This kind of love is the love of parents, and this kind of feeling is family affection. But so deep, so thick, so much love, but often in life is silent, misunderstood, and blocked by factors that do not know how to express!
This film is about this kind of love, which I realized only after paying a heavy price. ...
-the words written in front
(1) Misplaced resources are garbage, and misplaced garbage is resources —— Comment on I'm not stupid either
Last week, I watched the educational film I'm not stupid with my parents. The story in the film touched me deeply, and I couldn't calm down for a long time.
"I'm not stupid" describes the relationship between parents and children in two families, from "being too busy to communicate" to "the child's mind gradually degenerating", to "building a bridge of communication by accident", and finally "the once empty and lost heart" is found back! In the play, Xue Qian and Jerry constantly strive for praise from their parents, but what they get is ridicule from their parents. We have experienced this sense of loss. I don't know when our parents stopped encouraging and appreciating us, but kept disciplining us, always thinking that we didn't do well enough and that they were right. I don't know when it started. My parents were so busy that they didn't come home until late at night that they didn't even have time to communicate with us. Of course, we also know that parents are very busy for this family, but no matter how busy they are, they should take some time to spend with us. Even for half an hour, we need your concern and look forward to your appreciation. What's the point of making money if we are like Xue Qian in the movie because of lack of education?
"There are no children who can't teach, only parents who can't teach." Dad didn't realize this until he died. It's not that he doesn't like success. All he knows is that he was brought up as a child. He doesn't want success to follow his old path. He didn't know how to love someone and express his love, which led to today's tragedy. He traded his life for the growth and reward of his children.
It is understandable for parents to spank their children, but it is cruel for schools to whip their children in front of all teachers and students to educate their students. I don't agree with this. Doing so may help children learn a lesson, but you know what? This practice also does great harm to children's minds. It has also been said in the play that rotten apples are peeled off and the rest are good to eat. If you throw them away, there won't be any more.
It is precisely because parents did not praise their children in time when they made progress, and did not educate them well when their children had problems. They just keep blaming their children, which makes them make mistakes again and again. There used to be a saying in the play: resources misplaced are garbage, and garbage misplaced is resources.
(2) Open your own door —— Comment on I'm not stupid.
Recommend the movie version and TV version of Children Are Not Stupid. For busy friends, you can choose to watch only the movie version. If you have time, it's good to watch the TV version. The play mainly tells the story of three families: Terry, a little fat man who only listened to his mother at first and had no opinion. A national who has a talent for painting but can't get any support; A little man, Wen Fu, has been loyal since childhood, taking care of his mother and brother (there is also a girl in the TV series who is great at reading, indomitable and has strong self-esteem).
At school, students are graded. This is just a primary school. In the child's weak heart, he has been assigned to a poor class because of his poor grades, and he feels that he has failed more than half of his life. Not only that, most teachers in the school wear dark colored glasses, and students with good grades can beat and scold at will and insult students with poor grades without any punishment; Those with poor grades, even if they do nothing, are always invited to the principal's office and scolded by invited parents and teachers. They have no chance to defend themselves, or even if they tell the truth, they are always regarded as lies to mitigate punishment. What's wrong with children's poor study? Are grades and diplomas really that important to adults and the whole society? In order to make children get high marks, adults pay a lot of money, and what's more, they pay time and energy. Have they ever thought that their so-called "rown for you" is really good for children? Is it really what children really need? Whose fault is it that children lose their innocent childhood and happy time? "It's not our fault, it's the fault of this society." Yes, as a member of society, we are always helplessly led by the public opinion and vision of this society. Parents talk about children, grades, schools and extracurricular learning, which are their main comparative topics. In order not to let others look down on themselves, they have to transfer this pressure to their children. Adults themselves are aware of this, however, almost no one dares to go upstream. This is the helplessness of life!
In the teacher's eyes, the mud that can't support the wall is also allowed to drift. Experienced teachers have their own reasons, and new teachers also have her own methods to help the mud wall. I wonder if the new teacher will change her mind when she becomes an experienced teacher in a few years. Education is to educate people or fools? Educators, have you thought about it? Especially primary school teachers, their words can make a child who has not made progress become a great man, and can also make a smart and aura child become schizophrenic. Do they know how much influence they will have on their children? Seeing that peers are bullied, some children stand up and face it together, and some children become "none of my business in ess" because of family pressure. In their experience, they constantly realize what is right and what is wrong. What to do and what not to do; When to listen to adults and when to make decisions by yourself ... Adults also need to think hard, and even they often do contradictory things, so why not let children feel "confused" before they establish a correct judgment ability? There are many places in the play that move us and make us think. Although it is a relaxed and inspirational drama, it has made me shed countless complicated tears.
