(1) Share inspiration in the meeting.
(2) the sign of talent
③ How to tap talents?
Share meeting experience
Let me introduce myself first. Because I love reading very much, I set up the Singapore Reading Club at the end of 20 14. Now this club has been in operation for 1 year and a half, and we have held nearly 50 online and offline activities. So in addition to my family circle, friends circle and work circle, I created a social circle for myself, which is a book club. In this process, I met many people, so among this group of people, the age is about 20 ~ 35 years old, and some are older. They come to our party to improve themselves, stimulate their desire to learn, make friends, and of course there are many other purposes. In the process of our sharing and ordinary communication, I will feel that many people say that they are confused, don't know what they like to do, and don't know what they are good at. After that, I will fall into an enviable atmosphere and feel that someone around me discovered his talent very early and made good use of it. Now I am living well. So, with so many people listening to this sharing tonight, I think you should have similar puzzles, including myself. How can we help our children discover his talent?
Here I tell you in a sharing state: my role is to coordinate and summarize every sharing meeting. So many times I have to listen to every sharer's speech very carefully, and then I found an interesting thing. When a person is talking about something he is interested in, the whole state is very excited and sometimes a little nervous. When the rest of us show strong interest in what she said, her whole energy field explodes and she will be very excited. Her whole sharing status will make me feel that she can't wait to tell us everything she knows. I really enjoy this moment. I can connect with the sharer. I know it's a gift that she may not even know about. For example, at our recent offline sharing meeting, a girl liked Tony Bozan's mind map very much, remembering quickly and reading quickly. But she feels that no one around her has learned these things, and she feels that she is a wonderful flower. When she found us, she was very excited and felt that she was not alone. So she continued to share her pure love, and then went to Tony Bozan's class. After studying, her abilities in these three aspects are much higher than those of us here. We all think that's her gift!
Enlightenment of sharing meeting
Because we have discussed the topic of talent many times, and I have been trying, and gradually found some interesting phenomena and enlightenment. Then these inspirations gave me the secret to tap talents:
① Know yourself: Not many people know themselves. On the contrary, we often hope that a "master" will appear and tell us categorically who we are and what we should do.
Here I share with you what I have done to understand myself. I have used all kinds of career evaluations in the market: MBTI, Dierske, type 9 personality, strength finder (Gallup Advantage Identifier), and even horoscope and fortune telling. I think the most meaningful thing for me is the Gallup Advantage Identifier, which helps me sort out my inexplicable advantages very clearly. I also asked the people around me for their comments, especially my family, friends, colleagues and netizens, referring to what kind of image I am in their eyes and what I am good at. But I think these are actually superficial. I think I really started to understand myself, starting with keeping a diary. Through writing, I kept talking to myself and found that I just had to have the courage to accept myself. Actually, I know myself very well.
At this point, I don't know if you feel a problem, that is, so many people, no matter what age, are still trying to know themselves better. So there are two key points here. The first is that it is always difficult for us to see ourselves clearly. The second is that when we are in a relatively low cognitive stage, it is difficult for us to understand ourselves, so we will want to tell ourselves through external voices. I want to share an interesting thing with you here. When I went to learn type 9 personality, I asked the teacher if you could tell me what personality type I am, so that I can understand myself and make myself better. The teacher said I wouldn't give you a definition, so you have to find the answer yourself. At that time, I was actually shocked. The shock came from my liking that he said "others can't define you". At this point, I don't know if you have a feeling that this exploration stage we have experienced will be experienced by our children in the future. He also hopes that a "master" will appear to help him answer questions. And we are actually his "masters"! So I think that the object of tapping children's talents is not only children, but also ourselves. Because if our own cognitive level is not high enough and our vision is not wide enough, then we probably don't know how to help our children discover their talents. !
2 Values: I think this is the key factor to tap talents. Looking back on our growth process, have you ever been instilled with such values as "being a good official", "working well in a bank", "being well paid by state-owned enterprises" and "going to the United States"? I remember when I was in college, a girl in the building next door committed suicide because she couldn't stand the pressure. Like most people, I am lamenting that children's psychological quality is not good and they can't stand such a small setback. But now that I look back on it as a mother, I wonder what values she was instilled in, which led her to take her studies and setbacks so seriously that she gave up her life. So when our child shows great interest in plants, can we respect him and help him create enough space to develop his talents and help him become a botanist? Or when our child tells me that he really wants to be a chef, will you support him, or tell him that being a chef is useless, dirty and tired, and it is difficult to get social respect? So we should always remind ourselves that our values can sometimes easily kidnap our children and limit their attempts.
