On the one hand, it is pity for the children now, on the other hand, it is the desire and expectation for the children to become talents in the future. Such a contradictory mentality will only bring trouble to children's education in the future. To truly love children, parents must overcome their psychological problems. Although early family education is for children, it is actually training parents.
To educate children well, parents must first receive education, that is, how to be a good parent. This is a process of growing up with children.
The first three years of a child's growth are very important.
According to the research and analysis at home and abroad, the emergence of psychological problems and behavior problems of a family member is often closely related to the family communication style and family structure. Many problems of teenagers are rooted in improper family education. For example, some "grumpy" students often have grumpy parents at home. If parents attach importance to education, set an example, and consciously cultivate their children's emotional management before the age of 3, then children will know how to control themselves, express their unhappiness, sadness, disappointment and frustration through the right channels, and develop the right way of doing things in adulthood. In other words, the behavior of a child as an adult is also a projection of his childhood. As the saying goes, "Look at the old at one year old and look at the old at three years old." The quality of family education environment is related to the psychological and behavioral health of children after adulthood, and the importance of early education can not be ignored.
Children need their parents to grow up with them.
Obviously, early family education is needed, but the way to carry out this process is different, and different methods need to be taken according to the different situation of each family. First of all, children's growth needs are the first, and parents can judge and guide how to do it accordingly, so early family education will get twice the result with half the effort.
Secondly, in the process of children's growth, parents must accompany them.
Going shopping with children is a kind of companionship, and it is also a kind of companionship to accompany children to the zoo to observe small animals, but obviously the latter has far-reaching educational significance. Therefore, it is not enough to understand companionship literally. This kind of companionship is more of a kind of growth. If you want to expect your child to become a talent in the future, time, money and meaningful companionship are indispensable. Parents need to constantly improve themselves and learn how to better "accompany" their children's growth, which is what every family needs and a growing process that cannot be ignored. And early education is not only the growth of children and parents, but also the companion way to improve parent-child relationship!
Mom and dad's wish
Now there are all kinds of books on parenting wisdom circulating in the market, and parents' enthusiasm for children's education is unprecedented. For example, when they see the appearance of "wolf dad", "tiger mom" and "cat dad", they all envy their children who have been admitted to famous schools, can write ancient poems and play the piano well. Faced with the experience of these successful parents, do you just buy your children a copy of their empiricism? Or, you will admire others and think calmly: I also long for my baby to succeed, but he has his own way to go.
Let the child become what he wants to be.
One phenomenon is particularly strange. Many parents are alienated in their children's early family education. However, once a child enters school, all kinds of "talent training classes" and "growth summer camps" arranged by parents will occupy the children's weekend time. That is, in the process of cultivating children, some parents often pay too much attention to their achievements and skills, while ignoring their own growth laws. Famous writer Elizabeth? O 'Connor once wrote: Every child's life indicates the road he will take. Therefore, instead of thinking about making children "the person parents want him to be", it is better to learn to guide children to become "the person he wants to be".
Let children have the wisdom of life.
Parents and children should maintain high-quality parent-child communication and interaction. In early family education, it is the key to give children life wisdom, such as building their self-confidence first. Under the guidance, encouragement and recognition of parents, let children be full of self-confidence, so as to know themselves objectively and comprehensively and find a path suitable for their growth in the process of life. Of course, not all flowers are in the same flowering period, so parents should first have a good attitude and don't rush for success. Besides, education has only a starting point and no end. Once you become a parent, you have already entered the journey of educating your children. Giving a child wisdom in life will benefit him all his life.