The variety show "A Good Book" says that the most important thing to judge a book is whether it can arouse others' thinking, and the basic law of genius has done this. The novel begins with the story that Lin took part in a college mathematics competition and accidentally crossed into a parallel world to explore the reasons why his father gave up his favorite mathematics in the real world, and in the process of exploration, he fell in love with mathematics. Although this novel is classified as urban romance, the heroine Lin and the hero Pei Zhi don't describe love so much, but more are the pursuit of truth and the love of mathematics. In the real world, Lin grew up in a single-parent family and was brought up by his father. In order to support her, her father gave up the opportunity to study abroad, and in order to earn enough money to support her, he gave up mathematics research and worked in an accounting firm. She never understood why she went back to the forest of the parallel world to explore what her father loved, and she fell in love with mathematics in the process. Changed my life and my father's.
After reading this book, I think of myself, similar to Lao Lin, but different. The similarity is that single parents need to make some sacrifices to raise their children. The difference is that Lao Lin has never given up his research on mathematics. I don't even know what I really love! When I divorced, I insisted on taking care of my children, which originated from a belief rooted in my heart when I was three years old: I must be a good mother when I grow up. When I was a child, my mother had a bad temper. I can't wait to give me the whole world when I'm good. I was beaten and scolded when I was not good, and I was completely stunned. I have been remembering since I was three years old. From then on, I vowed to write down all my feelings at that time and never treat my children like this again.
As the days passed, I never cared about wearing clothes that my relatives didn't want since I was a child. Don't care about the nature of outdated statements; I don't care if there are toys. I know that learning from an early age is "other people's children". What I thought at that time was that if I had a child, I must not let him live so poor. When I was in college, my friends knew that I liked children, but I didn't know that children were a complex of mine. Later, when I had a child, I eagerly took out 100% love to bring him. But it backfired. When my child was six years old, I got divorced. I couldn't give him a complete family, so I gave him a complete love. How to give it? I can study. So I began to study psychology, parent-child relationship, interpersonal communication, how to improve his learning motivation, and even how to help children do their homework! I'm afraid I'll miss my child's growth if I study too late. After reading this set of books, I suddenly found a question: what do I love? Children? He will grow up one day. I dare not think, if one day, he went to school and left, how can I live an empty house?
On the day of my son's midterm exam, there was another conflict. After lunch, he didn't sleep for fear that he wouldn't wake up in the afternoon and missed the English listening test. I agreed. He took a novel to read. I slept in a daze in bed and soon woke up to see him playing with toys! I haven't read any English books! I was so angry that I yelled at him. As a result, we were all very angry and didn't read English books at all. At that moment, I was afraid that my concern would become too much interference and hinder the growth of children.
It is my responsibility to take good care of the children, but it is by no means the whole of my life. My childhood beliefs are deeply rooted. From the moment I realized this, I needed to pursue what I loved.