He is one year old, you are one year old, she is two years old, and you are two years old. She studies dance and you study yoga. She reads picture books and you take essays. She studies arithmetic and you play olympiad. She likes Go, so you can learn and discuss with him. She studied piano, and you started from scratch together. He is timid, so you should try to be with her bravely. She is bold and willful, so you accompany her with courtesy and respect. She cried violently, and you communicated as gently as a gentle hug. She has bad habits occasionally, so you should educate her seriously and make her accept the price of making mistakes. You love her. You keep telling her you love her. Your love can be like a gentle iron blouse, giving her enough sense of security and giving her the courage to fly away bit by bit. You love her. You tell her your love is not just talk. Your love is not concession, not sacrifice, but willingness to pay. You can be irritable sometimes, but you can control your emotions like a real adult. It's all because of you that you don't talk about you and me. You will calm down, you will think and solve problems. I'm not afraid that you can't do anything. I'm afraid you won't learn anything. I'm not afraid that you know nothing. I'm afraid you'll forget that it's your first time as a parent. Your decision is not entirely correct. You need to discuss the happiest rights with your children. I'm not afraid that you can't do anything well. I'm afraid you think you can do everything well. I'm not afraid that you don't love your children, but I'm afraid that you love them deeply. The best preschool education is to love your child, study with her and grow up together. For him, there is no reason to live any longer. No excuses. If we can't do it, forget it. Anyway, we will grow with it, and we can all live.

When I was a child, my father wanted me to learn to draw. I studied Chinese painting for some time. Because there were fewer and fewer students, the teacher suspended classes and said that if I wanted to continue, I would go to the Children's Palace to learn from him. At home, I feel that the Children's Palace is too far away, and I am not allowed to continue my studies. My mother saw that everyone was learning electronic piano (piano was a super luxury at that time), so she signed up for my class and began to play electronic piano. Later she found a teacher to teach at home. Once she overheard the teacher tell my mother that children have no talent and refuse to practice well. Finally, my mother ended my piano learning career with two coaches. I also practiced martial arts and calligraphy, but I didn't stick to it for objective reasons. Now, I don't have any special skills to show. Occasionally, when I feel hot, I buy a bunch of things like painting and handwork, which is also a three-point heat. It's hard to persist. I'm really upset. I have many hobbies, but I am always enthusiastic and accomplish nothing. Is it really useless to learn this and that?

After having children, I found that everything I learned before was not chicken ribs. I can draw, draw with her, and finish beautiful handwritten newspapers with her. I can write well and give her a good demonstration; I can read music, I can take her to sing with me, and I can look at the children with adoration. You will feel that everything was worthwhile at the beginning, but you only hate yourself for not working hard and should learn more.

Now go back to the baby. Children start early education in four months. Many people ask me if it is useful to attend early education. I really don't know how to answer this question. What are your expectations? What skills do you expect children under three to learn through early education? Rollover? English? Singing? Painting? Learning should not be a utilitarian and purposeful activity, it is a gradual process. Some friends take their children to class and ask for leave every three to five. The weather is bad today. I can't get up tomorrow morning. I have to take my children shopping the day after tomorrow. After using the lesson package for three and a half years, there is still half of the class left, and then you say that early education is the same as you. It's no use. Our family went to early education and had three classes, unless the child was sick, rain or shine. Every class chooses the earliest time of the day, because there is still a whole day after class in the morning, and we can arrange a lot of things to do. We are never late. Every class is attended by the whole family, singing and dancing with the children and enjoying happy parent-child time. I have to ask what I have gained, wonderful parent-child time, a fixed social environment for children, scientific parenting experience, healthy children's health and English input enlightenment. But these are not the point. What we have gained the most and benefited for life is the word "persistence": whether our children go to kindergarten, primary school or various interest classes, they have never been bored and don't want to go. Even influenced by us, the parents of her other two little sisters resolutely followed us to study, and they followed us in any class we went to.

Now the child is seven and a half years old and has an English class outside. Because kindergarten is bilingual, she has been taking English classes outside since the summer vacation after graduation from kindergarten. She has been in class for a year and a half, three times a week, and keeps reading every day. I'm practicing martial arts, which also started in the kindergarten summer vacation. I have classes three times a week, but because of the distance, I can't go at that time of the week. Last Saturday and Sunday's class, although I was very bitter and tired, I still kept practicing and my health was great. I began to learn erhu in May last year, and I have classes every Sunday morning. We chose the earliest class again, because there was still a whole day to arrange after class, and we never took a vacation. I practice the piano every day. The father of a pipa-learning child upstairs thanked us as soon as he saw us, saying that her child refused to practice the piano. Every day, they hear that our sister is practicing the piano again. Hurry up and practice. Our children have become a driving force for others to make progress. Now her progress has surpassed that of the children who studied four months earlier than her. During the summer vacation, the teacher arranged ten days of training, because the teacher suddenly said that it had been arranged in front, swimming in the morning, English in the afternoon and erhu in the evening, so I didn't have time to finish the exercise at all, so I was very nervous. She gets up for half an hour every morning, comes back from swimming at noon, comes back from English for half an hour, and comes back from studying piano for half an hour at night. She can only squeeze out 2-3 hours of rest every day. I really don't think I can do it, but she didn't complain. Other children rest or play in the classroom after swimming, waiting for English class in the afternoon. She ran home to practice the piano in the scorching sun. I'm really touched. I don't know what it is for her to learn these things, but I think the process of learning can also benefit her for life.

A few days ago, I saw an opinion that children should not learn too much, which took up the opportunity cost of children. I wonder, if I don't study, experience or even give my child a chance to try, how can I know what he really wants? There are countless possibilities in life. Maybe a story, a book, a road, and a sentence can light up life, but what's the use of not listening, watching or walking?