The children trained by these five kinds of mothers have better early education, and the mental health problems of children have attracted more and more attention from the society. Here are five ways for children trained by these mothers to have better early education.

Mothers with these five personalities produce better children. Early education 1 Yesterday, a friend who was doing psychological counseling told me such a case:

A man in his thirties, K, feels very unconfident and introverted. He sees things negatively, dislikes contact with the outside world and likes to be alone. He suspected that he had depression, so he came for psychological counseling.

After understanding, my friend found that K has a strong and picky mother. In his childhood memory, her mother always talks about one thing endlessly. At home, only she can blame K and Dad, and they can't blame Mom, otherwise Mom will be furious.

The most maddening thing is that K's mother never controls her emotions. For example, if she is dissatisfied with K during the day, she can suddenly remember in the middle of the night and run to K's room to yell at him and scold him. At that time, the only way for K was to listen and not talk. If she answers "Will you stop talking", her mother will only make more noise.

Moreover, when K's mother curses, she always finds the worst words to scold. In addition, her sarcastic tone is full, and K is degraded with a gun and a stick, so K's personality is very depressed now.

A friend said that every child had an instinctive dependence on his mother when he was a child, which doomed his mother's various performances to have an important influence on the child, especially his mother's personality, which directly determined his future happiness.

Therefore, if children want to be successful and happy in their future lives, the mother's personality is very important. The following five kinds of mothers will certainly cultivate excellent children.

An encouraging mother: affirming the child's tiny progress.

When the child comes home depressed, tell you that he failed in the election for monitor, or that he didn't do well in the exam. Or his teacher tells you that the child's expression ability is poor, even when the class counts down. At this time, you must be an encouraging mother. Give your child timely comfort, encourage him to see his own advantages, and give him the most sincere encouragement when he makes small progress next time.

If the mother perfunctory, or simply negative response, "why are you so stupid? Look at others, they are much better than you ... "In this case, don't expect your child to achieve anything in the future, he will definitely become abandoned and enterprising.

Happy mother: Don't bring home a bad mood.

There is a mother who happily comes home from work every day to take care of two children. One day, the children asked their mother, "Mom, don't you ever worry?" Mother said, "Yes, but my troubles are hanging on the trouble tree in front of my house." The children are puzzled: "What is a fault tree?" Mom said: "Every day before I enter the house, I will hang my troubles at work on the trouble tree, and I will be happy when I get home, because happiness will always be left to my family."

Influenced by her, the children are optimistic about everything.

Psychological research shows that people who are used to bringing their work emotions home are more likely to be irritable, and they are likely to have friction and conflict with their families, which will affect family harmony, and children will become the most innocent victims of this "storm".

Therefore, no matter how wronged and stressed you are at work, you should put all the bad emotions behind you when you get home, and pass on the happy emotions to your children so that they can enjoy their mother's happiness.

Gentle mother: I will control my emotions.

On the way to send my daughter to school in the morning, I saw a mother and daughter. The little girl ate the bread in her hand as she walked. Her mother left for a while and then stopped to rush her. Repeatedly, her mother couldn't help it. She turned and took the girl's hand and strode to school, nagging: wake you up, I haven't got up yet, and I don't have time to have breakfast. Now everyone else is doing exercises. You were still grinding on the road, which made me late for work today. Really with you.

Suddenly I feel that the little girl is so wronged. She only slept for a while and took on so many crimes, even her absent father was not spared.

It is inevitable for children to make mistakes, but as a mother, do you know? When you are angry with a child, his heart is full of fear. Over time, children may become withdrawn and extremely unsociable.

Therefore, please be a gentle mother, calm when things happen, and be good at dealing with problems with wisdom. In fact, the child made a mistake, and he knows it very well, so he will also look at his mother's face nervously. If the mother can face the child with a calm expression, the child may consciously correct herself.

