First, parents should manage their emotions and don't be anxious.
This is the most important point, even if parents do nothing, the children will not be too bad.
However, if parents don't know what to do, they have doubts about the transition from kindergarten to primary school. More serious anxiety will seriously affect children, which will make children feel that primary school may be very sad, with too much learning content, too much pressure and unfriendly teachers.
In short, what parents worry about, what children will be afraid of. Children are very sensitive. As long as you are anxious, the child will notice.
I don't know what to do, and I don't want to do anything. It's better than simply worrying.
However, for most parents, it is definitely impossible to be completely Buddhist. They are worried about their children's performance in primary school and hope that their children will be excellent.
Then there is a useful way to avoid anxiety, that is, study.
"You have a goal in your mind, a route in your mind, and actions under your feet", that is to say, you should take corresponding actions for what you want your children to do. If you don't have the ability and time to do so much, don't set too high a goal.
If you set a goal, you must have a route.
If you want your children to have strong athletic ability, don't be lazy, take them to climb mountains, go outdoors, run and exercise.
If you want children to love reading, you should buy more picture books and age-appropriate books, create a reading atmosphere at home, and accompany your children to study;
If children want to master English in primary school, they must have corresponding learning plans, including listening, speaking, reading and writing step by step;
If you want to train a musician, you should train him from an early age like Mozart or Beethoven's parents.
I want my children to develop in an all-round and balanced way, so I will take them outdoors on weekends, and I also create reading conditions at home. I am also consciously cultivating my ability to really manage my time and things. I am also paying attention to her emotional management, thinking and action in all aspects. At the same time, in the process of getting along with other children, I will also observe and think about what I have done well, what I have done badly, or ignore it at all.
Most of us are ordinary and don't have the conditions to raise a great child, so the goals we set should be realistic and match our abilities.
With the route, it is good to implement it. Take children to outdoor sports, play games to enhance parent-child feelings, take children to read books, buy some new books from time to time or go to the library to read, and cultivate children's independence and emotional control ability in daily life.
There is really nothing to worry about with goals, routes, actions and regular rectification.
In daily life, we can look forward to primary school life with our children, give them a psychological construction, and let them sincerely agree that they will become big brothers and big sisters in the first grade, and have the opportunity to learn more knowledge and get in touch with more interesting people, things and things in a larger space.
Second, ability is more important than knowledge.
This applies at any stage, not just young convergence.
There are many differences between kindergarten and primary school. Kindergarten is mainly a game mode, and primary school is a classroom mode. A class is usually 40 minutes, and children need to observe classroom discipline during these 40 minutes.
The teaching contents in kindergartens are mainly language, art, health and cultivating children's self-care ability, while the teaching contents in primary schools are mainly subject-oriented.
The code of conduct and evaluation criteria are also different. The whole school environment and learning style are completely different.
Therefore, children need to cultivate several abilities to adapt to the transition from kindergarten to primary school.
First, self-management
To manage time well, children should be able to plan their own time and arrange a day's work and rest with the help of their parents.
If you don't pay attention to the early training, children are unlikely to have this ability at once. Parents need to look at their abilities objectively, and don't go too far or let themselves go. Just like a child learning any skill, it should be done step by step.
First of all, from the time of understanding, feel how long 1 minute is, how long it is 5 minutes, and estimate how long it will take from home to school and how long it will take to pack your schoolbag. Know the time through such a time game.
Then start planning the morning, how long it will take from getting up, staying in bed, dressing, washing and eating breakfast, and how to operate each step; Plan evening, dinner, games, reading, bathing and sleeping.
Start training from a short time plan and gradually transition to a full-day schedule.
In order to manage things, children should be able to arrange their schoolbags according to the next day's classes and activities, choose clothes to wear, and maybe bring some to finish their homework.
This is the same, step by step.
In the process of cultivating this ability, children can learn to cook, bake cakes and biscuits, prepare materials, experience the time-consuming of different links and the order of doing different things. In these housework processes, children can learn the ability of time and goods management. In the meantime, children can also plan their own picnics and parties, from preparing materials to inviting friends, from when to set out and how to decorate the scene. This kind of life activity is a very good learning opportunity.
Managing emotions, some children are prone to outbursts, can't control emotions well, and are prone to obstacles in the process of communicating with others. In fact, most of them are the epitome of parents' attitude towards their children.
She really lost her temper after the parent-teacher conference yesterday. She ignored me and wouldn't let me into her room. Then she came to me again and said it was because I yelled at her.
I yelled at her. She got a lot of styrofoam, a lot of shower gel and a lot of shower gel. I didn't like her very much, so I yelled at her.
After she came to me, I said it was wrong for me to yell at you, but you played with those things too much. I was so angry and you were wrong. I made it a rule for her that you should pack up your things and don't cause trouble to others. You can play with anything, but if you make everything dirty and messy, let me help you clean it up and I will teach you a lesson.
She said she forgot. I said, since we are all at fault, let's all change and be better ourselves in the future, okay? She nodded her head in agreement.
Emotional management is very important, but the key to emotional management is to teach children to learn to communicate and express their dissatisfaction and grievances. We should negotiate to solve problems and be the master of emotions.
Second, obey the rules.
