents' education methods. However, many parents take their neighbors or grandparents to the early education center, and the process of their own education is lost. At the same time, children only exercise for an hour or two in the early education center, and the effect is not obvious.

Myth 2: the price of early education effect has the final say.

As the saying goes, children's money is best earned. At present, many early education centers in the island city not only have different levels, but also charge different fees, ranging from tens of yuan to four or five hundred yuan for a class. Different fees naturally make many parents think that the more expensive the early education center is, the better the effect will be.

Correction: For this view, some managers of early education centers said that the fees for early education are really different, and fees are also one of the important reference standards. However, if you choose an early education center, it is best not to make a decision from the price. It is not uncommon for many early education centers to charge high fees for their rich decoration. Choosing early education not only cares about its hardware configuration, but also pays attention to their teachers' strength, brand history and popularity.

Myth 3: Early education is to make children smarter.

In the early education center, a parent's consultation question is very simple. Will coming here make my children smarter? In fact, in the process of institutional acceptance, there are many problems like this parent. Many parents even directly ask how many words the early education center can let their children learn, and whether to teach singing and dancing.

Correction: Parents often have misunderstandings about the effect of early education. For example, the content of teaching is not to teach children specific knowledge, but to exercise their ability and character through various games. As for whether children will be smarter, early education is by no means a child prodigy education. The purpose of early education is to cultivate children's basic qualities in an all-round way. No matter what level they work in the future, no matter what occupation and career they are engaged in, they must lay the foundation for their personal creation and happiness. This is the purpose of early family education.