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Confident children will be happier, more independent and more likely to succeed. How to cultivate children's self-confidence? Usually parents think that just praising their children can cultivate their self-confidence. Is it true?/You don't say. So what is the more enlightening new method?

Self-confidence is one of the most important qualities of children. We compare the traditional methods of cultivating children's self-confidence with the more enlightening new methods. Parents will find that the current education pays more attention to cultivating children's role as social people and their ability to get along with others.

1. Traditional method: full of praise.

Children's education experts have always insisted that there is no such thing as excessive praise in children's education. If your 3-year-old shows you a hand-painted painting, you can give him full marks and tell him that the painting is great. If this painting is not his best, you can at least find an angle and say something encouraging: "This blue is very good. ! "

New method: it is not appropriate to praise too much, but it should be justified.

Praise after praise makes people feel empty and boring, even for children. Sincere praise is far better than perfunctory praise. If the child has made great efforts for something, you should give praise and encouragement. You don't need to praise him if he didn't do it. You should not only praise your child's work, but also praise his efforts to achieve his goals, and teach him that hard work will eventually pay off. Compared with empty praise, such information is easier to help children build self-confidence.

2. Traditional method: Criticism will stifle children's self-confidence.

Children's education experts used to think that criticism would hurt children's self-confidence. They always tell their parents, "If you can't find any encouragement, you'd better say nothing." People who have been severely reprimanded by their parents since childhood are more willing to accept such advice after becoming parents. However, the latest research results show that there is a huge difference between criticism that hurts self-esteem and the truth of love.

New method: Tell your child the truth with sincere concern.

If a five-year-old child shows you a thank-you letter he wrote to his grandmother, and you find that the words on the letter are very scribbled, you should not just say, "What is this?" Take it back and rewrite it. "You can tell him gently:" The words on it are not the most beautiful words you wrote. I have seen your handwriting more beautiful. Why not write a more beautiful one? "Seeking truth from facts can win the trust of children. Expressing the actual situation in a euphemistic way can encourage children to make greater efforts in doing things.

3. Traditional methods: The more opportunities for self-expression, the easier it is to cultivate children's self-esteem.

The old saying "Don't interrupt when adults are talking" has been overturned. Some experts tell parents that children should be encouraged to express their true thoughts. Some people even allow children to say such things, such as "I am not a fool" and "you are a big fool". They think there is nothing wrong with letting children express their feelings. However, if children are allowed to express their ideas at will (regardless of any consequences), they will feel that they have great autonomy and feel insecure.

New methods: Some ways of self-expression will hurt others-and bring harm to yourself.

If you hear a child say something unfriendly or impolite, you should resolutely stop it, even if he is angry and sad at the time. Never make excuses for your child ("He did it because he felt wronged" or "He was too tired and hungry to control his emotions". Instead, you should point out your child's mistakes. For example, you can say, "You are so rude." You should tell your child that you don't want to hear him speak in such a tone in the future, and then end this discussion. This kind of education will not hurt children's self-esteem. In fact, in this way, children will gradually overcome the problem of emotional out of control and enhance their sense of security.

4. Traditional methods: let children make their own choices and enhance their self-awareness.

The basis of this traditional educational concept is that when you let your child tell the little things that happened in his life, he will be more confident in making his own decisions. This is not entirely correct, because it is easy for children to get carried away. Many parents now have to listen patiently to their children count every little thing that happens around them.

New method: Limited choices can make the world children live in more real.

In fact, there are no infinite possibilities in life. You can't make a choice about everything that happens around you, and learn to deal with the big and small things that appear on the road of life, even if these things make you feel unhappy, which helps to cultivate children's optimistic and understanding attitude towards life. If you let your child decide everything in his life-when to finish school, whether to eat snacks before meals, and what TV programs to watch-then you help your child cultivate not self-esteem, but a sense of privilege.

5. traditional method: explain the child's experience.

Many parents have this understanding, and it is necessary for them to explain clearly to their children why they want him to do this and that. Experts believe that if parents don't simply guide their children, it will help them cultivate their self-awareness. But sometimes it is difficult for parents to explain the importance of something to their children. Moreover, explanations and excuses will make children feel at a loss and can't tell which is more important. Because the future world is complex and changeable, this kind of education will breed irritability, not self-confidence.

New method: Sometimes, you just give orders, which is nothing wrong.

When a child asks you, "Why should I do this?" You can occasionally answer him like this: "Because I am your parent, I said you have to do this. I'll tell you why later. " Such an answer will make children understand that sometimes they have to do something, and they don't have to understand why. Eventually, children will find that what you ask them to do is reasonable. There are many such things, and the child will gradually understand that he can trust his favorite adult, that is, you, because you think about him all the time.

6. Traditional method: The more capable a child is, the more confident he will be.

According to this educational concept, the earlier children get in touch with various activities, the earlier they will be enlightened. As a result, parents let their children listen to Mozart's music before they are born, let them watch educational videos through the crib fence, and take them to various training classes as soon as they go to kindergarten. A generation of children who grew up in this environment are busy all day, and they even need PDA to arrange their activities.

New methods: less participation in activities and more contact with society.

When children's schedules are full, they may be perfunctory about various activities, and you may eventually try to interfere with children's lives instead of sharing a happy life with them. All kinds of logistics work, picking up children from school and helping them check all kinds of electrical appliances will occupy your life. In fact, keeping the child around does not help to cultivate his self-esteem, but alienates him from others. Therefore, parents had better lighten their children's heavy burden and let them have more time to enjoy the fun of family life. Children will feel relaxed physically and mentally, and you can also feel happy from it. In this way, the relationship between you and your child becomes more harmonious, and this bond of love is the basis for cultivating your child's self-confidence