"I'm not stupid" has nothing to do with the first series, so it can be said that it is a relaxed and funny comedy. There are also some tear-jerking ideas in the play, which are much less than those in the first season. Maybe the child has grown up and wants to bring out another meaning. Friends watching the drama, just feel it with your heart! No matter adults or children, as long as you believe that the world is created by yourself, there must be something useful for you. Don't stop just because there is a stone in front. Go up bravely, move the stone and keep walking!
(3) Looking for the key to children's inner world-a review of the movie I'm not stupid.
A year ago, a friend recommended me to watch a movie "I'm not stupid either". When I watched the movie for the sixth time, I was still moved by every line, every shot and every emotional sublimation point in the movie ... "When was the last time you praised others? When was the last time you were praised? For a long time? " These three questions appeared at the beginning of the film, asking everyone's voice. This also reminds me of the key to the inner world of a lovely child that I originally wanted to find. ...
Every story in I'm not stupid is so ordinary, but it often touches my heart more. I am very moved that Xue Qian spent all the money in the card to buy a razor for his father to repair the computer. Crying for Jerry's efforts to let his parents see his performance; Xue Qian's mother resigned for her son, and I was very moved. The father was moved to kneel for his son in order to learn humility; I was moved by the love of this talented father, who was illiterate and disabled, and paid the price of his life for it ... In fact, in the whole story, no matter the talented father, Xue Qian, Jerry's parents, or the Chinese teacher, every role is full of love, and it is precisely because of this deep love that the talented father punched and kicked the talented father, thinking that this is the best way to discipline him; Let Xue Qian and Jerry's parents work hard to make money every day, and at the same time place higher expectations on the two brothers; Let the dedicated Chinese teacher always scold the students anxiously. Maybe children are not good enough because we don't give them enough stage to express themselves, so that the happiness of education is getting farther and farther. ...
All this is obviously beautiful, but it has made one tragedy after another that makes people cry. Everything is doomed to conflict just because of lack of communication and no communication; Without communication, we will lose the opportunity to understand each other; Without communication, we cannot treat each other's love correctly; Without communication, we don't know when the other party needs what most; Without communication, we don't even know what we have lost or missed. As a result, the expression of love deviated from the right track, and then lost the key to the child's inner world-a kind of communication with appreciation.
"In fact, this key has always been on everyone. I remember when I was a child, we often fell down and stood up with encouragement and praise. At that time, we didn't know how happy we were and when to praise and encourage us. When we grow up, we slowly change and the door slowly closes. "
This reminds me of an article I accidentally read, the third door of the heart: my heart has three doors. The first door is open, my parents can enter at will, the second door is closed, my parents always enter without knocking, and the third door is locked. The key is hidden in my heart. If you want to get in, you must first ask the key and come with your heart. Therefore, it is necessary to communicate with a grateful heart in order to open the locks and doors in their hearts. As a teacher, I know how to cherish this key-learn to encourage, praise and appreciate the advantages of children with a magnifying glass. Often students only need a warm word from the teacher and an approving look, which can make them move from weak to strong, from laziness to diligence, and from failure to success. "Good words are warm in three winters." Teachers' praise and encouragement, like sunshine, air and water, are indispensable nutrients for students' growth. Teachers' praise is like a bridge, which can communicate the heart between teachers and students and enhance students' self-esteem, self-confidence and self-improvement.
I remember in the first class of my first year of work, there was a girl named Li Xiaoying (a pseudonym). She may not be smart or even slow-witted, but from the beginning, I paid close attention to her and encouraged her to communicate with me if she had any concerns about her study and life. I also felt her efforts in the dense lines of each subsequent unit test paper. Appreciation is a powerful driving force, and this driving force happens because your simple words, words, maybe your actions and expressions have changed a lot, and you may not even know it. Yes, every child's potential is immeasurable. As long as we give them more appreciation, their potential can be better stimulated.