3 * * * Sex: Having said the above questions about values, some parents may say, what kind of children do you want to raise? You won't really become a chef. My answer is, if he really likes it, I'd be happy to. Because of the book club, I have the opportunity to meet more and more excellent people. I found two characteristics in them. The first is that it doesn't matter what industry you do. What matters is whether you can not only do it well, but also do it to the extreme. Last week, we invited teacher Yilin, who enjoys a high reputation in the field of aesthetics in China, to hold an aesthetic entrepreneurship sharing meeting with us. She likes shopping and studying collocation very much, so she started her aesthetic entrepreneurial journey. When I checked the manuscript and communicated with her how to write the copy, she put forward extremely high requirements for every word, typesetting, font and the order in which the pictures appeared, and I realized why she did her career so well. Then the second point is that they have enough courage to take that step. Great people are not because of their unique ideas, but often they have the courage to do what we always wanted to do but didn't do, and stick to it. Therefore, in the process of tapping children's talents, we still have to emphasize our values. Can you give children many opportunities for exploration, tolerance and support?
A sign of talent
Having said so much inspiration, I don't know if it really inspires you. Then let me summarize the signs of talent.
① Special desire: I wonder if there will be a doubt in the process of listening, that is, are talents and likes the same? Now we often say that we should do what we like, because as long as we find what we like, we will certainly do it well. I take myself as an example. I like studying people and myself very much. I am particularly eager to know myself, so I like everything that can help me know myself. Although I came from an engineering background, I studied psychology and read a lot. I feel that I have found a huge treasure in the ocean of reading and have a deeper understanding of self-awareness and others. What about the baby?
I can learn quickly: because I like this field very much, I can understand relatively abstract concepts quickly. But I think this is not a gift, but the accumulation of knowledge. On Wednesday morning, I held a sharing meeting about creativity. I borrowed the concept of quantum physics to explain the law of attraction, telepathy. These things seem insignificant, but because of the accumulation before, I can understand why they can be explained.
③ High satisfaction after completion: After that sharing meeting, I got some good feedback, so my enthusiasm was higher. I feel very happy. Therefore, I know very well that in the future, my career must be to become a trainer.
After giving my own example, what I want to share with you now is. When our children are about 3 years old, they will have a strong curiosity. At this time, if we can observe them like biological specimens, we can slowly find the signs on them. Then what we have to do is to help him develop and not impose our expectations on them.
How to tap talents
1. Improve sensitivity and professionalism: this is the core to help our children tap their talents. We need to know what will happen to our children's development, that is, you may need to know what the sensitive period is and when it will appear; What are the milestones and characteristics in the growth and development stage? Only in this way can we be sensitive and professional enough to their changes and not be easily influenced by others' words. What I want to share with you here is that we should be active producers of knowledge, not passive consumers.
2. Lots of attempts and contacts: During this time, several parents asked me what I thought of children attending early childhood classes. Then I'll tell you here, too Well, within my ability, I will be willing to give the babies as many opportunities as possible, including some courses in early education centers.
Coincidentally, because I recently met some people engaged in early education centers, even investors, I can say responsibly that you must choose these institutions carefully, because there are not many good ones, but parents are easily tickled by various advertisements and finally burn money. But don't be afraid to give up trying when I say this. What I want to say is to open your eyes and screen these institutions.
Secondly, I think the most important thing is to figure out what kind of person I want my child to grow up into, and then sort out what I can give him to avoid blind obedience. I won't rely entirely on these early education centers. I will regard these early education centers as a place for children to explore their own development possibilities, a place to learn, not a place to acquire any skills.
3. Independence: Of course, this is based on environmental safety. If we don't let go, we'll never know the potential of our children. Take myself as an example. Before going abroad, my parents, like most traditional families in China, took good care of me and basically had nothing to worry about. They just want to make me happy. But from the moment I went abroad, everything had to be solved by myself. I am at home and outside. I am a child at home, but my parents still can't help taking care of me. Outside, I am an independent person and the mother of the child. So my ability has been fully exercised. Today, my mother is also here to listen to my speech. She is very happy and surprised that I still have such a specialty.
4. Family style: As the saying goes, a dragon begets a dragon, a phoenix begets a phoenix, and a mouse's child can make holes. This sentence fully embodies the importance of the influence of family environment on children. If you want your children to like reading, you should love reading yourself. If you want your children to work hard, you should be positive yourself. Before the age of 6, we have been influencing children directly or indirectly, because they are in a completely absorbed mental model. Therefore, when using the early education center for education, don't forget that we are the people who have the greatest influence on children. Because babies are very sensitive to how we live and treat ourselves.
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Now let me sum up. One idea I want to convey at this sharing meeting is:
In the eyes of children, we are all masters, and they completely rely on and trust us. In the process of their growth, our words and deeds influence them imperceptibly all the time. We should strive to improve ourselves, so that we can have enough ability and vision to help them tap their talents.
Finding out what kind of people we want our children to be will be the key to our choices.
Be very careful about the values we instill in our children. Maintain an inclusive and open attitude towards your own values.