Ten books that new dad must read during pregnancy.
Men all dream of being a know-it-all, just like the pocket of blue fat robot cat, which can cope with all the questions raised by friends; Men also ask strange questions from time to time, but most of them are not answered. As they grow up, their dreams are slowly extinguished and forgotten. When a man is about to become a father, he finds that these thoughts reappear in the rivers and lakes, and the elf-like children begin to "inherit" these thoughts.
It is the best way for pregnant fathers to communicate with their children and read sleep stories every day. The story is rich in meaning, the words are warm and inclusive, simple and easy to understand, full of wisdom and love, which will accompany the day when the baby becomes a beautiful butterfly.
1, "expectant fathers read prenatal education stories"
The story is simple and dads can recite it affectionately.
2. "Dad is pregnant, too."
If you are a prospective father, your wonderful journey will be full of surprises ... from the first time you hear the news that you are going to be a father, to the first time you see the baby in an ultrasound examination, to the first time you let your wife please her during pregnancy and get in close contact with her in fear, to the first time you feel the baby kicking your mother's stomach, to the first time you witness the birth process, and then to the first night you bring the baby home.
This extraordinary guide brings together many experts' scientific advice and includes a large number of parents' first-hand experience, which can provide the best advice on maternity for expectant mothers and fathers. A major feature of "Dad is Pregnant" is to lead you through the most exciting, complicated, nervous and fearful course in life in the form of incredible stories and tips. Dad is pregnant, too. Introduce everything you need to know about her and everything she needs to know about you with medical clues.
3. "A good mother is better than a good teacher"
There are family education principles and operating methods. After reading half of it, I often can't help but admire the author's thoughtful mind, which has benefited a lot and I like it very much!
4. "Baby's favorite dish"
Teach everyone to make complementary food for babies aged 0-3. The picture is exquisite, and the complementary food taught to everyone is not only nutritious but also delicious. I love it!
5. Montessori practical family education project (1-3 years old)
Teach parents and babies to play small games, and cultivate their ability to analyze and solve problems through games. I think it's quite interesting. You will know how to play with the baby in the future.
6, "Shrimp Mommy Parenting Classic"
Combining many years of clinical experience and medical science popularization conducted by millions of fans in Weibo, Mommy Shrimp talks about the problem of raising children aged 0-6 from nine aspects: newborn care, common skin problems, breast feeding, milk powder feeding, complementary food addition, sleep problems, defecation problems, physiological development and behavior habits in sensitive period, and gives detailed guidance and suggestions on the baby's diet and nutrition collocation, daily life care and growth and development problems.
7. Early education and genius
This paper clarifies some educational misunderstandings, expounds the importance, urgency and feasibility of early childhood education, and tells us how to cultivate children's comprehensive quality.
8. "Fall in love with good habits: good habits will benefit your baby for a lifetime."
Comic books. The picture is lovely, six little books and six stories. Teach your baby to develop good habits and show them to him later. It's just a comic book, and the cost performance is a bit low.
9. "China people should use drugs like this."
Describe the principles of daily medication in China.
10, Zheng Yuqiao Parenting Encyclopedia
The content covers the whole process from pregnancy preparation, pregnancy, postpartum recovery to the growth and development stage of the baby at the age of 0-3, which can be called an encyclopedia of the whole process of pregnancy, childbirth and education. ?
The benefits of prenatal education aimed at dad
The fetus especially likes to listen to his father's voice. Under his father's singing and touching, he can express his satisfaction with a seemingly "intoxicated" gentle shaking action. When a baby cries after birth, the mother often can't make it quiet, but the father can make it quiet or fall asleep as soon as possible by singing familiar songs and touching. This probably has a lot to do with the fact that the fetus doesn't like high, sharp and thin sounds (which often cause increased fetal movement), but prefers low and generous sounds. Therefore, some psychologists have put forward an extremely useful suggestion, asking dad to talk to the fetus, and creating a premise for establishing a cordial and profound relationship with the baby after birth.
