With the development of society and the progress of the times, technetium education for children has increasingly become a top priority for society and families. How to cultivate children into talents with sound personality, love of life, ideals and culture in the new era is also a serious issue before everyone. Below I will talk about my personal superficial experience on how to educate children and communicate with them sincerely. First, learn to appreciate. The concept of appreciation is to know and appreciate your children from a new angle. In fact, the deepest needs of all children are the same as those of all adults, and the most essential desire of human nature is to be appreciated by others. From the day the child was born, he came to this new world as a brand-new and independent individual. He needs to learn to stand on his own feet, learn to be strong, and learn many strange things in this world. Like Mao Zedong, Newton and Einstein, every child can become a genius because he has great potential in life. My son is twelve years old this year, and the book has reached the first grade of junior high school. As a father, I have always admired and praised him during his twelve years of growth. I think the road to growth is like a runway and a battlefield. Parents should shout "Come on, work hard" for him with a kind of expectation and encouragement. Even if he falls down a thousand times, I firmly believe that he will stand up a thousand times. I firmly believe that my son is the cleverest and strongest. I never said my son was stupid. Because when parents say that children are stupid at first, children will defend them with their young self-esteem. When they are just able to speak and understand, they have formed strong but fragile self-confidence in their hearts. But with the deepening of the concept of "stupid", children will gradually begin to believe that they are stupid. From the moment he believes that he is stupid, his eyes will suddenly dim, and his behavior and thinking will lose vitality. The teacher only needs to make a topic and say, "Students, this topic is a bit complicated. Let's think about it. " His first emotional reaction will be: I will definitely not do this question because I am stupid! What a dangerous signal to spread to children! I firmly believe that my son is unique. For his progress in different aspects, even a little, I will give him a thumbs-up and say, "Son, you are great!" " "I remember it was two years ago. He saw many children skating in the skating rink. His son's mischievous nature made him eager to try, but he was afraid of falling. I encouraged him to say, "since other children can learn, of course you can." Don't be afraid to fall. You can get up by yourself if you fall. "In this way, he gradually recovered his confidence in falling, from slow to fast, from forward to backward, and then played a lot of skating tricks. If I say to my son, "What do you study? Can you learn to skate because you are so stupid? "As a result, it is conceivable that he will be depressed and depressed in the feeling of being stupid forever. One more thing, my son is so old that I have never hit him. If the school teacher conducts a parent assessment and asks parents who have never beaten their children to raise their hands, I will definitely be the first one and will not hesitate. My practice seems to be contrary to the traditional educational concept and mode of the present society. Because our traditional practice is: a dutiful son is born under the stick, and you can't defeat the instrument unless you fight it. There is even a saying that hitting children in rainy days is idle. I often hear some parents beat their children and say, "I'll see who cares." " !" The tense atmosphere seems to be class struggle. Either the east wind overrides the west wind, or the west wind overrides the east wind. China's father-son relationship, which lasted for thousands of years, left a deep-rooted influence on people's minds. A legitimate reason is that it is natural for parents to beat and scold their children from generation to generation ... but as a father, I will always reflect. What are the consequences of your hitting the child? What can only be destroyed is the dignity and self-confidence of the child! I think this kind of education is not as good as a farmer's attitude towards crops. Farmers will never demand their own grain output, but pay more attention to the way they grow crops. Put it in a popular way: how farmers treat their crops determines their fate. How parents treat their children will also determine their fate! Second, self-confidence is the mother of success. There is a saying that failure is the mother of success. Failure is indeed valuable, and I think it is also a necessary feeling in life to treat it with more sincerity in failure. In order to let my son build up his self-confidence, although I didn't take great pains, I still have deep feelings in my heart. My son began to like playing billiards in May this year. He thinks he is the best among his peers, and my level is naturally far above him. But in order to cultivate his hobby and self-confidence, I deliberately lost him a few games first, and then occasionally won him another game, teaching him how to hit the ball in actual billiards and making him as patient and meticulous as an exam. After several months of training, I won't let him play a game now, but my son can win three games in a row, which shows that his mentality and skills can also play well, and also makes him understand that the competition in the future society will be cruel, and only by his own efforts can he win bit by bit. Third, study happily. Speaking of this topic, I want to say at first that many people think that learning is a painful process, and people are also struggling painfully, then failing, struggling again, and failing again ... but if we think about it from another angle, why can't we think that this is a happy life? Experience a happy failure, then stand up in happiness and enjoy the failure. If there is no failure, it is smooth sailing, and everything is beautiful and boring! I told my son that geniuses always regard learning as a game, so they are crazy and committed to finding happiness in this game. Every weekend with my son, I always ask him: Are you nervous about your studies? Is it stressful? My son's answer always makes me happy: I'm not nervous. The short three words reflect the son's attitude towards learning. I just want to try my best to be a qualified son and father, so that he can find his own learning value in his study and learn to care for his life and feelings. 100 is important? Does the first place matter? I never ask him to get a hundred points every time, and he must get the first place every time. Just try your best What does 60 points stand for? Pass the exam. If you are a product in the factory, you are qualified and can leave the factory. So you don't need to spend all your energy on ranking competition. If you get the second place, you have to be the first. If you get 99 points, you will get 100 points. It is not enough to get 100 points at a time. If you have to get a score of 100 once, you will return to the first place, which will bring you endless pressure and make you unhappy in your study. In fact, seeking knowledge is the greatest happiness in life. If you only know the exam results and the first place all day, then your process of seeking knowledge will become an endless torment. So I have been instilling in my son the idea of turning learning into a happy demand and learning happily. As long as you work hard and study happily, I will also give you a thumbs up: son, you are great! Fourth, always be friends with children. People will have many friends in their life. If you are abstract, you can even regard work and study as your friends. When I was a child, I read a comic book. I still remember the sentence about friends: friends are people who won't give up on you when you are in trouble. You may not remember him many years later, but he still silently blesses and prays for you in his heart. I think the best communication with children is to treat him as a friend, encourage him and appreciate him, but you can also criticize him. You should criticize him on the premise of "respecting and being friends". Reminders and criticisms from good friends are precious gifts in life, and children will be happy to accept this gift with gratitude.