Companionship is the best gift for children. In real life, many parents want their children to thrive, but sometimes it is not good to neglect companionship because of work reasons. In fact, companionship is the best gift for children.
Companionship is the best gift for children. 1 Like many mothers, although they are very aware of the importance of accompanying their babies, sometimes they really long for some time of their own. At this time, I always hope that a super boy will appear and help me attract this child who sticks to me all day. However, most of my plots failed. It seems that the more I want the toy to babysit for me, the more the baby sticks to me. When I had the opportunity to talk to early education experts about this matter, I found that I needed to look at it from another angle.
For babies, especially those who are about two years old, a very important goal is to hope to do something that can get the attention and appreciation of their mothers. Therefore, the baby will want his mother to be by his side and concentrate on watching him do something. The baby will enjoy his mother's attention and his sense of self-worth will be improved. If conditions permit, the mother should try to meet the baby's needs. This is a need in the baby's self-development. The baby will hope to get confirmation and affirmation from his mother's eyes because he has done something to be proud of. The more confirmation a mother gives her baby, the more helpful it is to her baby's self-development.
What a mother needs to do is actually to deal with her inner emotions. This kind of silly company often makes my mother feel that she is being controlled and wasting her time. In fact, the mother is the baby's container, and the baby needs her to hold him at this moment. The significance of mother's presence is to provide a safe environment for the baby. The baby needs to do his own thing in this safe gas field created by his mother, and needs his mother to confirm and affirm him constantly. Although my mother only looked at him, it was also a spiritual nourishment for him.
If the mother really has something that can't be arranged and can't concentrate on seeing the baby, she can also deal with this problem from another angle. For example, make a small agreement with your baby before he plays games. You can tell your baby, "Let's play a game together. In this game, mom and you should have a division of labor. Your task is reading, and your mother is responsible for serving you and cooking for you. " In this way, although you are busy in the kitchen, in the baby's feeling, you are only doing different branches of the same game, rather than doing things that have nothing to do with him. The baby won't feel that you have neglected him, and it will be more acceptable.
It can be seen that buying toys to go home is just the beginning, and the process of playing with mom is the gift that the baby needs most. Some tricks that can be played make the play between mother and baby happier.
Let the baby dominate the game
When playing toys or games, the baby should take the lead, but parents can participate creatively. The so-called "creative participation" means that parents should not be completely passive and let their babies play whatever they want. During the game, parents can also join as "gamers" and express their ideas while affirming and respecting the baby's gameplay. Babies understand their parents' new ways of playing. On the one hand, he will imitate and follow, and at the same time, he will actively come up with more new ideas. Parents don't make an appointment to bind the baby and put pressure on the baby to play in the way parents expect, but guide the baby and inspire him to think of more new ways to play. Make the game more extensible.
For example, parents can consciously guide their babies to explore more interesting ways of playing through the preparation of game props. When playing with water, parents can prepare some props such as watering cans, buckets and sieves for their babies, and even add pigments and flour to make the game show more tentacles and extend in more directions.
Give the baby full-time companionship.
Children playing with toys is a process of projecting their creativity and inner psychological feelings. If parents give too much guidance, it will interfere with the baby's creativity and the process of integrating his inner psychological feelings. In the process of playing games with the baby, parents are not "people" but "body and mind" in the matter of accompanying games. Throw yourself into the game and feel what the baby needs you to do with him. In this way, we can really connect with the baby's emotions and give the baby enough nourishment.
The baby's game should not have too many challenges.
Some mothers like to deliberately create some challenges when playing, so that the baby can overcome them, thinking that this can help the baby exercise. But in fact, for babies before the age of 3, the cultivation of self-confidence is more critical than ability. If parents constantly set challenges for their baby in the game, let the baby experience disappointment in himself again and again because he can't reach his goal. In the long run, the baby will gradually lose confidence in himself. Therefore, it is king for mothers to encourage their babies under 3 years old.
Companionship is the best gift for children. 1. The company of parents can help children build a sense of security.
Children's sense of security comes from parents' unconditional love and from the love between parents. The company of parents can make children feel concerned and supported, thus having more courage and confidence to face the challenges and setbacks of life. Children who lack their parents' company can't meet their emotional needs, and they are more likely to feel inferior and have a defective personality. When they encounter difficulties, they are more likely to go to extremes, such as committing crimes, taking drugs and even self-mutilation.
Second, the companionship of parents can help children establish correct values.
Parents are children's life mentors. In the process of companionship, we need to tell our children what is right and wrong, what can and cannot be done, and cultivate their integrity and self-discipline.
Third, the companionship of parents is conducive to improving children's IQ and EQ.
Parents accompany their children and communicate with them constantly. On the one hand, they added emotional vocabulary; On the other hand, help them understand the mode of getting along with others, learn to manage and control their emotions, and then improve their IQ and EQ.
Since there are so many benefits for parents to accompany their children, why do some parents spend less and less time with their children? It may be that the pace of life is fast, and parents are busy with work and entertainment and have no time to spend with their children.
It may also be that parents would rather use their mobile phones to brush Tik Tok and watch videos than accompany their children. In the final analysis, accompanying children requires emotional output, which is time-consuming and brain-consuming, and parents want to avoid responsibility. However, it is the unshirkable responsibility of parents to accompany their children. Accompanying is not the length of time, but the quality.
I made mistakes in the process of accompanying my children, but I can correct them. As a novice mother, I need to keep growing. Let's share how we accompany our children in our daily life:
First, I made an agreement with my child's father that when I came home from work, I would put away my mobile phone and accompany my child wholeheartedly.
The child is very sensitive. We just need to send a WeChat through an indirect phone call in the company, and the children will loudly remind them not to play mobile phones. If we don't put away our mobile phones at once, the children will start to get angry and then cry. At first, we thought he was making trouble unreasonably. Later, we thought he was expressing his dissatisfaction to us in this way and protesting our indifference to him.
Therefore, later we stipulated that we should put away our mobile phones and accompany our children wholeheartedly. Chat, read or play with your child, and devote yourself to it. Even if it is only ten minutes, the child is very happy, because he can feel the concern and care of his parents.
Second, take the children out to play on weekends and enjoy the parent-child weekend.
If the weather is fine, we will go to parks, zoos and other outdoor places to let children get in touch with nature, feel for themselves, and know and understand the mysteries of nature; If the weather is bad, we will choose indoor public places, such as libraries, art galleries and museums. Accompany children to read books, appreciate paintings, appreciate historical and cultural details, and improve their personal quality. We are very opposed to taking children to entertainment places to play mobile games, which is both a waste of money and meaningless. That's because machines accompany children, not parents.
Third, small holidays, big holidays, we will take the children and the elderly out for a short or long trip.
As the saying goes, "It is better to take the Wan Li Road than to study in thousands of books". Taking children out for a walk during the holidays can not only appreciate the beautiful scenery of different places and experience different customs, but also enhance the feelings between children and their parents, children and grandparents. Give children's childhood and leave good memories for us adults.
In fact, children's needs are easy to meet. They don't ask their parents to be rich or expensive, nor do they ask their parents to provide rich material life. They just need their parents' company and unconditional love. Why don't parents want to spend more time with them? Call on parents to abandon selfishness, generously dedicate their time, and help their children to protect the happiness and happiness of the moment under the conditions they can. Companionship is the best gift for children. Let's grow up with our children!