When a father speaks to the fetus, it is first a concrete manifestation of his love. The fetus can not only feel maternal love through hearing and touch, but also feel the warmth of father's love, which is of great benefit to the fetus' emotional lactation. It is also a great psychological comfort for the mother to touch the fetus and talk to him. This kind of family happiness is gestation; The best atmosphere for raising and educating children. Conversation is the main content of the game between father and fetus.
I hope that the prospective father can often play with the fetus, establish a sincere father-son relationship as soon as possible and promote the healthy development of the fetus.
Dialogue prenatal education
Acoustical research shows that the fetus is most suitable to listen to low-and medium-frequency sounds in the womb, while the male voice is mainly low-and medium-frequency sounds. Therefore, the father insists on speaking to the fetus in the womb every day, so that the fetus can be familiar with his voice, which can cause the most positive reaction of the fetus and is conducive to the intellectual and emotional stability of the fetus after birth.
1, father's opening and closing remarks
At the beginning and end of speaking to the fetus, the father should routinely speak to the fetus in soothing and self-conscious language. The opening and closing remarks can be designed as follows:
The language of the opening speech is: "Baby (or nickname), I am your father, I will talk to you every day, and I will tell you everything beautiful in the outside world."
At the end of the conversation, encourage the fetus: "study hard, baby. You are a smart child. I hope everything I teach you will be useful to your future life." Ok, that's all for today. Bye! "
If possible, the father should talk to the fetus every day, which can deepen the feelings with the baby.
2, the specific method of dialogue with the fetus
The husband can let the pregnant wife sit in a spacious and comfortable chair, and then the wife will say to the fetus, "Good boy, dad is nearby. Do you want to hear what he has to say to you? " At this point, the husband should sit 50 cm away from his wife, start the conversation in a calm tone, and then gradually raise his voice as the conversation unfolds, so as not to scare the fetus with high notes at once.
It is best to conceive the topic of teaching in advance. First, draft a small speech. The content of the manuscript can be a beautiful and moving story, a pure nursery rhyme, an ancient poem with simple content, or you can talk about your work and your understanding of things around you. Tell the children the beautiful new world outside with poetic language and fairy-tale artistic conception.
Intimate words: love for the baby is the most important tool for the prospective father to talk. After the baby feels your love, he can grow up happier.
Emotional prenatal education
Emotional prenatal education is to adjust the mood of pregnant women, make them forget their troubles and worries, create a fresh atmosphere and a harmonious state of mind, and promote the good development of fetal brain through the role of mother neurotransmitters.
As a husband, he has an unshirkable responsibility in emotional prenatal education, and should pay attention to the following aspects:
1, be a good "logistics minister": a pregnant wife has to bear the nutrition of two people, and life is very tired. If the nutrition is insufficient or the appetite is poor, it will not only make the wife physically weak, but also seriously affect the intellectual development of the fetus. Because, the material basis of infant intelligence formation, 2/3 is formed in embryonic period. Therefore, the husband should care about the nutrition of his wife during pregnancy and try his best to be the "logistics minister" of his wife and fetus.
2. Enrich life interest: In the morning, go for a walk in parks, Woods or fields with a fresh environment with your wife, do morning exercises, and enjoin your wife to bask in the sun during the day. In this way, the wife will also feel the warmth and thoughtfulness of her husband and feel at ease.
3, humorous things: the wife's hormone secretion has undergone a lot of changes after pregnancy, resulting in various uncomfortable pregnancy reactions, so the mood is unstable, especially need to talk to her husband. At this time, the only way for a husband to stabilize his wife's mood is to comfort and enlighten her with humorous language and jokes.
4. Assist the wife in prenatal education: the husband's thoughtfulness and concern for his wife, and the father's touch and "talk" to the fetus are vivid and effective emotional prenatal education.
Intimate words: pregnant mommy's good mood is the best prenatal education for her baby. The prospective father's love for his wife will be indirectly passed on to the fetus, and the baby who grows up in love will be healthier.
Touch prenatal education
When pregnant for 6 months, the pregnant woman's abdomen can obviously touch the head, back and limbs of the fetus. Touching prenatal education is an effective way to promote the intellectual development of fetus and deepen the emotional connection between parents and fetus.
