She is a colleague because she runs a stationery store like me.
My colleague's family is rural and lives in the suburbs. The husband is an only child, and the child is brought up by grandparents after birth. The eldest daughter is normal, but the second daughter and the youngest son have problems.
The second daughter is a beautiful child with snow-white skin and a pair of big round eyes embedded in her round face. When you talk to her, she only looks at you and never answers.
Colleagues say that my daughter was particularly cute and smart when she was a child. Later, when I was more than one year old and two years old, I always stood up to pee my pants or pull my pants because I couldn't squat. My grandmother screamed at me, and the child was too scared to speak.
I went to school, didn't communicate with others, didn't listen to lectures in class, and later refused to go to school. Take it to the hospital for examination and confirm that it is autism. I had to drop out of school in the fifth grade.
The countryside attaches great importance to boys. At the strong request of grandparents, the third child was born, a boy.
As a result, the boy was spoiled by his family and indulged in lawlessness.
When it comes to school, boys have similar symptoms: no class, no homework, playing with toys in class. Fortunately, although this boy doesn't like studying, doesn't respond to his mother's criticism, and throws the bottle cap out to play when his mother is holding a heart-to-heart talk, at least he can communicate with his classmates normally.
Colleagues have been called by teachers more than once. Even if they are asked to take their children home for education in class, colleagues never whisper to their children, but patiently enlighten them with gentle words.
Children like watching cartoons, so she bought them a tablet computer. If you like to play with toys, take the toys in the store; Because she couldn't take care of the children by opening a shop, she rented a room near the school and lived with her daughter and son.
For her, it is the top priority to avoid children's autism and ensure their healthy growth.
Slowly, the second daughter came of age. She was introduced to a far-away village, and her son-in-law's family liked her very much. Now she is the mother of a child.
The youngest son went to junior high school, from an awkward little boy to a lot of sunshine, his grades were no longer at the bottom, and his class ranked in the middle.
Maybe her son can't go to college in the end, or even to high school, but to vocational high school. But at least, her children are healthy.
For a mother, especially for a mother whose child may have autism, nothing is more important than the health of her child.
I admire her very much, and I admire all parents who have sick children at home. Although I have never experienced this, I understand the pain of those parents, who are facing a child who will never feel and respond to love.
From the experience of colleagues, autism is related to parental rearing patterns and heredity. Autistic children need not only the help of doctors, but also the love of their parents for life.
Autism is a lot of parenting problems. But people generally don't admit that they don't care enough and classify him as a genetic problem.
There was once a child with autism. Parents are busy, and children are given to grandma. 1-2 years old, whenever I meet my grandmother with children, I find that old people always put their children in the stroller and chat with a group of old ladies by themselves. Talked to the child all afternoon without saying a word. When the old man is alone with his children, he doesn't talk to them. Drinking water and eating are all gestures. Children's parents go out to play cards after dinner every night, so they should not have much communication with their children.
In the language sensitive period before the age of 3, other children's parents teach their children to speak and encourage them to express themselves every day. But children may not say more than five sentences a day. Wait a little longer for parents to let their children talk, but they don't say anything, not a word, until primary school. The final diagnosis was autism.
Imagine that you are an adult, and you have no more than 5 sentences a day for many years. Are you autistic or not?
Therefore, taking care of children is not just about eating and dressing well. When children grow up, they don't pay attention to language and emotional communication, and children can easily get used to silence and become autistic.
Our leader is handsome in height 1.8 meters, and his wife is almost 1.7 meters slim and has a good temperament. I heard that she plays the piano very well and often goes home from work with the leaders of our unit. Such a couple has two autistic sons.
I heard that when they first gave birth to a child, at first they couldn't see that the whole family was very happy and raised it carefully. When the child was more than ten months old, they found that the child still didn't speak and told him not to respond. At first, they doubted the child's hearing. The doctor in our local hospital suggested going to a higher hospital. Finally, when a child is diagnosed with autism, it may be about two years old, or a heavier type. Grandma and mother have long led their children to do rehabilitation treatment in big cities. Later, my mother came back from work. Later, I don't know if it is because of the poor effect or other reasons. The correction and rehabilitation of autism is quite expensive and laborious, and the effect may not necessarily achieve the effect you want.
After a few years, everyone advised them not to, and the leading couple asked for a second child or son. Because of the experience of the first child, when they found that the child had a problem, they went to the hospital early for an examination. As a result, they are still autistic children. At this time, they really want to cry, and regret can't change any result, so it seems that the cause of autism is really not that simple, and various reasons will lead to such a result. People around really didn't expect that such excellent two people would have two autistic children. The conditions for leading a family are better. Both parents have good conditions to help look after them and hired a nanny. If it is an ordinary family, I really can't imagine that their situation should not be a question of support.
My friend gave birth to a daughter five years ago, because my husband is in finance and he works at home. He can't make any noise when he sleeps during the day and can't have any interference when he goes to work at night. As you know, how can that child keep silent? Since the daughter can climb, she puts the child in a soundproof room, eats and drinks Lazar, but she is afraid of disturbing her husband (she is afraid of him because he is the main source of income at home) and does not give the living room a step.
Children live in the same room until they are 3 years old. When she is with the children, she plays with her mobile phone in the room and the children play by themselves. When she was 3 years old, she couldn't speak, so she made such a sound. She thinks that children just talk late and stay until they are 4 years old. It's time to go to kindergarten, but the children still can't communicate with others. She had to take her daughter to the hospital with her mother-in-law. The doctor diagnosed her as autistic and should have come earlier. Now that she is over 4 years old, the doctor asked her to go back and take her children out to play more, but her friend said that her daughter didn't want to go out, and she would yell as soon as she took her out. The doctor asked her to send the child to a special school.
