Don't cry, if you cry again, I'll throw you away.

I did it for your own good. Don't be ignorant of good or bad. '' ...

I believe many parents have said these words to their children. Maybe some parents will explain why they say such things, but after saying them, some words can't be taken back and some injuries can't be healed.

Xiao Nan is a junior two student. Because of the epidemic, she has been attending classes online at home. Mom and dad are the owners of a restaurant. They haven't opened their doors for half a year. There is no way. They are going to work as temporary workers in the factory and get up early every day to make money.

One day, Xiao Nan's classmates called him and said that a new library had opened nearby and he wanted to go with Xiao Nan and buy some books to read. Xiao Nan said to her father,' Dad, get me some money, and I will study with my classmates'. Dad didn't care, so he took the money to the child. As a result, Xiao Nan spent all the 200 yuan she gave.

Dad is very angry and thinks that children spend money indiscriminately and can't read enough books. I have to spend all my money. Do you know how difficult it is for me to make money? If it weren't for your study, would I be so tired? Can't you buy one? You must spend all your money. Xiao Nan was very sad when she looked at her father yelling. From then on, he never dared to ask his father for money.

Xiao Nan, this is just a junior high school student. What if it's a three-to four-year-old child? Children love to cry, because they will cry because of little things, such as: someone else took his toy; Accidentally wet his clothes.

At this time, parents said to their children,' Don't cry, I won't want you if you cry again'. What will happen? It will only make children more timid, more crying and more insecure.

Therefore, as parents of children, we should avoid these words that make children feel scared and sad, and try our best to let children live in a warm and loving harbor.

Don't use the following words to hurt children any more.

1, cry again and I'll leave you here.

Of all the languages that hurt children, this sentence is undoubtedly the most lethal. Because it undermines children's trust and dependence on their parents.

Parents will never understand the consequences of saying' leave you here' in their children's minds. Children will think that my parents will abandon me because I am disobedient. It turns out that their love for me is based on not crying.

In the fear of' leaving you here', they learned to accept it, and also learned to observe their parents' emotions and live cautiously and cautiously.

I did all this for you.

Many parents force their children to do whatever they want under the banner of' for your own good'.

There is such a question in Zhihu: How did your parents treat you?

Many netizens have answered, and they can't stand their parents' meticulous care. For example, if they find someone, their parents will not agree. Some answer, mom always puts something in your mouth, for fear that you won't have enough to eat; Others signed up for a cram school, but the family disagreed, saying that it was not a serious school.

Such parents care about everything, but they destroy the child's self invisibly, just like the flowers in the greenhouse can never stand the wind and rain outside.

Maria Montessori once said: A child is not a bottle waiting to be filled by parents. They don't always need the help of their families.

This won't work, and you won't be allowed to do that. Not training children, but copying yourself. All children will eventually become themselves. Don't use such a name to undermine their right to be themselves.

I work hard for you.

Life is really hard now, and the work pressure is still great. A naughty child is even more annoying, but he says to the child,' I am working so hard for you'. Parents give them pressure from themselves, and young hearts will feel that all the hardships and troubles of their parents are caused by me. I must have let my parents down by being so naughty.

The hardship of adults' life is not the weight that children can bear, nor should it be an excuse for them to feel guilty after making mistakes.

Life is really bitter, but it is not caused by children. It is the responsibility of parents to carry this family.

I told you, but I don't want to hear it.

I took my baby to dinner a few days ago and met a family of three in the restaurant, probably because I haven't been out for a long time. The children in that family seem to be very excited and chattering in their seats. His father may have ordered a little more food, and the children ran to help his father get it. As a result, a rice bowl was accidentally dropped on the ground by a child, and his father immediately flew into a rage and began to scold the child:' I told you so, you. The child silently wiped away the tears.

Many parents are familiar with such words and turn their worries into accusations and reprimands. In this case, in addition to highlighting parents' expectations, it will not help solve children's problems.

The growth of children is to grow up by constantly making mistakes. Instead of accusing them of disobedience, it is better to guide children and how to face the consequences. No matter how good the truth is, it can't compare with the child's own personal experience. Only through experience can you enter the child's heart.