I think (most men probably think so), it should have been a happy thing. Mothers can continue to struggle in the workplace, earn milk powder money and pursue self-worth without working 24 hours a day, 365 days a week. And old people can also find fun teasing their grandchildren.
However, I never imagined that the parenting experience of the older generation made many mothers vomit frequently and collapsed. ...
Learn to walk
MengMeng's mother said that when her daughter was only six months old, the old man took the initiative to buy a walker and tried to teach the child to walk. According to the materials consulted by Mamun, children have to wait at least ten months before they can enter the toddler stage.
I can't bear to hurt the enthusiasm of the elderly to teach children, but I'm worried that teaching children to walk early is harmful. I can only tell the old man by innuendo, "there is no hurry to learn to walk." Unexpectedly, the old man also earnestly advised her that children should not lose at the starting line, and it is better to learn early than late!
Learning to walk is very important for children, but walking in a hurry will have a negative impact on children's health. The child's bones are growing and developing. From ten months to one year old, the child's bone development is enough to support the baby to learn to walk. If people learn to walk too early, children are likely to become X-shaped or O-shaped legs because of heavy physical burden.
In addition, don't let a baby who is only a few months old stand on an adult's lap or jump on the sofa. Don't tell me this is because the baby likes it. If adults don't work so hard, the baby won't think of jumping on adults' legs. This method is very bad for small-month-old babies, and it is likely to affect their leg development.
About half of the babies learn to walk around 12 months. It is normal for a baby to learn to walk as long as it is between 10 and 15 months.
At the same time, children should avoid using auxiliary props such as "walker" when learning to walk. A walker can't help your baby learn to walk, but it will delay your baby's normal motor development. At the same time, there are some hidden dangers in the walker.
The best way is to let the baby learn to crawl skillfully first, and then step by step by standing, walking and walking alone. Let children exercise the coordination ability of leg muscles and limbs and lay a good foundation for walking.
If the family really wants to buy a toddler tool for their baby, they can consider buying a sturdy four-wheeled vehicle or a stroller to ensure that the car will not tip over when the child leans on his own weight. When the baby just learned to walk, it was still unstable and needed to hold the cart. (Adults are watching) If the cart is too light and easy to fall over, it will bring harm to the baby.
fat
For the elderly at home, whether the baby is big and strong is simply a top priority. Yang Yang's mother has a headache when she mentions "the child's weight", because her old man cares too much about the child's height and weight!
Old people taking their children for a walk in the community are inevitably compared with children in the same community. Yang Yang's parents are not tall, and Yang Yang was born too young, which looks a little smaller than other children of the same age. Every time I compare with other people's children, I am anxious to go home and make up for my grandson.
Yang Yang's mother is very helpless, because her son eats a lot, his physical quality is not bad, and he seldom gets sick. But in the eyes of old people, children are either fat or unhealthy, and it is so annoying to be compared with other children.
Therefore, every meal will always feed Yang Yang to the full, and even entice Yang Yang to eat more by buying toys, riding a rocking car, giving sugar and other conditions. Sometimes, in order to feed more, he can chase the children for an hour. In the face of the kindness of the old man, Yangyang's mother finally made a statement.
Tell the truth, it's really bad for children to eat too much! Weight is not the only criterion to measure a child's health. Simply trying to increase children's weight will make children eat too much nutrition, but it will lead to a series of problems. The direct consequence of overnutrition is that children are obese, which is favorable evidence for many parents to "take good care of their children", but it will increase the risk of children suffering from diabetes, hypertension, coronary heart disease, heart disease, stroke and other diseases in adulthood.
Just concerned about whether children are fatter than other children, it is better to spend some time on children's nutrition collocation to see if the nutrition is balanced, so that children's growth is more balanced and healthy.
Food supplement
How can children eat healthily? This question has been debated with the old man for a long time. In the view of grandma blossoming, children should add complementary food earlier, and the diversification of diet will help children grow up healthily. Drinking milk alone is definitely not enough!
However, blossoming mothers insist on scientific feeding methods and refuse to add complementary food to their children too early, so as not to burden their children's intestines and stomach. Duoduo's mother and grandmother quarreled several times. When Duoduo's mother was not at home, grandma would definitely get some rice paste and stewed eggs for Duoduo for more than three months. ...
