The idiom "Practice makes perfect" is probably known to all women and children. Everything is difficult at the beginning because it is unfamiliar, but with experience, many people will find it easier. But is everything like this? Not necessarily. I often hear Ma Bao say that the second child is more difficult to discipline than Dabao, and you don't have to have experience to raise a child.

0 1 With a second child, why is the second child always more difficult to manage than the boss? Huang Lei broke his heart by crying about his personal experience.

Huang Duoduo, who entered the audience's field of vision from the variety show "Where is Dad?", captured the hearts of many fans at once. She may be the ideal daughter of her parents, clever and sensible, and she doesn't have to worry about her parents at all.

Everyone knows that Dodo is Huang Lei's eldest daughter. With such a sister, the sister should not be ignorant, but the fact has subverted the concept of most people. Compared with Dodo, Mei Duo is a headache for Huang Lei and his wife. Difficult to discipline, like killing people, willful, even Huang Lei, who is smart and wise, cried about his personal experience: he is so witty that sometimes he doesn't even say much to his sister. Once Huang Lei took his sister to buy sandals. After seeing a pair she liked, she insisted on buying it, but refused to wear it after she bought it home. Huang Lei had to educate her not to make a decision in a hurry.

Unexpectedly, Mei Duo said smartly: "Then I will marry the prince, and the prince will buy it for me!" "Huang Lei is really in distress situation, such things are more common in daily life. Compared with Huang Duoduo, it is not so difficult to deal with.

Why is there such a big difference between the same parent and two children?

In fact, the second child's personality is very different and has a great relationship with his parents. The boss is the first child, and his parents are inexperienced. They have conducted in-depth research on children's discipline and educated them step by step according to what they have learned. Of course, the children they teach are more obedient and sensible. However, after giving birth to a second child, most parents relaxed a lot because of the experience of giving birth to a child. Naturally, the second child is more difficult to discipline than the boss.

In addition, Bauer has been accompanied and loved by his brother and sister since he was born. Some parents often let Dabao give up Bauer, which also planted a subconscious mind of "I can make a scene" in Bauer's heart. In such a family atmosphere, Dabao will be more patient and Bauer will be more naughty.

Bauer is naughty, which is often inseparable from these reasons.

Children don't feel the attention of their parents.

When the boss was born, he was the only child of his parents. His parents attach great importance to him. When he reaches a certain age, they can confirm that their parents love him. Even if they have a second child, they can't compete for love. On the contrary, I am more clever and sensible, and I am willing to play with my younger brothers and sisters. But the second child is different. Even if his parents dote on the boss, he will still pay attention to him, so he can hardly feel the absolute attention of his parents, so he will unconsciously hope to get more attention from his parents. If they have a third child, it will be even more exaggerated.

The second child is smarter than the boss.

This is a situation that many treasure mothers can find. Many second children are smarter than the boss. First, parents have educational experience and know what to teach their children and what not to teach them. The education quality of the second child is better than that of the eldest. Secondly, the boss is actually constantly educating the second child with his own ideas, more like the early education teacher of the second child. The boss keeps groping, and the second learns from the experience directly, which makes the second one smarter than the boss, and gets more love at the same time, which will be more difficult to discipline.

Advantages of mixed-age friends circle

For the boss, he was an only child at birth. All his growth is to adapt to his age, and what will happen at any age will not change. But the second child is different. They have the advantage of a mixed-age circle of friends. They grew up with their brothers and sisters, and they can learn a lot from childhood, whether it is good or bad, so the excellent aspects of the second child will be highlighted, and the aspects that are difficult to discipline will also be highlighted.

04 intimate words

For parents, every child is the treasure in their hearts, but they are also independent individuals with different personalities, and it is impossible to discipline them in the same way. Therefore, even parents should teach students in accordance with their aptitude. Their parents should give them equal love.