Can a mother really make her baby a leader among her peers in the future?
The magical theory of multiple intelligences
At present, the time for babies to play and exercise has been greatly reduced, and the time for reading and studying has started earlier and earlier. Is this really good for the baby's growth? The answer is no, which not only brings some negative effects of growth, such as myopia, poor hands-on ability, poor physical fitness and poor self-care ability, but also is not conducive to the baby's intellectual development.
It is the age to play. Why do so many mothers send their babies to various training classes and let them go to class? Many mothers believe that if the baby enters the learning state as soon as possible, the baby can win at the starting line and take the road of a good school and a good job. Mr. Ye Shengtao, a famous educator, said: "Education is agriculture, not industry." Because the baby's growth is a long-term process, the role of running fast and slow is not very important. It is still necessary to follow the baby's physical and mental characteristics and age characteristics and give education suitable for the baby's intelligent characteristics.
If you overdraw your baby's energy at an early age, it is tantamount to pulling out the seedlings. The growth of your baby is not forward but backward, and eventually you will lose your life because of lack of stamina. Therefore, it is an unscientific concept to let the baby enter the learning state too early without losing at the starting line.
As we all know, babies before the age of 3 do not have the ability to learn knowledge and skills. Their nervous system is not fully developed, and they can't control their emotions and actions, so many mistakes will occur. And this time is the key period for the baby to build self-confidence.
The establishment of self-confidence needs the baby to experience success repeatedly and get the encouragement and affirmation of parents before it can be formed. If the baby always does something he can't do, after repeated setbacks, he will not only fail to form self-confidence, but will feel inferior. And a child without self-confidence is doomed to spend his life in failure. Even if the baby overcomes himself and rebuilds his self-confidence when he grows up, his happiness index will be very low. The negative environment of childhood has left a deep imprint on the baby's heart, and it will pop out from time to time to add a trace of bitterness to the baby's happy taste.
Of course, before the age of 3, it is an important period that determines the baby's life. In addition to cultivating the baby's various abilities, the mother should carefully observe the baby during the critical period of the baby's various functional development and discover the baby's unique intelligence, so as to cultivate the baby into a person with special skills and personality.
Psychologists divide human intelligence into eight aspects, namely, language intelligence, music intelligence, mathematical logic intelligence, spatial intelligence, body movement intelligence, introspection intelligence, interpersonal intelligence and natural observation intelligence.
The theory of multiple intelligences not only provides us with a theoretical basis for developing children's intelligence and potential, but also tells us that these eight intelligence factors are equally important, and we can't put linguistic intelligence and logical mathematics intelligence in the most important position. Whether the baby has these talents or not, he should go to the Olympic math class and composition class, but first see if the baby has these two talents and other intelligence.
When judging a child's intelligence, a mother should not look at the baby's performance in infancy or even preschool, but should look at the child's ability and creativity to solve practical problems. For example, after listening to a piece of music, the baby can sing the melody completely. At this time, the mother can let the baby listen to music, sing and learn some musical instruments. What the mother does is only to develop the baby's intelligence, not to cultivate the baby according to the talent of musicians, and then decide whether to focus on cultivating the baby's musical intelligence.
Early education: Digging rather than stuffing ducks.
John Locke, a famous British philosopher, thinker and educator, said in John Locke's Family Education: "Family education is not only a basic education, but also a leading education, which has a profound impact on children's bone marrow and can never be replaced by any school or social education."
Cultivating a child with special skills is the goal of every parent. Of course, it is also an important way to train children to become talents. However, the cultivation of specialties is not to let children do what they want to do, nor to cultivate children according to what parents want their children to be, but to discover their specialties by observing their behaviors, and then decide how to cultivate them.
Fu Cong, the eldest son of Fu Lei, a famous translator and scholar, can become a master of music, which is related to his father's continuous exploration of his potential from Fu Cong himself. Fu Lei is proficient in art theory, so he wants Fu Cong to learn painting, but Fu Cong has no talent for painting, but he has some feelings for music. After a period of observation, Fu Lei gave up the plan to let Fu Cong learn painting, but made up his mind to train Fu Cong into a musician. Facts have proved that Fu Lei's practice is not wrong.
In life, one of the most common mistakes made by mothers is that when the baby reaches a critical period, it is necessary for the baby to learn what it will learn. For example, when other babies can already speak a long paragraph, and their own babies can only speak one word, the mother is in a hurry. No matter how sensitive the baby is to the pictures in her hand, she will drag the baby over and teach him to talk.
It is unfair to compare the disadvantages of children with the advantages of other children. Because different children have different levels of development, different intellectual advantages and different specialties. Different children develop at different speeds. Every child develops slowly and quickly. Supporting rapid development and training slow development are the best methods.