I am a second-born mother. When I took Dabao, I was always alone. Besides taking care of his daily life, I have to tidy up my house and work (working from home). I am very busy every day, so I have little time to chat with Dabao. Sometimes I can't say a few words a day. In the evening, when dad gets off work, he will babble.
When Dabao was 25 months old, I took him back to his hometown. Compared with his brother's children in his hometown, my Dabao is like a' little mute', playing with his head closed, and sometimes grabbing things without talking. When I came back from my hometown, my mother tugged at me and whispered,' Take the children to see, go to Jinan Hospital, don't take it seriously'. There is no doubt that my mother thinks that Dabao may have language barriers or psychological problems, in short, he is unhealthy.
At first, I firmly believed that Dabao was all right, and I hesitated. Is there really something wrong with Dabao? I didn't take him to Jinan, but went to a friend's early education center. The teacher of the early education center played a few games with Dabao and told me that the child's development was fine, and it was ok to send it directly to the kindergarten in a different language environment, just not to have children at home.
The hanging heart is put down. Sure enough, after being sent to the kindergarten, Dabao's chatterbox opened like a button. Every day, he talks like a machine gun. The teacher responded that the child is also very lively and has strong language skills. It turns out that all my previous worries are unnecessary. He really likes talking.
One day I asked Dabao, why didn't you like to talk before in summer?
He said, mom, I'm just a little scared.
What are you afraid of?
I'm afraid you won't talk to me and ignore me.
His words made me deep in thought. There will always be times when you can't take care of your children. I didn't notice the child's language sensitive period. I didn't answer a word he said to me. Besides, I didn't notice. Slowly, the desire he expressed will be swallowed up by my indifference of "ignoring and not responding", and I begin to think that my needs and expressions are worthless and not needed. It's better to keep quiet and get what I want directly.
In addition, I also reflected on myself, which aspects have not been done well, leading to such a situation for children.
As a half-time mother, I am immersed in my work every day, and my children play by themselves every day. Our communication is limited to eating and changing diapers. In the long run, he will only come to me when he is hungry, and he usually plays with small blocks and toys by himself.
When I take Dabao, I seldom go out because of my work. Being bored at home for a long time, let alone children, even adults will become more and more withdrawn. Once I stayed indoors for 3 months, I felt that the sunshine coming in through the curtains smelled moldy. At that time, I was at a low point in my career, looking forward to staying at home for a long time and refusing to contact with the outside world, let alone my children.
Non-verbal information has a great influence on children aged 0-3. Although children in this period don't understand language and reason, they can judge the environment through people's expressions, postures, intonation and intonation, and they are easily influenced by the external environment emotionally. -Excerpted from "Childcare Psychology that Mothers at the Age of 0-3 Must Know"
So how should parents guide their children who have just learned English? It is important to sum up these points.
Talk to your child more, even if he doesn't understand.
In fact, when the baby is still young, you should talk to him more. Although he may not speak or understand much, parents can stimulate the baby's language development and improve the parent-child relationship in the process of talking with their children. Any harmonious parent-child relationship is not established silently, and communication is absolutely the first condition.
Show it to the children.
According to the Regulations on Kindergarten Work, the daily outdoor activities of full-time kindergartens shall not be less than 2 hours.
Usually, taking the baby out for a walk and showing him the outside world will not only help his physical development, but also cultivate his sentiment and cultivate his artistic thinking ability through more contact with nature, killing two birds with one stone. The most important thing is to meet more people and things and make a group of good friends. In their enthusiastic communication, children can have a preliminary understanding of society and learn more languages. Growing up in the family atmosphere is completely different from the outside world. Obviously, in group activities or games, children can release their nature more and are more willing to express themselves.
Listen to the child carefully.
In Catch the Sensitive Period of Children, Teacher Sun Ruixue said: Children's language is different from that of adults. We have always asked teachers and parents to listen to their children's voices, let them make all the disputes clear, and ask adults to communicate with their children with higher heart and spirit.
Every child's expression is an exploration of the outside world. If parents can respond positively every time a child speaks and understand what the child is saying, he will be more willing to express it. There is another meaning of "listening" to the child's words, that is, don't interrupt at will, let alone tell him the result. This will stifle his desire for expression and make him a qualified listener. Children will fall in love with talking and be good at expressing themselves in words.
Do interesting things together.
With children, there are many interesting things, as long as you and children like them, that is the most fun. For example, building blocks with children and exercising their hands-on ability can also help children find a "big friend" with similar interests. You build a castle and he builds a dollhouse. In the process of playing games, there will naturally be more communication, and the chatterboxes will be opened.
In short, every child's growth experience is different. Parents should not be too tough and label him unnecessarily. In the process of children learning to speak slowly, companionship is very important. Accompanied by his parents, he will deal with his inner imbalance and insecurity by himself. You should know that every child is unique. If you guide him, he will develop healthily.