Pay special attention to the troubles and confusion of stay-at-home mothers
After graduating from college, Ms. Hong and her husband successfully run an IT company. Now, as a full-time wife, she is actively preparing to have a second child. Thinking of becoming a full-time mother, she said beautifully, "I want to enjoy every day of growing up with my children."
With the development of society and the improvement of economic strength, some well-educated professional women in large and medium-sized cities choose to be full-time mothers in stages to accompany their children to grow up after they get married and have children. This practice is in line with the viewpoint of modern educational psychology, that is, children need to establish good family relations with their parents before the age of 3. If this relationship is not well established, it will affect the establishment of children's sense of security throughout their lives, which is manifested in low emotional intelligence in social interaction, seriously affecting children's personal career and happiness and future family harmony.
A full-time mother required by modern society is responsible for cultivating a child with social viability and healthy personality. It is different from the role of traditional housewives. First of all, it requires mothers to have good psychological quality, master children's psychological and educational common sense, and at the same time have the self-study ability of extensive knowledge and skills, and can act as nutritionists, psychological nurses, teachers and playmates during the critical period of children's growth from 0 to 3 years old.
After a period of investigation, the reporter found that because the construction of our family, community culture, early education institutions and psychological assistance institutions is still in its infancy, we can do nothing about the psychological needs of stay-at-home mothers who are eager for assistance. The stage psychological confusion of these people deserves the attention of relevant departments.
Can't bear the burden of being a full-time mother
2-year-old stinky is difficult to finish a 45-minute early education class quietly, and often screams and cries for no reason. At this time, the quiet classroom immediately sounded the impatient reprimand of the young smelly mother, and the scene of the child crying and shouting was repeated over and over again. Every time, the teacher came quietly and led the mother and daughter out of the classroom.
The reporter learned that the smelly mother has been taking care of her children by herself. She said: "My personality will not take the initiative to contact others, and my former colleagues are also more negligent. My life is boring, and I often get into emotional entanglements with my children. Adults and children are suffering, and it is difficult to get rid of them.
Yiyi's mother used to be an accountant and became a full-time mother after giving birth to her daughter at the age of 40. The 2-year-old Yi Yi has a good physical and mental development index and is a smart person that everyone likes. Yi Ma has no life at all. She never dresses herself up. Taking children out is often considered as her grandmother or nanny. She is worried: "Now the society is developing so fast, can I still adapt to the workplace when my children are older?" Only her husband works, so she spends money carefully. Now, Xiaoyi enters the shopping mall with her mother, as long as she hears her mother say, "This thing is too expensive!" " "Put down what you have at once and leave. A kindergarten teacher said that for a 2-year-old child, Yiyi's mother instilled some adult rules into the child too early, which was too heavy a burden for the child.
In fact, many stay-at-home mothers are confused about re-entering the workplace in the future, because their body and mind have not grown up with their children, and passive companionship is often absent-minded, which makes them feel more tired at home than at work. They just don't get enough sleep every day, eat casually, and have no emotional dressing and socializing.
Psychological problems of stay-at-home mothers
Fangfang's parents are a pair of architects. Fangfang's early memories are the rough and simple upbringing of her parents. She hated her past experience, and discussed with her husband as soon as she got married, and she would take care of the children in the future. Therefore, once I got pregnant, I specially bought a house for my parents in Guangzhou, and sent the elderly to live a retirement life, so as not to let them intervene in the child's support.