Sharing is a kind of prosocial behavior of human beings, which means that people voluntarily share resources with others and get pleasure and satisfaction from it. It is the foundation for children to establish a good partnership and form a healthy personality. Therefore, real sharing must meet three basic conditions: from the perspective of motivation, the children who have shared behavior must be voluntary; Formally speaking, children and others enjoy resources; Emotionally speaking, children finally get pleasure and satisfaction through sharing behavior. Sharing is not an innate behavior of people, nor is it an behavior that will last forever once it appears. In different stages of life, sharing consciousness and sharing behavior present different States. We should look at this difference objectively, instead of blindly asking children to share it. Studies have found that older children are more willing to share or appear more generous. In other words, children's awareness of sharing is weak and their sharing behavior is less. Montessori's educational theory holds that children are selfish before the age of 6 and can't really understand the meaning of "sharing". A study in Switzerland also shows that people are usually selfish when they are young, and they don't know how to share it with others until they are seven or eight years old. Some scholars in our country have also confirmed in the research that 2-year-old children can't really share, and 3-year-old children have more obvious self-interest tendency.

Babies before the age of two or three don't have to deliberately share education.

Asking children before the age of 3 to share is not in line with their cognitive development, so it is too early to deliberately educate children before the age of 3. Children before the age of 3 have no complicated motives. There are only two possibilities whether they will share the rent: 1. Children don't like this thing, it doesn't matter whether they give it to you or not; 2. Children don't understand the concept of "mine". Only when children understand the concept of ownership can they learn to share slowly. Studies have proved that children before the age of 3 have to go through the process of chaotic integration, separation of subject and object, and self-centeredness, which will inevitably lead to children's monopolization before sharing, egoism before altruism. Therefore, for children before the age of 3, there is no need to force them to share, because they have no concept and ability to share. Exclusion and egoism are children's social attributes, and we don't always have to try to let children share them through external inducement. What we have to do is to trust children, and believe that with the continuous improvement of socialization, they will be more and more willing to share with others.

Third, share four steps correctly.

1. Help children form a sense of security about their "property rights". Before sharing with others, children should first let them know that this item is "mine", and no matter who touches it or uses it, it will still be "mine". Adults should respect children's psychological characteristics, first explain the ownership of items to children, ask for their consent, and then guide children to share them. Never force or decide to give items to others. 2. Create an atmosphere of intimacy, trust and harmony. To form sharing behavior, children must first trust and care for each other, and trust and intimate feelings must be established between children and between teachers and students, which is the foundation. Spock, the father of early education, said, "True generosity comes from love, which is the deepest, strongest and most lasting feeling. If there is no love in children's hearts, it is very limited to teach them to share and give. " 3. Give priority to positive education and set an example. In daily life, parents pay attention to words and deeds, so that the baby can see how to treat people. When the baby makes sharing behavior, give affirmation and praise in time. 4. Pay attention to sharing tips. Pay attention to some skills in the process of teaching your baby to share. For example, bring more babies to play with children, teach children to "take turns to play", and bring more toys to exchange with children when going out.

Fourth, sharing behavior three don't

1. Don't label the baby. When the baby refuses to share, don't say that the baby is "stingy" or "stingy". If children are always said to be stingy, then children are really stingy, and they will correspond "stingy" with their own behavior. Because his parents called him "stingy", he would repeat this behavior. 2. Don't punish the baby, don't expect too much from the baby, know that the baby's growth goes through stages, and calmly accept this fact, which may be more helpful to the mother. When the baby refuses to share, if the mother punishes or forces the baby to share, it will only make the baby dislike the mother and the partners who participate in sharing, which will lead to more insecurity and will not make him (her) generous. 3. Don't force the baby. When the baby doesn't want to share, don't grab what is in the baby's hand and force it to other children. This kind of behavior will destroy the baby's sense of security, create the impression that you can rob others, and make the baby hate sharing behavior.