The sentence "Look at the old at three years old and look at the old at seven years old" simply summarizes the law of children's development. From the psychological characteristics and personality orientation of three-year-old children, we can see the embryonic form of adolescent children's psychological and personality image; From the seven-year-old child, we can see his achievements after middle age.
One: Early education before the age of 7 should not be underestimated. Professor Casbi of the Institute of Psychiatry in London once made such a report, which showed that "the words and deeds of three-year-old children can predict their adult character." This report provides strong evidence for the once sensational statement that "three years old looks big".
Professor Benjamin Bloom, a famous American psychologist, also did an experiment. He conducted a 20-year follow-up study on 1500 infants aged 0-3, and found that the IQ of infants aged 0-3 who received early education was about 17% higher than that of those who did not!
In fact, this has something to do with the growth and development of our brains. 0~3 years old is a critical period for children's brain development. The synapses in the brain, which connect brain neurons and determine intelligence and memory, will increase 20 times within one year after the child is born, and the density will reach its peak before the age of 3. After the age of 3, if the synapse is not stimulated, it will slowly disappear and stop growing.
Child psychologists and educators call the stage of 3-7 years old preschool period, which means that children's personality tendency begins to form at the age of 7, and it is basically difficult to rebuild after 7 years old.
After the age of 7, children's understanding ability, social ability, communication ability and learning ability will tend to a stable state. Parents can make judgments according to their children's comprehensive quality and hobbies, and predict what kind of work and life their children may be engaged in in in the future.
The development of the brain is consistent with the development of intelligence. The brain develops fastest before the age of 3, and then gradually slows down. Before the age of 5, the development of the whole human brain was 80%, and by the age of 7, the structure and function of the brain were basically close to that of adults. Therefore, before the age of 7, it is a critical period of intellectual development.
Educator Saidez once said, "Just like ceramics, it takes shape when you are young. Childhood is like clay for making ceramics, and what kind of education will become what kind of prototype. "
This is also to remind parents to pay attention to the way their children were educated when they were young.
Second, early education is prone to educational mistakes. However, in education, parents often habitually imitate other people's success stories and apply them to their children, but they often fail to get good results, or there is a one-sided education model, which always pays too much attention to the cultivation of hobbies and the improvement of grades, or ignores the all-round development of their abilities, resulting in gaps and omissions in children's development. Here are a few common educational mistakes.
1. Pay too much attention to the development of intelligence
0~3 years old, children need to develop their brain potential in seven aspects, namely, cognitive development, personality development, language development, music development, social development, sensory development and physical development, which is a comprehensive development and training.
However, many parents attach the greatest importance to their children's intellectual development. They believe that as long as their children are smart enough, the future road will be smooth sailing, and their children can also achieve excellent results on the road of learning and become "schoolmasters" and "geniuses".
I have met many such parents, and their parenting philosophy is "You just study hard and leave the rest alone." Therefore, it is also good to arrange other trivial matters for children, just let them study. This will easily lead to the failure of children's self-care ability and independent living ability, and will also lead to physical weakness. Specialty training also has shortcomings, and it will become a "bookworm", which is not conducive to children's future development in society.
2. Do not pay attention to children's interest cultivation
The second typical mistake is that parents can easily impose their ideas on their children and let them become executors. For example, seeing that the child next door won the prize in the piano competition, he also asked his children to learn piano; I heard an expert say that learning a certain specialty is conducive to improving children's intelligence, so I asked my children to sign up for study without thinking …
There are countless such examples, which are actually normal. Everyone has a certain degree of herd mentality, and parents always want their children to become better. Therefore, they reported a lot of remedial classes to their children, but they never considered whether the children liked it or not, and never asked what their hobbies were, which led to the child's talent potential being buried. Children learn things they don't like, and their learning efficiency is also very low.
3. There is no real friendship.
The last typical mistake is that some parents spend a lot of money to enroll their children in many training classes, give them material satisfaction, and want to give their children the best education and send their children who still smell of milk to early education classes. This childhood without parents is doomed to be incomplete. Children's emotional needs are not met, which easily leads to problems in character cultivation. Children will easily become insecure, loveless and unfamiliar with their parents. Their emotional expression is uneducated and flawed, which will affect their interpersonal communication.
Parents, as the first teachers of children's growth, play an important role in education and guidance, especially at the age of 0-7. The child can't grow up again. If they want their children to get better development, parents should not take it lightly.
Three: Parents should pay attention to the education of their children before the age of seven 1. Give children enough love.
Children are very dependent on their parents' love, and their emotional needs also play a very important role in their growth. Therefore, parents should accompany them efficiently, communicate and interact with their children, listen to their inner thoughts and needs, let them feel their parents' love, and increase their sense of security and self-confidence.
2. Pay attention to children's all-round development
Don't just focus on children's intellectual development. It is very important to make a comprehensive and balanced development plan. Although it seems complicated, in fact, as long as parents don't interfere too much with their children's behavior, children have already completed all-round development training unconsciously. For example, when they run and play with their peers, they exercise their physical skills and interpersonal skills. When they play some puzzle games, they are not only entertaining, but also training their senses and recognition ability.
3. Pay attention to discovering children's talents.
Don't impose your ideas on children too much, listen to their ideas and respect their choices. Under the guidance of interest, children are often more efficient in doing what they like, which also promotes the exploration of children's talents.
4. Establish a correct outlook on children.
The period from 0 to 7 years old is also a basic period for the formation of children's three views. Parents should pay attention to cultivating their children's moral ethics, let them establish correct concepts, cultivate their etiquette quality, let them develop good qualities of being helpful, kind and enthusiastic, and let them know that happiness is earned by their own efforts.
In the process of educating children, parents should always pay attention to their own influence and remember the importance of setting an example. Only by setting a good example in front of children can we subtly let children develop good behavior habits.