Mathematics, from kindergarten to high school, and even the future university, will be the focus of our study. Mathematics undoubtedly has a very important influence on performance appraisal, enrollment and parent-child relationship. Judging from children's feelings, high school mathematics learning is "tired", "difficult" and "unwilling to move". From the parents' point of view, what we see is that children always put off their homework after coming home from vacation, and their homework is not completed and their exam results are not good. Seeing all kinds of problems, we often say "you should study hard" when talking about children, but this is far from the root of these problems. We should help children point out the direction of their efforts. Therefore, we choose three most representative questions, hoping to find out the reasons for future math communication between parents and children and find out the direction of learning.

1. Senior high school mathematics: What should I do if I am "slow" and always "procrastinating"?

For students with relatively weak grades, they often see such a scene after returning home from holidays: lying in bed as soon as they get home, picking up their mobile phones, playing games, watching videos, chatting with QQ and laughing happily. And we are in the same room, and there are clouds in our hearts. What happened to them? They will say, "Yes, I'll play for a while." If they talk again, they will be impatient, and more often, children will fall into fierce confrontation or even quarrel.

Apart from procrastination, if we analyze it carefully, we will find that most high school children always put math last when they finish their homework.

In fact, for most people, there is a psychological tendency of "easy refuge". For example, adults do a job from easy to difficult, while children don't have jobs like ours. They usually study several subjects. For subject assignments, they will also start with the easiest and favorite subjects and put the most difficult and painful subjects at the end. This is why our math subjects are often put last.

And when the work in front of us is very difficult and requires hard work, our subconscious will instinctively choose to escape. For children, their escape way is procrastination. There was once a student who liked watching TV when he came home during the winter vacation. For him, it is not because the TV content is attractive, but because when watching TV, he can instinctively avoid homework and let it come late, which eventually forms a "procrastination" situation.

In this case, it is recommended to help children make a good study plan during the holidays and play after completing their study tasks every day. In addition, mobile phones and televisions can be very tempting things to be separated from children, such as not studying at home during the winter vacation and going to other classmates' homes together, or if there are no classmates around, going to the library and other places to study and leaving the mobile phone at home. In this case, the whole effect will be much better.

2. What if the math problem is "slow"?

As parents, we may not be able to observe our children's situation at school, but at home, when the school homework area is finished, we often encounter the following scenes: "The math problem is only 2 pages, and it can't be finished in 2 hours" and "A math problem is stuck and it can't be finished in an hour". This is a common phenomenon that we are "slow" in doing math problems.

"Why is it so slow to do the problem?" In the past, we often attributed the slowness of doing problems to "slow calculation", but in fact, the more important reason is "slow thinking". That is, when we do the problem, it is divided into two steps: thinking and calculating. First of all, after seeing the topic, I want to think and solve the problem, so I can calculate after I get ready. Generally speaking, 80% of the speed of doing problems is determined by the speed of thinking, while 20% is determined by the speed of our calculation.

To improve the speed of solving problems, we need to do two things: the first point is to listen carefully in class and try to understand and remember the knowledge and topics involved in the textbook. This is the basis for us to solve problems, because our mathematics is not only an applied subject, but also a memory subject. Only by memorizing knowledge and theory can solving problems really become living water and rooted wood, forming the initial ideas and inspiration for solving problems.

The second point is to experience different questions after class and summarize the ideas and skills behind these questions. Math topics emerge one after another, but the knowledge is limited, and the types of topics are fixed for a period of time. If children can sum up different types of questions and skills at ordinary times, they will have rich ideas and diverse skills to deal with problems when doing homework and exams, thus improving the speed of doing problems.

3. What should I do if my math scores don't "rise"?

"My child scored more than 20 points in the last exam, and this time it was less than last time 10."

"Recently, children have studied hard, but their monthly exam results have not improved, but they have dropped a few copies compared with last time."

Here, we need to understand two realities: what is the real achievement improvement? And how to achieve real performance improvement?

The so-called winners are those who test our academic performance at a certain stage. For parents and children, the most obvious sign is the score, and we will be happy if the score is improved. However, while the scores are improving, we should think: Is the improvement of math scores in this exam due to the children's efforts and struggles in recent months, the improvement of study habits and math strength? Or is it because this topic is relatively simple, or the topic is more appetizing to children, and the score is rising? If it is the former reason, congratulations to you and your children. This is a real improvement in our grades, and his grades will be stable at a higher level in the future. But many times, most children's progress is due to the second reason. Without sufficient strength and practical habits, our progress is easy to "return to the previous exams".

Therefore, as a basic subject, its whole learning cycle is several months or even half a year. As parents, of course, we should pay attention to children's grades, but also to the improvement of children's usual study habits and learning skills, and to the changes of children's own strength. When children develop high-level study habits and reach a high level of strength, our math scores are well deserved and naturally come.