"Dear child, the day after you left, you want to write a letter, for fear that you will feel bored, that's all. But I miss you every day and wake up at six or seven every morning. I can't sleep over and over again, and I can't tell why. It seems that Christophe's mother stayed at home alone and remembered the images of the children's childhood scenes. Your mother and I always think of your little story between the ages of 23 and 67. "
The above passage is taken from a letter written by Fu Lei to his son Fu Cong. From the above statement, it can be seen between the lines that Fu Lei loves his son deeply. For my grown-up son, I hope he will thrive and develop outward, but I can't bear to let the child stay away from him. In fact, parents are like this. From conception in August to delivery in 10, parents have worked hard to raise their children step by step, hoping that their children will be useful in the future and will not sleep on the streets. However, when children become talents, it is also time to leave the eaves and fly alone. As parents, we are both happy and sad for them. After all, it is flesh and blood. As we should appreciate and understand the hard work of our parents, let them see what they want to see-our happy life is also a reward for their painstaking upbringing.
Second, Fu Lei encouraged his son.
"As far as playing is concerned, I think it is generally good and full of energy. The delicate place is very delicate. Tonecolour has really changed a lot. We are all very happy and moved. Good boy, I really should give you some compliments. Looking back 195 1 when you first returned to Shanghai from Kunming in April, you really walked halfway up the mountain from the low-lying land. I hope that you will pay attention to the whole cultivation from now on, and you will definitely reach the top in the future. "
This is Mr. Fu Lei's evaluation of his son Fu Cong after listening to his recording. This includes teacher Fu's record, careful analysis and objective appreciation of his son. Later I mentioned my hope for my son. This is the way parents educate their children. It is necessary to show their affirmation of children, so that children have the determination to work hard and the confidence to succeed. On the other hand, I also put forward my own hopes and pointed out the direction of progress and development for the children. As children, we should also learn from our parents' experience, learn from each other's strengths, and open up our own new path on the road guided by our parents.
Third, Fu Lei's charge.
"In the public * * * group, catching up on tasks will inevitably hinder normal study, which I expected. Everything can only be won by ourselves with a firm will and position, and we can be gentle and powerful to the leaders. How much can I prepare for going abroad? -especially in music, I have been uneasy. From now on, everywhere depends on your personal perseverance, belief and will-the will to practice. "
Although parents have a thousand words of advice, they can't let go. As a parent, my son has mixed feelings about how to deal with the changing society. With his own experience, remind his son to take less complaints and take more shortcuts. This is the idea of parents all over the world. Children are the continuation of parents' lives and the hope of holding up the sun in their hearts. Parents should take fewer detours and don't want their children to repeat the same mistakes. I hope they can "go up a storey still higher" than themselves. Adolescence should let go of rebellious psychology, listen to parents' lessons and understand their pains. In fact, this is also for our own good, so that our future life can be more relaxed and happy.
The evenings of 5, 6 and 7 August 2005.
1954, Fu Cong went to Poland to study piano. After going abroad, he corresponded a lot with his father Fu Lei. A literary translator, with profound knowledge and attainments, also has the experience of studying abroad. With these, Fu eagerly observed every heartbeat of Cong, put himself in a position, anticipated various scenarios that Cong might encounter on the way forward, and designed how to treat them.
Fu Lei's letters * * * include 125 letters sent by Fu Lei to Fu Cong, two letters sent to Fu Min and a letter sent to Fu Cong by his wife Zhu Meifu from May 4th to June 6th.
Shortly after his son went abroad, Fu Lei was lost in thought. He recalled that when he was a child, his education in Fu Cong was very strict. It's really cruel He said regretfully, "His fatherhood didn't really wake up until he was forty-five years old" and "the deepest moment of love was when he left". In the letter, Fu Lei apologized to his son: "Son, I abused you, and I will never be sorry for you. I will never be able to atone. " No matter how strict the discipline is, there is no need to kneel down and apologize. Education, in general, should be the idea after parting from my son. In the final analysis, it is still the father's love for his son. When my son read these three letters, he must have aroused his complicated feelings about the devil of the past and the angel of today. Hatred has long been covered by love. From then on, I will study hard and live up to my parents' love and my dream.
