Because of this "childish" behavior, I often make fun of her and ask her if she can summon the dragon by collecting stickers. She said seriously that this is her own source of motivation. Every time she studies continuously for 2 1 day, she has to buy herself shoes or cosmetics. In this way, after half a year, on the same day that I gave birth to my baby and submitted my resignation, she also resigned and went to South America alone.
I received an email from her the other day, saying that I am now teaching English in a small town in South America, and there is no obstacle to Spanish, so I can integrate with local children. The point is, I also met a handsome local guy who has eight ABS and is cooking for her.
I replied to the email and praised her: I carefully collected stickers and really summoned the dragon.
Self-discipline is a powerful ability, and people who are fortunate enough to have it since childhood can always realize their dreams more easily. But self-discipline is not innate, and some skills can make self-discipline easier.
This reminds me of an American kindergarten I visited some time ago.
This kindergarten attaches great importance to children's practical ability. Every child has his own "task". For example, one child is responsible for handing out placemats to the teacher at snack time, and two children are responsible for watering the green plants in the classroom. How can such a young child remember to perform these tasks every day?
The original secret is in such a task list:
Children who finish the task can get a sticker from the teacher and stick it under their task. At first glance, you don't even need to read, and the difficulty of getting started is zero.
Only by chatting with the kindergarten director did I know that this task list is a very scientific self-management enlightenment tool, which can be used not only by children but also by adults to achieve their goals. It has a wide range of uses, such as encouraging children to go to the toilet for training, participating in housework, reading independently, and developing good work and rest habits. The task list mainly helps children learn to manage themselves better from the following two aspects:
1. Make each task "visible"
After Su Bao was two years old, I began to try to involve her in managing her own work and rest plan, but it is difficult for two-year-old children to remember to drink milk before brushing their teeth every night before going to bed, and finally to read picture books. The solution was also learned from her American early education teacher. Each task is clearly marked with a small picture in sequence, and a small window is closed when a task is completed.
Like this:
As mentioned above, the girl who is fluent in Spanish in Fragment Time has perfect coordination ability and likes to say "seeing is believing" best. She often uses a notebook to carefully plan her work and clearly write out all tasks, which is also the secret of self-management at the age of 65,438+0-65,438+000: visualize, write down and draw tasks, whether for long-term goals or small things to be completed today.
2. Give children the motivation to manage themselves
Remember when I was in kindergarten, I got the happiness brought by little red flowers? "Reward" is a very strange thing, which not only has a miraculous effect on children, but also helps adults to achieve self-improvement.
The task list has a wide range of uses, and you can DIY at home. I'm trying to give Su Bao toilet training recently. No matter how much I encourage her verbally, she is not interested in the toilet. That day, she doodled on a piece of white paper, and I suggested that we make a potty map and learn to go to the toilet together, so there was this:
You can get the star stickers by going to the toilet yourself. After Su Bao got the first sticker, she suddenly became interested in toilet training. She often goes to the toilet voluntarily. I have to admit that a clear task list and these little star stickers are more useful for a two-year-old baby than adults persuading her to go to the toilet.
How to make a task list at home?
Common uses of task lists include participation in housework:
Establish a routine:
Develop good living habits:
When drawing a task table, you can consider starting with these two types:
1. Centered on the task axis
Use pictures to represent tasks, and get a sticker for each task. This kind of task list is really zero difficulty, no literacy is needed, and the entry age is about 2 years old.
Remember that the task can't be too difficult. If the price of getting rewards is too high, children will easily lose interest. When designing the task list, remember to separate the tasks, such as brushing your teeth, washing your face and going to the toilet before going to bed, which should be three tasks respectively, instead of being called "preparation before going to bed" in general.
2. Take the time axis as the center
This task list is suitable for older children (after 3 years old, or after having a certain concept of date and week), and encourages children to adhere to good habits for a period of time.
For example, if you display daily housework stickers and do housework for seven days in a row, you can get some substantial rewards:
For another example, you can get a colored stick by brushing your teeth, and you can get a new toy by collecting seven sticks.
Of course, children's patience is limited, and the process of getting rewards cannot be too long. Don't overemphasize the reward, so as not to complete the task for the sake of reward, but praise TA's efforts when the child completes the task continuously.