And Doudou Ma said that she and the elderly are also very helpless about the difference in their children's diet. Old people have a strong taste when eating, and they especially like to add a lot of salt when making complementary food for their children.
Doudou's mother told the old people again and again that it is healthier for children to eat light food, but the old people think that only something with taste can help children taste buds and improve their appetite.
When Doudou's mother was away, the old man gave the child white water with salt, and quietly got some bacon sausages and big fat meat for the child, saying that it was "appetizing for the baby and ending the meat".
What makes Doudou's mother helpless most is that the child has no appetite and only eats porridge when he is sick. Old people are afraid that children will lose their appetite. Salted duck eggs and pickled radishes are all for children! It's no use arguing with Doudou's mother. She said helplessly: If this continues, it seems that she can only resign as a "full-time cook" for her children.
Adding complementary food prematurely will cause a great burden on the baby's stomach. The infant's immature stomach can't handle all kinds of food, and many digestive enzymes don't start to work until about 6 months. If you take complementary food too early, it will make your child indigestion and even allergies.
In terms of food intake, children under 1 year old do not add sugar or salt. Children above/kloc-0 should adhere to a light diet with less salt. The baby can get enough sodium from food every day, and no extra salt is needed within 1 year.
In daily life, such as bean paste, yellow sauce, pickled vegetables, pickled cucumbers, fermented bean curd, pickled mustard tuber, salted duck eggs, salted fish, bacon, etc., should also be avoided for babies. These foods are high in sodium and should be avoided for babies.
urinate
The "contradiction" between Bao Xiao's mother and the previous generation is about the treatment of children's urine. From Bao Xiao's point of view, children should be given urine as soon as possible, thinking that using diapers is harmful to children's development!
After listening to some parenting lectures, mom learned that children don't need to urinate prematurely, and diapers have no effect on their genitals, so just let nature take its course.
The old man insisted on feeding Bao Xiao, who is over/kloc-0 months old, so that Bao Xiao's mother could do the same. Although all this is for the good of children, Bao Xiao's mother feels that there are more and more contradictions caused by different ideas. ......
/kloc-about 0/8 months, the child's sphincter and kidney gradually mature, which is a suitable time to enter toilet training. Buy a small toilet for the baby and guide the baby to sit on his own pony bucket.
If the child is forced to practice defecation prematurely, forced defecation will cause the child's body to reject and cry. At the same time, the failure of training is also easy to make children feel psychologically frustrated. Because it is not easy to grasp the timing of urinating, it is difficult to urinate many times or for a long time (you can't put it down without urinating). Over time, the pressure around the baby will increase, causing certain damage to the delicate sphincter.
There are also some traditional "parenting classics", which are amazing and make young mothers laugh and cry! For example, children are not allowed to eat tofu because my husband had a fever when he was a child; The child is ill, so be sure to hang up the water. No matter how minor the illness is, he has to go to a small clinic to get an injection and hang water. Children are allergic to protein, but they have to boil some eggs for them. No matter how hot the weather is, wrap the child in three layers of clothes, whether the child sweats or not. ...
Some mothers couldn't stand the gap between the previous two generations, and finally resigned with tears, saying: children still have to take care of themselves.
In the conflict of bringing a baby every other generation, the mother felt very distressed and the old man felt very sad. Everyone feels that they love their children very much and have done a lot for their families, but it has always evolved into a "parenting war" or even a "contradiction between the two generations."
But dear mothers, Dao G thinks that if you choose Separate child care, you should learn to be resourceful, be flexible, focus on the general direction of parenting, and "delegate authority" appropriately. For example, make it clear to the elderly that the above principles about children's health are absolutely insurmountable; There are other things that you can turn a blind eye to, so don't be too haggle over every ounce.
After all, the old man took on the "heavy responsibility of taking care of children" out of kindness. Most old people should have enjoyed a leisurely life at retirement age, but they did not hesitate to "return to the battlefield", and even left their homes for the first time in their lives, just to reduce the burden on young people.
Then, can we understand that they are just used to replacing science with experience, not really stubborn; Can you convince them with professional and scientific parenting videos, expert lectures, and scientific parenting WeChat official account? Is this how you were brought up when you were a child? Can we be less critical and more grateful and appreciative?