The way parents praise their children is very popular with parents. Correct praise and praise can help children build good self-confidence. But parents don't seem to understand how this influence comes about. Let's study together. Praising your baby is sometimes an encouragement, but sometimes it gives him confidence, misleads his arrogance, and is also a kind of harm. Therefore, praising the baby is really a very profound knowledge. Praise is not unprincipled wearing a top hat, but talking about ways and means. This is a compliment to his diligence, not to his cleverness. For example, he praised the baby's rapid progress, his enterprising spirit, his self-confidence, his conceit, his eclectic innovation and his imitation of cats and tigers. This kind of praise basically has three principles: praise the concrete, not the whole; Targeted praise makes the baby easy to understand and know what to do in the future. Praise hard work but don't praise cleverness: in the process of doing something, you might as well praise your baby to make him more attentive in encouragement. Process effort is often the premise of obtaining satisfactory results. Exaggerate facts without exaggerating personality: words like "good boy" are obviously bragging about personality. "Goodness" is a very abstract and nihilistic concept. Saying the word "good" for a long time will make the baby feel that he is wearing a big hat on his head. Instead of encouraging him, it will become pressure. Praise when you should praise, but criticize when you shouldn't. In the past, people believed that "you can't beat the weapon" and criticized the baby blindly. This is against the educational principle that "a good boy is boasted", and it is always boasted and does not conform to the educational principle. Blindly praise is bound to make the baby think that all his words and deeds are correct, and the baby can't be without shortcomings, which requires criticism. Blindly praise will bring many negative effects to the baby. Babies who often get "cheap" unprincipled praise will become accustomed to praise and indifferent over time, thus losing interest in completing various tasks for praise. Praise at your fingertips, to a certain extent, will become a mental burden, a suffocating pressure, or a blind complacency and stagnation. "Good children are boasted" is neither an educational principle nor an educational art, nor is it a "trick" for all babies. It is necessary to praise as much as possible, even exaggeratedly, those pre-school babies who are deaf, blind and mentally retarded, which can enhance their self-confidence and courage. For normal babies, we should praise them vigorously and criticize them seriously. I think the baby's understanding ability is too limited, so I praise: you are great! You are so smart ... you will gradually make your baby feel proud and feel that you are the first, and you may not be able to stand setbacks in the future. So in the process of boasting, I will pay attention to two points: 1. The content of boasting should be specific. Tell the baby where the performance is good and where it is good. For example, when the baby helps me clear the table, I will not only say, "You are really diligent and a good helper for my mother." I will also tell her that you helped your mother set chopsticks and placemats and did what you could. However, when helping your mother, you should be careful not to take the bowl that is easy to break, and you should also be careful not to burn your hands with vegetables ... 2. The degree of praise should be appropriate. When the baby grows up, it will always bring us many surprises, but not everything should be praised. Praise everything in every way, and it is easy for the baby to have a complacent complex. Don't exaggerate the advantages, don't hide the shortcomings, and let the baby know himself correctly. That's all that matters. Early education enriches the vocabulary of praise. At first, I also used "You are great!" Words like this praise the baby, but as the baby grows up, he can understand more and more things, so he no longer just praises "great", and I began to enrich the praise content. Babies are usually stingy. They don't want to give anyone anything delicious. Sometimes they don't want to eat until they want to give it to others. I will also praise him, "Oh, the baby has grown up and knows how to share." Then he will take the initiative to put food in your mouth. It is better to praise a certain behavior than to praise it in general. There are many words like "You are great", sometimes I blurt them out, but then I will use more words to supplement my appreciation of the baby, not just praise. Don't praise your baby with excessive language. Although appreciation education is popular now, it is necessary to master the sense of proportion and temperature when praising the baby. Improper praise will not be conducive to the healthy growth of the baby, so that the baby can not listen to criticism, can not bear failure, can not bear responsibility, can not fight setbacks. My principle is to use as little excessive language as possible to praise the baby. "Great", "too smart", "best" and "smartest" are not appropriate words. I'm used to praising my baby with the tone of "really good", "You did a great job this time" and "You drew better than last time". Praise and praise should give your baby encouragement and motivation, not just praise, but make him interested, capable and motivated to reach higher goals. Early childhood education should be praised as well. With the popularization of scientific parenting concepts and theories, more and more parents in China no longer just criticize their babies like the older generation, but begin to realize the role of positive feedback methods such as praise and reward in education. Then, you will often hear "great, great, you are great!" ""you did a good job! " "You are the smartest baby in the world! "Praise sounds like praise has a negative impact on the baby's growth, and it needs affirmation and praise, just like flowers need sunshine and rain. If you only praise in general, but don't pay attention to methods, it will make your baby feel blind superiority. This long-term lack of "excellent self-feeling" based on real ability is easy to make the baby rely too much on external praise and form fragile self-esteem. When I grow up, I will put my efforts on the evaluation of others. Once you lose praise and praise, you can't accept it, you can't know yourself and others correctly, and you can't form a correct self-awareness. As the wise mothers said above, praise can give the baby confidence, but it may also have some negative effects. How to praise is praise. Praise should be timely and appropriate. It's not that the more the better, the more praise will make the baby feel super good and excellent everywhere. The purpose of praise is to strengthen good behavior. Through praise, the baby can understand the inner meaning of behavior and gradually gain the inner motivation for growth. There is no need to praise a baby when he is absorbed in what he likes and is interested in. At this time, the baby has a very strong internal drive. Your excessive praise will not strengthen his internal motivation, but will weaken his internal motivation, so that his purposeless painting behavior, which does not need external reinforcement and comes from strong internal interest, will be transformed into a purposeful behavior that always depends on your praise. Once the compliment disappears, the original interest behavior disappears. Such praise is not conducive to the development of baby's hobbies, and is not conducive to the formation of good personality qualities such as autonomy and initiative. Praise focuses on description, not evaluation. " Praise and reward are not the only way to give positive feedback, another way is appreciation. "Appreciation is a clear feedback from the pointer to the baby's efforts. At the same time, listening to the description you appreciate, the baby will gradually learn how to evaluate himself and grow into an independent person with correct self-awareness. After listening to your description, he may evaluate himself and praise himself. " I am a big brother and can help my mother. "Early education network praise focuses on encouragement and points out the direction that the baby needs to work hard. Encouragement and praise are both positive comments on baby's behavior, but they are slightly different. Praise focuses on results, and encouragement focuses on process. Encouragement is an appropriate description of the baby's hard work process and behavior. This kind of praise has a clear direction and is full of fun, which is particularly easy for babies to accept. China Children's Network Bian Xiao concluded: Parents can learn many ways to praise their children and how to achieve a good result, so these methods are beneficial for parents to cultivate their own ways to educate their children to praise their children. Parents can learn from the above contents as a whole, so that we can make progress.