Learn to be prepared.
A kindergarten director said that every parent now wants to cultivate "gifted" children. He couldn't wait to teach them to read and count from the moment they were born, thinking that they would do well after school. But we forget that in order for children to learn, we must first prepare the "hardware foundation"-body and mind. Without these preparations, even if you find the best teacher in America for your child after school, he won't learn well.
The preparatory work mentioned here includes two parts:
First, the body is prepared to keep the sitting posture correct;
Second, the mind is ready, willing to actively participate in activities, will think for themselves or seek help when encountering difficulties, and can listen to and abide by the rules of the game.
I didn't pay attention to the correct sitting posture before. About 0/4 months after D/KLOC, her cognitive teacher asked me to buy her a small desk and chair. She is used to freedom. At first, she looked "sitting in a chair", and after sitting for a while, she wanted to get down.
The cognitive teacher asked us to play games on the small table for a period of time every day. Every time little D sits at a small table, we will remind her, "Where are her feet?"? Did you put it on the ground? Where are the hands? Is it on the table? Where is the body? Sit up straight After a period of time, little D's sitting posture improved obviously. With the improvement of sitting posture, her concentration has also improved, and she can really sit still and concentrate on playing with some toys.
After D2 was young, the cognitive teacher put forward the concept of "give me five". Every time before D2 sits at the table and starts playing games, we will check whether these five aspects are done properly:
My body stands high;
My eyes are watching;
My ears are listening;
My mouth is closed;
My head is thinking.
These five steps are the refinement of "preparation". At first, little d knew nothing about these requirements. But after a period of persistence, she will understand. For example, sometimes she gets distracted in the middle of reading a picture book. I will use this to remind her: "Are your eyes watching?" When she comes to her senses and continues to read the picture book, I will add: "Little D's eyes are watching."
You see, it's such a simple reminder, but it helps little D develop good study habits. We can't expect children who have been "free-range" for six years to know how to control themselves at once after entering primary school. These good habits are formed through the dribs and drabs of life. Remind "Are you ready?" It can not only make children change their posture, but also remind them to maintain good concentration and self-control.
Learn to be responsible.
Many children don't do their homework without supervision after school, because they are always late for school and don't pay attention to class.
Why is this happening? The fundamental reason is that the child doesn't know how to be responsible for himself, because his parents are responsible for all his living arrangements, and his parents are chasing and feeding him, so he doesn't have to do any housework at all, and his parents throw toys.
Children have no chance to realize that they are independent people and need to be responsible for themselves. This mode of thinking has always accompanied children to school. In those days, the mother who chased after feeding became the mother who stared at his homework.
At this time, the parent-child relationship has also entered a vicious circle. The more parents help, the more children feel that "it doesn't matter if I don't do it." Anyway, someone is urging me to do it and helping me; Even making mistakes is someone else's fault, not mine. "
Therefore, the second thing for children to learn before going to school is to be responsible for themselves. To do this, the most important thing is that parents should understand where the boundary between themselves and their children is, and they can do it without crossing the line and arranging substitutions, unless the children take the initiative to ask for help.
For example, if a child doesn't want to eat, parents should respect his choice. Maybe you are worried that he will be hungry in the future, but if you don't make him feel hungry, he won't understand that he should eat when he has food.
For example, children throw toys everywhere after playing with them. Parents should tell him that these are your toys and need to be put back after playing. Maybe it will be slow for you to pick up toys with your child, but only in this way can he realize that he is the owner of the toy and be responsible for it.
For another example, let children participate in the daily housework within their power, and tell them that as a member of the family, everyone has the responsibility to pay for the work, not just to bear it.
These things seem trivial, but they can cultivate children's sense of responsibility well. A child who is responsible for himself and his own behavior can learn spontaneously in the future. Because he understands that learning is his own business, not that of parents, nor that of teachers.
Learn to respect.
The third thing preschool children need to learn is respect. In other words, parents need to help their children gradually transition from "individuals" to "social people".
Nowadays, families are basically "4+2+ 1 mode", and many children are the "eldest" in the family; See your favorite food and bring it to yourself; Everything delicious and fun at home is his. If he is unhappy, he will lose his temper ... These behaviors of children may be nothing in the eyes of parents and family, but in the eyes of others, they are uneducated and don't know how to respect others.
May all parents encourage each other together, and may we all want to understand this matter as soon as possible!