A steadfast mother: not afraid of difficulties

In people's impression, women are the representatives of the weak, and it seems that only men deserve the word "strong". In fact, in real life, women who really encounter difficulties and can persist despite difficulties are often those who look weak. They are even stronger and more persistent than men in some aspects.

Since birth, children have been experiencing various setbacks: the first time they tried to climb, the meatball-like body turned over countless somersaults and could not climb up; When I first went to kindergarten, I was terrified because I didn't adapt to the new environment. I learned to ride a bike for the first time, but I fell down countless times ... in this way, children will always experience various difficulties in their growth.

When children encounter difficulties, mothers should be their strong backing. Tell your child calmly that failure is the mother of success, and don't be discouraged by failure. When doing things at ordinary times, mothers should show the courage to overcome difficulties and set a good example for their children. Always encourage children, don't tell them that there is no hope before they want to give up. Only a strong mother can bring up hardworking children.

An educated mother: casting the quality of children

There was a girl who lived with her parents and grandparents from childhood until she went to school and lived on campus. The teacher found that she didn't develop good personal habits, things in the dormitory were in a mess, and she didn't care about her personal image and manners. There is nothing like a girl, because there is no good role model in her life, and she doesn't know what a girl should be like.

Come to think of it, many of our good habits or bad habits have a lot to do with our mothers.

For example, mothers pay attention to etiquette, and children will sit and stand when socializing. They know etiquette and rules and are naturally popular.

As the saying goes, reading is the best way to cultivate a person's temperament. In normal life, mothers should read more books and newspapers to improve their cultural quality and elegant temperament through reading. This temperament will also affect the quality of children invisibly.

Educating children is not an easy task, and the responsibility of mothers is particularly important. Therefore, if you want your children to be excellent, you must start from perfecting your personality!

The children raised by these five kinds of mothers have better early education, 2 1, gentle mothers.

Nowadays, because of the pressure of life and work, many mothers will inevitably become grumpy when they come home to see their children are not sensible. They are always yelling at their children. Although mothers can vent their negative emotions, it has some very bad effects on their children. Often scolding children loudly makes them nervous, insecure and difficult to trust others, which has a great influence on their future interpersonal communication. Moreover, these negative emotions are absorbed by children, which subtly makes children irritable. Therefore, a gentle and humble mother can not only better educate her children and handle family relations, but also make them gentle people.

2. Mothers who know how to encourage children

Fu, an excellent swimmer in China, said in an interview after the game that her success depended largely on her mother's encouragement. Whenever she encounters difficulties and wants to give up, her mother will say to her, "You can do it, you are the best". This sentence has a profound impact on her life. It can be said that she can achieve such excellent results, largely thanks to this sentence. This shows how important it is for a mother to know how to encourage her children to grow up. Therefore, giving children encouragement at the right time can make them more successful.

3. Optimistic and cheerful mother

In fact, children can initially judge their mothers' emotions when they are very young, but sometimes they don't know how to comfort their mothers. An experiment abroad shows that when a child judges that his mother's mood is sadness or anger, the pressure on the child will increase obviously, which will easily make the child's already fragile mood collapse. Therefore, it is more conducive to children's growth to pass on the concept of music and happiness to children.

4. Strong and brave mother

We have all heard a saying that women are weak and mothers are strong. A strong and brave mother has a profound influence on her children. Motherly love is not only gentle water, but also a solid mountain in some cases. A mother's strong personality can make her children face the growing difficulties bravely.

5. Educated mother

We all know that the quality of family education determines the quality of children, and a family full of violence and darkness cannot cultivate gentle children. The most important thing in family education is to cultivate children's moral cultivation. No matter whether they can get good grades in the future, the most basic education is necessary. So mothers should pay attention to their manners when interacting with their children. Let the child become an educated person.

Children's imitation nature will make them learn from their mothers. Mother's behavior is more important than any course or book, so mothers must regulate themselves in order to cultivate better children.