Operation method: It is a good time to caress prenatal education after getting up and going to bed, and it should be avoided after meals. Generally, you can enter it three times a day for about 5 minutes each time. The specific method is that pregnant women empty urine, lie flat on the bed, bend the knee joint of lower limbs to the abdomen, put their feet flat on the bed and relax the whole body. At this time, the pregnant woman's abdomen is soft and easy to touch.
The prospective father should first gently touch the abdomen for a while, and then gently press the fetal body with his fingers, which can be done alternately. Some fetuses will react when touched or pressed at the beginning. With the increase of gestational age, the fetal reaction will become more and more obvious. When the fetus is used to shiatsu, he will take the initiative to pick him up. Light touch combined with light finger pressure can distinguish fetal head from round hard, flat back, round soft buttocks, irregular limbs and frequent movements. When patting the fetus on the back, the fetus sometimes turns over and turns its hands and feet. At this time, you can gently touch it with your hand to calm it down.
Precautions for prenatal education of prospective fathers
1. Don't do anything to stimulate your wife's feelings. Because even small things during pregnancy will be very sensitive, and the mood will easily become anxious and melancholy, so it can't be stimulated emotionally. During pregnancy, couples should exchange more feelings and talk more about their own ideas.
2. When your wife is unhappy, understand her more. At the same time, in order to avoid depression during pregnancy, it is necessary to help the wife adjust her mood. Let pregnant women listen to music prenatal education; Take a walk; Go shopping together; Eating out; It's good to go to expositions and concerts.
3. Accompany your wife to the hospital during regular physical examination. Through ultrasonic examination, I can observe the fetal movement with my wife, listen to the beating of my heart, share the joy of pregnancy with my wife and feel the baby coming from the bottom of my heart.
4. In the second trimester of pregnancy, the stomach will become bigger and the breasts will become bigger. Underwear before pregnancy will look small, and the bra should be worn in a larger size. At this time, it is best to buy underwear for your wife as a gift, even after birth.
When your wife has low back pain or swollen legs, give her a massage.
6. Prepare food with high nutritional value for your wife, because if your mother eats well, your baby will be healthy.
7. Join a natural gymnastics class with your wife. Pregnant women gymnastics is also good for her husband's health. Husbands who sit and work for a long time can do gymnastics to keep fit and prevent prostatitis and obesity.
8. When you feel fetal movement, you should put your hand on your wife's stomach and communicate with the fetus.
Check the late pregnancy
① After 32 ~ 33 weeks, normal B-ultrasound or two-dimensional examination is enough, without three-dimensional or four-dimensional examination. Expectant mothers who plan to give birth naturally can adjust their diet according to the baby's weight and other indicators. For example, if your baby is overweight, avoid sweets and fruits with high sugar content. If you are thin, eat more sweets.
② Trace elements were detected at 32 ~ 33 weeks in the third trimester. Be sure to make up before the semester. If iron, zinc and calcium are seriously deficient, it is necessary to take medicine and infusion treatment, which will have a great impact on the fetus.
③ Fetal heart monitoring should be done from 35 weeks at the latest, once a week 1-2 times. Until the baby is born. Fetal heart monitoring is a fetal heart test lasting about 20 minutes. Expectant mothers with umbilical cord around the neck can take the initiative to ask for more than five minutes to test their baby's fetal heart in three positions: left, flat and right. First-born Dabao umbilical cord around the neck three times, twice at most. After fetal heart monitoring, it was found that the fetal heart was the most stable when the baby was on the right side. The doctor advised me to lie on the right side, saying that lying on the right side might make the baby's umbilical cord loose.
(4) B-ultrasound after full term, except for the one about 33 weeks, it is recommended to do another B-ultrasound at the end of 37 weeks to estimate the baby's size, weight and development, so as to facilitate the storage of goods, and consider natural delivery or caesarean section.
⑤ Stop taking calcium tablets from 33 weeks, and those who take calcium supplements don't have to stop taking them.