So I like to draw a smiling face in students' homework comments, and sometimes I write "Come on"! I think such comments can encourage students. As Jerry said at the end of the film, "in every child, there is a good boy and a bad boy." As long as their good children are awakened, they will bring out the best. There is a good saying: misplaced resources are garbage, and garbage placed in the right place is resources. "
In fact, it is not just children who need encouragement. Everyone pursues others' respect for themselves and hopes to get others' affirmation, praise and appreciation. The phrase "I like politics because of you" written in children's notebooks is not a sincere appreciation for me, but a blessing call from a boy with relatively weak intelligence named Zhao Xiaokang (a pseudonym) in Class 07 (I am curious about how he got my number, and his casual sentence conveyed his intention "Teacher, I wrote it down quietly in the guard room earlier").
Psychologist William Jeames once said: The deepest need of human nature is to long for others' appreciation. It turns out that people are looking for him for thousands of Baidu, and suddenly looking back, the key to the child's inner world has always been-the key to appreciation.
(4) Narrow the shortcomings and enlarge the advantages —— A review of I'm not stupid.
Viewers who have seen Children Are Not Stupid (renamed Ghost of Fool when it was released in the Mainland) will surely remember this funny and fresh Singapore comedy deeply. In the film, there are subtle and profound expressions about China's social education and children's growth. The expressions are easy to make people laugh, making fun of Singaporeans' "new" English with a strong accent, and even making jokes everywhere. However, I finished watching this movie with tears in my smile!
Plot introduction:
The families of Xue Qian (15 years old) and Jerry (8 years old) are like ordinary Singaporean middle-class families. Parents are busy working to make money and lack communication. They think it is enough to satisfy them materially, but they don't know that children need their parents' care and appreciation more. On the other hand, Xue Qian's classmates have the same communication problems as his father. My humble father doesn't want to follow in his footsteps. I hope he has a good career and studies hard. However, his success is not satisfactory, which makes him very sad. He is an uneducated clown and thinks that punching and kicking Cai Cheng is the best way to discipline him. Therefore, Cai Cheng resisted his father even more. Through the story of Jerry, Xue Qian and his growing up, I'm not stupid shows us that children not only need care and love, but also want their parents to appreciate and affirm them.
My idea: once, we were all children!
Why can't we treat our children as children when we grow up?
When children enter the rebellious period of youth, parents usually complain that their children are not good and obedient, and it is difficult to communicate with them. In fact, is the child really bad? Is it really impossible to communicate with children at all? Every child will go through a rebellious period. If parents and teachers don't give proper guidance at this time, they will blindly condemn them and think that they are dead wood and cannot be carved. Perhaps, there will really be another kind of scum in society. Don't harm children because of adults' ignorance. In fact, as long as adults and children have healthy communication methods, appreciate them more, tolerate them, give them affirmation, and lower their status as their friends, it is not difficult to find that children are not as bad and stupid as they think!
"son! What language should I use to communicate with you? "
Ask parents all over the world: Do you understand children's language? You don't know, the children shouted more helplessly, we really don't understand what you are talking about. Children are not adults, they have their own language, their own personality, and the "innocence" and "ignorance" that we adults once had and now no longer exist. Adults should not ignore their "ignorance", let alone make fun of them! Children just don't know much about society, others, or even themselves. They just live a simple life. So children have their own language in the circle, which adults don't understand or even want to accept. Adults, do you know the meanings of "3Q gets orz", "CS", "Wang Dao" and "Bai Gujing"? You will only be beaten half to death and say, "How can you learn if you say it is not good?" From an adult's point of view, you can never understand children! Can adults bend down and talk to children on an equal footing?
Parents think that talking more is communication, so we have to play dumb. This is Jerry's voice in the movie. In the child's impression, he is just a listener, a listener who can't speak and can only accept the bombing of adult language unconditionally! It is always difficult for Xue Qian and Jerry to argue because their parents have said everything they need to say, what they want to say and what they don't want to say. A breakfast meeting can be turned into a "criticism meeting", and a conversation can be turned into a mock hearing ... what adults say is the golden rule, but what children say is not smooth.
As Jerry said, "our brain space is limited and our ear holes are so small." Of course, we can't accept so much information, so we have to go in one ear and out the other. " Alas ... sooner or later, we will be buried by these languages! "Under such language attacks, over time, children have become accustomed to silence and resignation, turning a deaf ear to adults' words and giving no response. Excuse me, is a child who does not know how to express his wishes and is unwilling to communicate with others still a normal child? Adults, please enjoy the freedom of speech, but also give children the right to speak as normal people!
