There is a novice in the mother group. Come up and shout three times. I can't stand it! It turns out that this mother with a 3-month-old baby has been tortured to collapse by her "demanding" baby. According to her description, the baby not only needs her to squat with the baby in her arms, or to nurse, sing and shake, but also to sleep for 10 minutes, no more. My mother-in-law came to see it and told her, "It must be that the child is uncomfortable, or there is something wrong with the way you take care of the baby." Lack of sleep and self-doubt made her almost depressed after delivery.

This is not sensational. I have a best friend who has experienced such a chicken fly a dog jump in the first three years. Until now, her daughter, who is already in primary school, still cries. Mothers can't help but ask: Why do other people's children sleep when they are full, and they can have fun by giving them a melon? And my own baby wants to hang on his body and hug, but he always cries 1 or 2 hours? Is there something wrong with the way you take care of your baby, or is it difficult to take care of your child?

There used to be a saying that a baby is a blank sheet of paper, and his whole character is shaped by the way he grew up. However, child psychologists have found through a series of studies that babies have their own attributes. Therefore, it is really not up to parents to decide whether to take care of children or not. It can be said that "three points are destiny takes a hand, and seven points depend on hard work." So what temperament types do babies have? In the documentary "The Fantasy World of North Nose", scientists revealed the baby's personality to us through carefully designed experiments.

1, excited baby

Just like Daniel in the documentary, he was very happy when he saw that the toy dog could "walk", and Bao Qiang was such an excitable child. With a little stimulation, you can get excited instantly. This made us afraid to make eye contact before he went to bed. If he is bored, he will cry.

2. Pacify the baby

In the documentary, whether it is a clown who suddenly jumps out or a walking toy dog, baby Logan looks calm. The "angel baby" in the eyes of many mothers is probably a calm baby. My best friend Xiaoyue is lucky to get a suitable angel baby. She doesn't like crying, she goes to bed after eating milk, listens to music quietly, or looks at the little doll, and she can laugh out loud, which makes it almost impossible for her to exist.

3, cautious baby

Compared with excited babies and calm babies, cautious babies will be very anxious when they encounter external stimuli. For example, biased Levia will still cry when she sees a walking puppy toy for the second time. This kind of baby has slow fever, is difficult to adapt to strange environment and is very sensitive to threats. So in the eyes of mom and dad, it may be the "grinding demon" who loves to cry and stays awake.

If a cautious baby happens to be highly sensitive, then the first few years should be a very difficult process for the mother. A best friend told me that after her highly sensitive baby was born, she would cry as soon as she heard the sound of cooking, and she would wake up immediately when she fell asleep, even if it was across the room. In the first year of her daughter's birth, the family had to give up cooking.

Under my answer, many mothers say that children are too difficult to take care of: they can't eat well, sleep well and stick to people. But "highly sensitive" babies bring not only troubles to their parents, but also many "godsend" gifts.

First of all, highly sensitive babies have the ability of deep processing.

In the early education class in Bao Qiang, there was a little girl who was always "half a beat slower" than others. The teacher has entered the next activity. She is still studying the toys in her hand, and her mother always urges her. In an art class, almost all the children finished the content, and she was still painting there. But when I watched it before, I was directly shocked by the perspective relationship presented in her picture.

In fact, this is the power of a highly sensitive baby. She is slow because her brain has been processing a lot of information. Think more and think deeper than other children.

Secondly, highly sensitive babies have strong ability to handle details.

Don't underestimate this observation ability, whether it is scientific research, psychological analysis or literary creation, it is inseparable from this "detail handling" ability. If we can make good use of it, it is hard to say whether the child will have extraordinary achievements.

Finally, the inner world of highly sensitive babies is richer.

Just because I don't like too noisy environment and too complicated interpersonal communication. A lot of energy is spent on observation and thinking. Highly sensitive babies can form their own inner world very early, and do not need to rely too much on social interaction and other people's evaluation. On the one hand, such children are more likely to become themselves than to be influenced by the outside world. On the other hand, when the world is presented, it may be a great artistic creation.

Hong Chen has something to say:

Mencius said: "If heaven wants to achieve great things, it must first suffer its mind, its bones and muscles, its body and skin, and do whatever it wants." Although a naturally sensitive baby has so many powerful attributes, he does face various problems in the process of growing up, such as social difficulties and emotional control. So his parents also need to accept their children and adapt to their characters when they grow up.