Seeing Seven Years Old at Three Years Old is a book written by Zhu Wenjun and published by Yanbian University Press. It is a proverb left over from ancient China, which vividly describes the general law of children's psychological development. It refers to the psychological characteristics and personality tendency of children at the age of three, and the embryonic form of their psychological and personality image can be seen when they grow up. From birth to three years old, it is called infancy, which is the fastest period for children's physical and psychological development. ?
According to modern educational theory, 3 years old and 7 years old are two important joints for children's growth and development. Montessori, a famous Italian educator, said: "The first three years of life are better than all the later stages of development, and the sum of the three years is until death." Every word of the great educator is reasonable, because from the normal brain development of children, his brain development is at a great peak before the age of 3.
When a baby is born, his brain weighs about 370 grams. In the first year after that, his brain gained the fastest weight. At the age of 6 months, his brain weight was twice that at birth, accounting for 50% of the adult brain weight, while the child's weight did not reach 50% of the adult until 10 years old. It can be seen that the child's brain development greatly exceeded the speed of physical development before the age of 3. Therefore, the peak stage of intellectual development is before the age of 3. ?
China has had such a saying since ancient times: "Look at the old at the age of 3, look at the old at the age of 7", which simply and clearly summarizes the general law of children's psychological development. From the psychological characteristics and personality tendency of a 3-year-old child, we can see the embryonic form of the child's adolescent psychology and personality image; From the 7-year-old child, we can see his achievements and achievements after middle age. ?
Although 3 and 7 years old were only approximate figures in ancient times, they have been proved to be very reasonable by modern science and technology. Casbi, a professor at the Institute of Psychiatry in London, once reported that the words and deeds of 3-year-old children can predict their adult character. This report provides strong evidence for the statement that "three years old looks big" and once caused a worldwide sensation.
From 65438 to 0980, Professor Casbi and a psychiatrist from King's College London interviewed 1000 3-year-old children. According to the interview results, these children are divided into five categories: self-confidence, adaptability, reticence, self-discipline and restlessness. In 2003, when the children were 26 years old, Casbi and other psychiatrists interviewed them again and conducted a detailed investigation through their friends and relatives. The results are as follows:
Children who are considered "full of confidence" account for 28%. When they were young, they were lively, enthusiastic and extroverted. As adults, they are cheerful, strong and decisive, and have a strong desire to lead. ?
40% of children are classified as "well adapted". At that time, they showed self-confidence and self-control and were not easily upset. At the age of 26, their personalities are still the same. ?
Children who were classified as "taciturn" accounted for 8%, the lowest proportion. Nowadays, they are more inclined to hide their feelings than the average person, unwilling to influence others and afraid to do anything that may lead to their injuries. ? 10% of children are classified as "fidgeting", which is mainly manifested in negative behavior and distraction. Now these people are more easily upset and angry than others. People who are familiar with them say that they are unrealistic, narrow-minded, nervous and antagonistic. ?
And 14% children with "self-restraint" have basically the same personality when they grow up. It can be seen that 3 years old is an important stage of children's growth. Child psychologists and educators call the period from birth to 3 years old as infancy, which is the fastest period of children's physical and psychological development. In addition, they also found the following growth laws:?
1. Personality: A child's adult personality has basically formed before the age of 3, and it has not changed much after the age of 3; ?
2. IQ: Children's brain cells have completed 60% before the age of 3, and children's brains in this period have strong absorption ability; ?
3. Learning: Before the age of 3, it is the most sensitive period in the formation of children's feelings, memories and thinking. Learning activities before the age of 3 will get twice the result with half the effort. ?
4. Height: Before the age of 3, it is the most critical stage for children's height development, and the damage caused to height before the age of 3 can never be made up. ?
Child psychologists and educators call the period from 3 to 7 years old preschool. The so-called "looking at the old at the age of seven" means that the child's personality tendency begins to form at the age of seven, and it is basically difficult to reshape after the age of seven. ?
Of course, a person's personality is not completely impossible to change after adulthood, but this kind of situation is rare after all, and it needs a lot of energy to change. Therefore, this requires parents to do early education, so that children have the ability and capital to struggle at the starting line for a lifetime. Professor Casbi once emphasized that at the age of 0 ~ 3, parents' expectations, behaviors and some living standards will be internalized by children into their own expectations and rules. In other words, at this time, the parents' code of conduct is a template, which directly determines the code of conduct on which children are based all their lives. Parents should not only pay attention to their children's behavior during this period, but also pay attention to their words and deeds. ?
"Looking forward to your child's success and your daughter's success" is the common wish of every parent. At present, most parents pay more attention to early education, but more people only pay attention to the cultivation of children's knowledge and ability, without seeing the development of children's psychological model or paying attention to the formation process of children's personality, which leads to the opposite direction of early education.
Modern psychology believes that a person's life is a complete psychological development process. This process begins with birth and ends with death. In this development process, the psychological development of 0~7 years old is particularly important, which, like the basic part of the building, directly determines the style and height of the building. If parents can seize this critical period and give their children a good education, they can lay a solid foundation for their children's lives.