"Mom, how did we get here?" In the film, Jerry thought he was going to be a father because of his classmates' scratching. He's helpless, scared and curious! However, when he asked his mother, teacher and maid how the children came, the answers were vague, negative and unscientific. In the children's world, we are curious about adults and even the whole society. We are shy, curious and ignorant about the budding of sex, and even naively think that a kiss will make us pregnant with BB. This requires the correct guidance of adults, so that children can understand people's basic physiological knowledge, not perfunctory, not refusing to avoid.
"Why are some adults so good?" Think back, when did you first praise your child? What about the last time? Is it because the child is naughty that you don't praise the child, or is it because you don't praise the child that makes the child naughty? Many parents' behaviors are beyond children's understanding. They don't understand that their father gave them a schoolbag that they didn't like, which was also a sign of love. They don't know that their parents cover themselves in the middle of the night ... they don't understand society and it's hard to argue about the truth and falsehood of human nature. However, even if children are ignorant, they all hope that their actions can be recognized by their parents and get the attention and support of the society, rather than being indifferent and speechless. Even a simple compliment will brighten the child's heart!
Because they are not recognized by adults, children begin to form gangs to imitate adults to do things that are not in line with their age, so as to attract adults' attention and play the so-called "growing up"! I don't know how many parents can be awakened by the dying words of a successful father in the film: "I grew up beaten, I don't know how to love others, and my children are learning from me!" " ""Today, Yang died 1. God took a bite of the apple because he loved it so much. So, do adults hurt their children's hearts because they love them too much? "If children are rotten apples, who taught them so badly? In fact, every child has a "bad boy" and a "good boy". As long as the "good boy" is awakened, the child is a top-notch child!
Parents love children too much, but they can't love them too much.
Who hasn't made a mistake? It's great to be able to correct mistakes! Why did Xue Qian, who made a mistake, write in his blog: "Today, Yang died." And then what? What an irrational way to publicly whip a student who has made a mistake! Xue Qian quietly leaned back on the bed, tears streaming down quietly. At this time, the child's heart will be broken ... adults will be angry and say sorry, let alone children? Adults make mistakes sometimes, let alone children. It is good to cut off the rotten parts of rotten apples, but if you throw them away, everything will be over. What a pity!
Adults, you need a key: narrow the shortcomings and enlarge the advantages. However, how many Isabella Chow are there in China? How many Zhou Tingting?
(5) Good boy and bad boy-comment on I'm not stupid.
This is a film that I have been waiting for for a long time. I finally saw this movie the other day, and it really didn't disappoint me. It is precisely because of the hardship of waiting that this film looks really valuable.
First of all, I want to thank my net friend in Beijing. She waited with me and shared the information she collected about Primary 2 with me, which made my boring waiting process full of fun. I would also like to thank the netizens who shared bt seeds online. Their selfless spirit made me see this film for the first time.
Not only is it a series of Children Are Not Stupid, but I also think Liang Zhiqiang's films are very instructive. He always conveys a message and instills an idea to people in an easy-to-understand way. Moreover, his views are very clear, and what he advocates and opposes is clear at a glance. I feel that such a movie is really worth seeing, promoting and hyping. Especially in this commercial times, it is not easy to make some classic films. However, Liang Zhiqiang did it. He inherited the consistent style of his own films and interpreted his understanding of films in his own unique language. You will laugh at his movies, and after laughing, you will find that life is full of examples in movies, but he shows them in an exaggerated way. After watching his movies, you will cry, and after crying, you will reflect. It turns out that there are many people or things that can touch us in reality, but our indifference has imprisoned our feelings.
Frankly speaking, I cried three times when I saw this movie. Maybe some people say you are too fragile. But I don't think so. I think it's a true expression of feelings. We don't need to hold back our tears, because it is really worth our tears. Its plot really touched our hearts and let us sing for it.