Obeying the rules is essentially that children should control their own desires and abide by the rules of the school.
This should start with small things, whether to buy all kinds of toys when going to the supermarket, whether to play all kinds of projects when going to the big blue whale, and whether to stop playing games on the tablet.
These are all children's desire for control and a manifestation of delayed satisfaction.
In these trivial matters, our children should learn to control their own desires, and parents should also give their children an opportunity to negotiate, so that children can understand the significance of making rules and how to meet their needs in other ways.
I saw that the toy containers in the supermarket could not walk before. I'll tell her first that you already have these toys. The quality of this toy is too poor, and there are enough toys at home. I'll buy them for you online later. All these words were useless until I had an idea. I wrote her a gift list. Write down what toys you want to buy first, and I will buy them for you on your birthday. You can have any one. When she knows that no matter which toy she wants, she has a chance to get it, she is no longer so obsessed with the toys on the shelf.
At present, our system is to have three opportunities to choose gifts a year, namely birthday, Children's Day and New Year's Day. The ordinary clothes, stationery, books and toys I bought for her on my own initiative are not counted. She will carefully choose every gift, and besides, she will not ask for gifts, nor will she linger in the toy section of the supermarket.
Third, communicate with people.
Communicating with others is a very important ability, but the exercise of this ability is also something that children can naturally complete.
We should abide by the collective rules, respect others and be able to solve problems through communication.
Most importantly, parents should create opportunities for their children to communicate with others. It is of great significance for children to play with their peers, and they can learn to cooperate and communicate, which may include the basic mode for children to communicate with others in the future. Parents should support their children's play, which is as meaningful as reading a book and practicing dancing and piano for a while.
Kindergartens used to be very good, but now the epidemic has caused kindergartens to be unable to resume classes for a long time.
Fourth, reading ability.
Reading ability is also a basic ability. The real contact with picture books is about 1 one month old, three and a half years old can read 1000, four and a half years old can read 2000, and now at the age of six, it is still 2000.
Although the figures have not changed, her understanding of language is different. Now you can read the magic school bus chapter book edition.
Through reading, she gained a lot of happiness, learning English, mathematics and popular science. Yesterday, she talked to me about a high-tech book, Gene Editor, which she just read, saying that diabetes can be treated by gene editing.
The future study, whether Chinese, English, mathematics or science, is inseparable from reading. Reading can also make children concentrate, which is an ability that should be valued anyway.
Third, the less important knowledge.
Writing and pinyin are actually not too difficult, but I realized that I was not professional enough and didn't want to take care of it, so I didn't teach it. Moreover, these need to be practiced repeatedly. It is better to teach professional teachers to do this professional thing in school and take care of the parent-child relationship.
The teacher also said that there will be a transitional stage in grade 1-3, learning writing and pinyin, and cultivating various habits for children. The progress of teaching at this stage will not be too fast, and children will have plenty of time at school.
Cultivating reading ability is naturally achieved through reading. In this reading process, you can learn a lot of knowledge, which is incidentally. There is no wall between knowledge and ability, and the cultivation of knowledge and ability is not isolated. We naturally absorb knowledge in the process of cultivating our ability.
Yesterday, Zhen Zhen and I talked about the "rover" and discussed why we should explore Mars. First, mercury is too close to the sun, and the surface temperature reaches more than 400 degrees during the day. Venus is between Mercury and Mars, but the surface temperature reaches 500 degrees during the day. Why is Venus farther from the sun than Mercury, but the surface temperature is higher? I have thrown out such a question, but there is no answer yet.
There is a game designed in the APP, the theme is about chemical elements. I heard from friends that their children liked it very much. After playing for a while, I remembered the first 60 elements of the periodic table. I spent a long time learning the chemical records "hydrogen, helium, lithium, beryllium, boron, carbon, nitrogen, oxygen, neon, sodium magnesium, aluminum, silicon, phosphorus, sulfur, chlorine, argon, potassium and calcium".
They also have web-based applications. I experienced the solar system game, which provided a module to compare the sizes and weights of different planets. Another module feels like sitting on Mr. Juan's magic school bus, starting from the sun, passing through Mercury, Venus, Earth, Mars, asteroid belt, Mars, Jupiter, Uranus, Neptune, Pluto, and many human-launched detectors, all the way to the boundary of the solar system.
Although knowledge is not as important as ability, there are so many high-quality resources that children can gain a lot of knowledge in games. We must make full use of them.
The day before yesterday, Zhen Zhen and I did a scientific experiment, which came from an English book. I found all kinds of things from home, such as pencils, erasers, plastic sheets and so on. I drew a table on paper and asked the children to guess whether an object would sink or float in the water. Then I took a pot of water and put it in one by one for observation. Finally, I judge whether the guess is correct or not. It happens that the contents of the book are also in English. While playing this science game happily, I learned a lot of English knowledge. Why not?
Next, I want to find a book about density and dig deeper with my children.
Therefore, parents should have goals, routes and actions at home, and don't be anxious.
Cultivate children's self-management ability, interpersonal skills and reading ability in daily activities.
There are many good resources and methods that can be used to make children happy and learn a lot. We should make full use of them.
So, young connection, what did you do?