? How to discipline a 5-year-old disobedient child
From the perspective of modern education, it is obviously a misunderstanding to take "obedience" as the goal of educating children, which is not conducive to the development of children's personality and the stimulation of their potential.
In a sense, children who are too obedient may be "problem children".
Preschool children have a certain sense of independence and have their own ideas about everything. At this time, it is even less important to let the children obey, and they should listen to the children.
2. Think from the child's perspective. If you think your children are against you, your children will be against you. So we should know more about children and children. Regular communication is essential.
A disobedient child is a good boy, and a disobedient child is a bad boy. Sometimes, we need to change the way and use some methods.
Children should be given more choices, because children around the age of 3-5 may begin to sprout self-awareness, and even learn not to listen to their parents and show a little rebellion.
At this time, it is necessary to give children more free space and more choices, rather than rudely ordering children to do things. For example, when a child doesn't eat or doesn't want to study, you can ask him whether to study now or after playing for five minutes. If there is such a choice, the child may accept it better.
Children should also be encouraged and tolerated. Disobedient behavior cannot be denied simply and rudely, but you should know that children are self-conscious. For example, children can easily say no to their parents and refuse to cooperate with their parents.
At this time, we should know that children have the consciousness of fighting for independence and give them appropriate encouragement. At the same time, let children increase their hands-on ability, such as learning to do simple cleaning and doing housework as much as possible to make children more independent.
What are the reasons why 5-year-old children are disobedient?
1, parents ignore their children's actual situation and intellectual characteristics and blindly let their children chase after them.
As a result, the child's countless efforts have brought countless failures. Finally, he lost his self-confidence, became negative and inferior, developed his parents' requirements, and immediately got rid of his bad habits.
2. Parents often adopt "early education" and "compulsory education" that are not in line with their children's age characteristics, regardless of their acceptance and inner needs, so that children are discouraged.
When it comes to children's behavior training, parents always fantasize that children will do it as soon as they say it, and the results will make them deeply satisfied. In fact, many trainings need parents to demonstrate and drive learning first, and they need constant homeopathic guidance and methods, and it takes time to adapt and strengthen.
3. Begin to learn to think independently and try to learn to choose. With the growth of children's age and rich knowledge and experience, more and more children begin to learn to observe, think and reflect. Especially when children reach the senior grade of primary school, their parents' words will be "re-processed", re-recognized and re-selected unconsciously.
When parents disagree with their own ideas, children usually adopt such a way of thinking, that is, "dilemma-balance-choice". Dilemma is a common problem. Balance is a kind of wisdom, and choice is a strategy.