I was particularly impressed by a line in the movie, "I am nothing in your eyes, you feel bad about everything I do, and you feel not good enough about everything I do." I think this sentence speaks for us. Nowadays, most parents have only one child. They want their children to succeed and their daughters to succeed, which is understandable, but there are problems in their education methods. They are always demanding of us and always expect us to do better. However, we seldom affirm our achievements. Small 2 is to tell parents how to appreciate their children. The first few paragraphs of this film are very fascinating. "When was the last time you praised others? When was the last time you were praised by others? " ? A long time, right? "I remember a scene where Tom gave his father a repaired notebook. Dad not only didn't thank him, but also blamed him for breaking the computer. I believe many people have had similar experiences. They did a good deed, but instead of being praised, they were blamed. Over time, the gap between the two generations has emerged.
From an interview with Liang Zhiqiang, we learned that it took four years for I'm Not Stupid to be released, because Liang Dao never found a suitable script. As we all know, Little 1 set a box office record in Singapore when it was released, making it the second highest-grossing local film in Singapore's history. Later, it was adapted into a TV series and was familiar to more audiences. The popularity of film and television has made the three little protagonists popular in Southeast Asia. For such a classic film, making his sequel is really a challenge. Compared with Xiao 1, Xiao 2 mainly discusses the communication between children and parents and the education of children. This issue is a hot issue in today's society, not only in Singapore, but also in China. In the words of movies, the door of communication between parents and children has been closed, and a key is needed to open this door. The key is to look at their advantages and less at their shortcomings. In short, it is to appreciate education. Appreciation education was first put forward by Guangdong educator Zhou Hong. Liang Dao appreciated Professor Zhou's appreciation education very much, and inspired by his theory, he finally made what we see now, I'm not stupid. It can be said that I am not stupid and successful. During its release in Singapore, it once again set a new box office record of 1 and won wide acclaim from all walks of life.
Someone asked me, who do you think is the best in Xiao Er? Some people will say that Chuangrui performed well. He vividly explained the process of a child from good to bad, and finally found himself. Some people will say that Jin Jian plays well, and he has successfully created the image of a rebellious teenager. Some people will say that Liang Wenzong acted well. He is lively and lovely, sensible and naughty. But I find this question difficult to answer. Because every actor in the play is excellent, a good movie is the result of the joint efforts of all actors and crew. Apart from the three little actors, what impressed me most was the successful father. He loves his children deeply, but he doesn't know how to express his love. Picking vegetables for children doesn't like them. In order to prevent children from repeating the same mistakes, he opposed becoming a talent and practicing martial arts, and destroyed Bruce Lee's CD, which was resisted by children. In order to express his love for his children, he tried to say I love you, but he succeeded. In order to please the children, I bought them a schoolbag with the only money left in 20 yuan, but the children didn't like it. In order to let the children have books to read, he copied more than 100 applications and sent them to various schools, but they were all rejected. Finally, in order to save the child, he was pushed down the stairs and hurt his head. All these actions of a successful father have placed deep love on his son, but he has never found the key to open the door of his child's heart, so the child didn't really understand his father's good intentions until he was about to leave, but it was too late.
I also found a problem. The series Children Are Not Stupid seems to have been emphasizing the importance of Chinese. As we all know, over 70% of Singaporeans are from China. But among young people in Singapore, more and more people can't speak fluent Chinese, and they usually talk in English. Although Chinese is a compulsory course in primary and secondary schools, it is far less important than English and mathematics. Liang Dao wants to arouse people's enthusiasm for learning Chinese through this film and warn Singaporean Chinese not to forget their ancestors and culture.
I heard for the first time that this film compared a spoiled child to a rotten apple. But I think this metaphor is easy to understand and appropriate. From good apples to rotten apples, it is the result of the interaction between external factors and their own factors, and so is the deterioration of a child. I have been in contact with bad children for a long time, but I can't help but be tempted, and I slowly become bad. But if the apple is broken, can it only be thrown away? In fact, as long as we cut off the bad parts, apples can still be eaten. So are those bad children. Parents and teachers will eventually become good children as long as they are convincing and take appropriate measures to enlighten them.
I quite agree with what Liang Dao said. Every child has good children and bad children. What we have to do is to wake up his inner good boy. But now many parents carry out the education of beating and cursing, which not only fails to wake up the good children on them, but wakes up the bad children on them. The way to wake up good children is to appreciate them and discover their advantages.
After watching this film, I was deeply touched. I believe many people can find their own shadow from the characters in the film. I think this film deserves our attention. We have an obligation to recommend it to more people and look forward to its early release in China.