Now my daughter goes to a special school and picks her up at noon every day. Tuition in special schools is very expensive. Friends say other people's children are healthy. How can she be autistic when she comes here? I said you didn't even take her out to play She said that children are small, what can they play when they go out? I don't want to talk about it when I see her like this.
There are two kinds of autism. If congenital autism is serious, there is no way to intervene. He only lives in his own world, and he is the only one in his world.
Acquired autism can be intervened and can live a normal life like other children. In fact, acquired autism is mostly a problem for parents. I always think that children will grow up, but then you will find it is too late.
I think it is good for both children and adults to take children out to play more. It's strange to be locked in an environment without autism all day.
It should be a genetic problem.
Autism is mainly a genetic problem. It is best for both husband and wife to have genetic tests. I once met a couple. Although the three children are not autistic, they all have their own small problems, all of which are caused by genes. Autism symptoms may be caused by special stimuli. If you have autistic children at home, you should see a doctor as soon as possible!
Autism is a worldwide problem. Having two autistic children in a row must be a genetic problem of parents, so they should go to the hospital for testing. Of course, there are also problems with feeding methods.
I have a friend who is autistic because of his parents' upbringing. When we were very young, we would go to the river to catch fish and play house together. Later, because I went to school, my mother took me back from my grandmother's house. At that time, we went out to play, and no matter how late we played, his family would not ask him to come back for dinner. And strangely, his parents either go out to make money or go out to play every day, so they give him a few dollars. At night, his grandparents call him back to sleep, and almost no one cares about him. He often eats at my grandmother's house. Later, I came to my grandmother's house in the summer vacation and met my little friend. I found that he hardly talked to anyone and watched the car at the door every day. No matter how I shouted, he didn't respond. Later, grandma told me that in the whole village, except me, almost no one played with him, and his parents and grandparents hardly talked to him. Slowly, he became quiet, even dull. Later, the doctor diagnosed autism. A good child was forced into autism by his relatives.
Last year, one of my high school classmates gave birth to a child. This year, I heard that she was going to kindergarten. I'm curious, can such a young child go to kindergarten? Later, he said that he went to a special kindergarten, which is autism intervention learning. He and his wife met on a blind date. Girls graduate from college, so do boys, who are tea factory owners. Business is very big, and the combination of two people has almost no economic pressure. And the two hit it off, and there was almost no quarrel after marriage. Later, the child was diagnosed with mild autism, and everyone was surprised, because prenatal education had begun during pregnancy, away from alcohol and tobacco. Everyone speculated that it might be a genetic problem. They have never given birth to a second child and have been training with them wholeheartedly. Now, their symptoms are very good, and they can eat by themselves and say a few simple words. Therefore, even if the child is unfortunately autistic, if the parents are willing to be patient and careful, maybe there will be miracles in heaven.
I am very sympathetic to your experience!
But please don't blame the problem on the problem of raising, because autism is congenital and the cause is still a world problem. You have given birth to two special children in a row, which means there should be something wrong with your husband's gene matching. We can do genetic testing to find out why.
Children's autism has become a reality, and it is meaningless to spend too much time worrying about the reasons. 0-6 years old is the golden recovery period. Spend time in rehabilitation institutions and learn how to help children grow and progress.
It's nobody's fault to have a special child. Don't kidnap yourself, be positive.
I think there are two reasons! Genes are on the one hand, and education is also very relevant. Tell me how my child has changed a little!
When I was pregnant, I was depressed until my child was about one year old, and I didn't like to talk to my child. Just looking at him every day, not talking, not teasing him, obviously feeling that the child is slow.
Later, I was afraid that it would have an impact on my children, so I paid for a childcare sister. She is responsible for talking and communicating with the children every day, and the children are much better.
When the child was five or six months old, I thought it was ok, so I brought it myself. The problem came out again. Children don't talk, are quiet and not naughty, and like to watch the distance alone! Can you imagine how a child who has been silent for several months frowned and looked at the distance?
So I realized that there was a problem and sent my child to an early education class. It was not until the child was two years old that he began to speak and became lively and cheerful. Of course, my depression is better. I read picture books to him and play with him, so I pay more and the children will change slowly …
It didn't look normal until the child went to kindergarten, but the teacher still reflected that the child was honest and inactive, and often seemed to be thinking alone …
So, I think it might be 1. My depression during pregnancy passed something on to my children. After he was born, I had little communication with my child because of depression, which affected his early development. 3. Although it is also making up in the later period, it has missed some golden periods of children's growth.
But now I have put all my energy into it, 1, talking to children every day; 2. Listen to him and guide him to speak; 3. Watch cartoons with him and discuss the characters and plots in the film with him; 4. Accompany him to read picture books and tell him stories ... As a result, the teacher now shows that he has strong concentration and is never afraid of loneliness. He can paint, write and read alone for a long time …
So, I hope you don't lose heart and think about your child's problems and mistakes. You should pay more attention to the bright spots of children. Autistic children also have abilities that ordinary people don't have! Seeing the advantages of your child, you will have the motivation to interact with your child, and he can change slowly. I wish you happiness.
A: There is nothing wrong with being born. Matter determines consciousness. Such a young child should be naive, which is caused by poor physical quality. What kind of body determines what kind of mentality, because the child is uncomfortable, so it is like this. It's getting better and better to take children to squat, change their physique and change the transportation of internal organs and qi and blood. Come with something from the hospital and face it in an all-round way! Hang in there, a good man, how can he be autistic? Just eat well and don't touch junk food!