The following is a "child growth suggestion" given by a Jewish writer.
3 ~ 4 years old: brush your teeth, collect your clothes, help your parents clean up their rooms and toys, and take the dirty clothes to the washing machine for washing; 4 ~ 5 years old: can water flowers and wash vegetables, wipe tables, take newspapers, etc.
5 ~ 6 years old: I can take care of most personal hygiene, sweep the room, take the garbage to the dustbin, set the table, put the sundries in the corresponding places, and make the bed;
This formula does not mean that Jews do not respect knowledge. On the contrary, there is nothing more glorious for every Jewish family than having one or more doctors at home. But for Jewish parents, they love their children and support their children to study for doctors and postdocs. The purpose is not to let children get diplomas, but to help children have the ability and quality to achieve a better life.
Because of this, Jews attach great importance to cultivating children's viability from an early age, and instill in children the law of "no pains, no gains" from an early age.
There is a slogan in Israeli family education: spend money and earn it yourself. The "paid living mechanism" of no pains and no gains has a long history in Jewish family education. The number of Jews is small, why can talents come forth in large numbers? This has always been a question that people are eager to know. The paid living mechanism is one of the secrets.
"Delayed gratification" is one of the important methods of parenting education in Israel.
The satisfaction of human desire can be divided into several types: delayed satisfaction, moderate dissatisfaction, advanced satisfaction, immediate satisfaction and excessive satisfaction. Good education always advocates "delayed satisfaction" and "appropriate dissatisfaction". "Satisfying in advance" is a foolish act, and "over-satisfying" is a wasteful act.
Israeli parents often communicate with their children and listen to their understanding of delayed enjoyment. They tell children that if you like to play, you must earn free time, but this requires you to get a good school education and excellent academic performance. Then you can find a good job and earn money. If you earn money, you can play longer and play more expensive toys. However, if you make a mistake, the whole system will not work normally, so you can only play for a short time. Finally, you can only have some cheap toys that will eventually break down, and then you will have to work hard all your life, without toys and happiness.