First of all, there is no heaven in this world. No country or city has shortcomings, neither poverty nor high taxes, but also endless opportunities, unlimited room for growth and endless talent density.

People who like to describe foreign countries as Xanadu mostly stay abroad for a short time, which leads to the relatively simple logic that "the grass there is always greener". For example, when a foreigner comes to China for the first time and sees the convenience brought by mobile payment and O2O, he will think that China is the most convenient country in the world, but that is because the foreigner has never found a job, social security, serious illness or bought a house in China.

So don't listen to people who don't live long, let alone "stories", because stories are easily misunderstood after being exaggerated by the hostility of "China people to foreigners", and people who like to publicize these stories are definitely not objective and rational, so if you really want to know about foreign countries, you should at least travel abroad for a period of time, or talk to some people who have emigrated for many years.

To talk about the problems that immigrants will encounter abroad, the first is the problem of spoken language.

Although China people have a good spoken English among East Asians, when they really go abroad, they will mind a little accent, especially in areas with relatively homogeneous population (such as the central United States). The foundation of language is actually culture. A language with no cultural background, no matter how fluent, just "translates" its own culture into another language.

So the second problem of going abroad is social problems.

Because of different cultural backgrounds, you can't understand any jokes told by local people, which means it will be difficult for you to become friends with local people. This is why, after going abroad, whether you are an international student who has stayed for one year or an old immigrant who has stayed for 20 years, most of your closest circles are people with the same cultural background, which is the same in any immigrant country in the world. In the same way, for ABC, BBC and CBC who are born and raised abroad, their friends will all be locals, no matter whether this local is a 18 generation local or a second generation local like him.

The third problem of immigration is the problem of work and income.

Because the above-mentioned language and cultural problems are difficult for most people who want to emigrate, the immigrant population can only wander in the fields of China restaurants, China supermarkets, China real estate agents, China insurance agents, etc. (of course, selling houses and insurance in places where the rich in China gather can also make a lot of money), or they can only do jobs such as programmers and researchers that do not need to deal with people, but these are aimed at high-end talents. For most ordinary people, the common income channel is to open convenience stores or restaurants. For example, MC Jin, whose parents immigrated to the United States from Hongkong in the early 1980s, opened a Chinese restaurant in Miami, Florida:

MC Jin speaks at TEDx at the University of California, San Diego.

Of course, there are also some people with economic foundation who dream of starting a business abroad or doing some international trade and other business. Although it is difficult, there are many successful cases.

The fourth problem immigrants will encounter is the next generation.

Most immigrants, whether new immigrants or old immigrants, don't want their children to become "American-born Chinese", and some even ask their children to take a year off to study Chinese in China and find their own roots. For many old immigrants, when their children grow up, they will find that the culture absorbed by the next generation is in sharp contrast with their own China culture, which will cause many family conflicts. For example, at what age can a child fall in love, at what age can he take his/her boyfriend/girlfriend home, and whether he/she can smoke and drink outside for the night, including career choice, partner choice and sexual orientation when he/she comes out as an adult. These are the common problems of "China cultural parents+foreign cultural children".

The seriousness of these problems, the potential trauma to family happiness, is no less than the puppy love, college entrance examination, graduate school, employment and marriage discussion that domestic families will face. Only when faced with these problems will there not be such a big "society" around to help parents put pressure on their children and make them obey their parents' wishes. On the contrary, there will be countless examples of "rebellion" abroad that make children want to pursue their own lives, or they can leave their parents reasonably and legally and find their own way out in adulthood. Let the children satisfy their parents' desires or let them find their own happiness, which is something that immigrant parents need to think more than domestic parents.