The father mentioned in this topic is an old gentleman in Beijing, who has been setting up a stall in the park to find a date for his daughter for seven or eight years. His daughter's marriage conditions are also very abnormal: "I can't find one 1.6 meters, no independent house, and the monthly salary is below 2,800, which is big ..."

The reason for this puzzling condition is that the old gentleman's daughter has excellent conditions in all aspects, such as returnees and university professors. Under the careful training of my father, I passed CET-4 at the age of nine. It is precisely because the daughter is so excellent that most men dare not have it. Because most people want to find a wife in order to have children and do housework, but for a university professor who has made great efforts in his studies and career, family is not her whole, and her focus may be more on work.

Father's words also reflect the present situation that senior intellectuals' women are easy to become older women, which is not only the helplessness of these older women, but also the sorrow of society.

For thousands of years, the cultural tradition in China has been that men are superior to women. Even now, the concept is more open, but this concept is still deeply rooted in many people's hearts. Therefore, reflected in mate selection, men generally like to find women with lower education than themselves, while women like to find men with higher education than themselves, or at least men with the same education as their partners. Therefore, it has also caused a social situation in which it is difficult for highly educated women to find suitable targets.

Moreover, since ancient times, China has had the concept of "being suitable for each other" in marriage. Of course, this may be a little narrow to some extent, but it makes sense to think about it carefully. Because if two people have similar family background, growth environment and education level, they are more likely to have the same view, have the same language, and have a higher degree of harmony in living together. If the backgrounds of two people are too far apart, there will be a world of difference in some concepts and too little language, which will easily lead to disharmony in married life.

I deeply understand the father's helplessness, and I sincerely hope that this daughter can find a husband who matches her, instead of really living alone all her life.

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