After arriving in Poland, my son practiced the piano diligently and his level was greatly improved. He was invited to the concert by bands and symphony orchestras from all over the world. Dad listened to his son's performance thoroughly, comprehensively and truly. Every time I listen to my son's performance, a thousand words come to my writing. First, Fu Cong III's farewell party, he commented: "The effect is very good, but the bass part is very vague;" The piano is too loud, just like I went to the empty room in the small auditorium the first night. " Then came Fu Cong's concert in August that year. He speculated: "The main reason is that I didn't try the piano first. As soon as I heard the' tone' was loud, I was shocked. The unevenness of' touch' shocked me again. The' pedal' is not good, and I was shocked again. These three stimuli are the biggest reason why you are nervous on the stage on the 20th. "Fu Lei not only listened to the sound of the piano, but also clearly understood the psychology. The letter unambiguously pointed out the mistakes in his son's success. The analysis is so serious, not like the feeling of regretting when you have time to plug in headphones, but the trust in your son's success. In the final analysis, it is still the father's love for his son. When my son read these five letters, he must have aroused his enthusiasm for art and persistently followed beauty. Finally, in the competition in February of the following year, Fu Cong achieved good results.
Besides art, Fu Leixin also talked about literature, etiquette and outlook on life. In literature, he wrote: "In pipa, the passages of' noisy big strings' and' syncopated small strings' seem to be staccato, like the sound of pipa;" The phrase "silence is better than sound" is equal to a long pause. " Silver bottle ... water slurry bursts with "two sentences, and it is a surprise attack, magnificent momentum"; Etiquette, he wrote: "for polite people, or teachers, or old people, when speaking, hands should be vertical and people should stand up straight." Let this rule become a habit and benefit for life. " In Truth, he also wrote: "People's lives are floating in high tide-low tide, and only mediocre people can live like stagnant water;" Or you must have a high level of self-cultivation in order not to be tired and truly free. As long as the climax doesn't make you nervous and the low tide doesn't make you decadent, it's okay. " Talking about literature, we can see through the connection between rhyme and piano; Etiquette can teach basic rules well; Theoretically, I can explain the essence of ups and downs, and I know everything about Fu Lei. Although it is far away, education has never changed. Fu Lei deserves to be a great father!
Throughout this book, I found that my father's love gave me the most help and education, followed by the topic content. As far as Fu Congyan is concerned, it is precisely because Fu Lei has been writing letters for a long time that he strives to become this more ethical and qualified artist. I personally feel the same way. It's really good to talk to my dad about study and morality. Fu Lei's letters are the crystallization of the love between father and son, and they are educational treasures without advertisements. It is really wonderful!
These two letters from home, written when my son was depressed and delighted with success, expressed Fu Lei's profound understanding of life and ardent expectations for his son from two aspects. In two different styles, it shows Fu Lei's deep affection for his son and his true feelings for music art.
The first letter from home was written when my son was depressed, encouraging him to face emotional trauma and learn to bear it calmly; The second letter, written when my son achieved great success and was surrounded by flowers and applause, encouraged him to remain humble, not afraid of loneliness and dare to climb the artistic realm. The former is like a gentle breeze and drizzle, which is gratifying; The latter is full of joy and passion. The former emphasizes rationality, while the latter is full of emotion. However, the main idea that runs through the two letters is to ask the son to be a strong person. No matter what ups and downs and contradictions and loneliness you have experienced, you should keep your unremitting pursuit of art and childlike innocence of life.
At the beginning of the first letter, Fu Lei first comforted his son: Don't worry that parents will be upset or upset because they know that their children are depressed. Moreover, it is reasonable for children to complain to their parents at home and vent their letters. Then I told my son that life must be full of emotional ups and downs, and only mediocre and detached people will not have ups and downs. So, how should we face the ups and downs of emotions? First of all, we should treat all this calmly and try to keep a psychological balance so as not to get hurt. "As long as the climax doesn't make you nervous and the low tide doesn't make you decadent, it's okay." He also used "the sun is too strong, which will scorch the grain;" The metaphor of "too much rain will drown crops" illustrates the necessity of controlling emotions. Secondly, "slowly" and "develop another mood to deal with the past", that is, calmly and objectively analyze the cause and effect, learn lessons and learn lessons for reference. "Only by daring to face up to reality, mistakes, rational analysis and thorough understanding can we not be eroded by memories", thus becoming more and more powerful. For the creation of feelings, we should "regard it as the ashes of the soul" and "regard it as an ancient battlefield". Hanging on the ancient battlefield, the fire and smoke dispersed, leaving only the ruins, Jin Ge iron horse, bloody and buried in the yellow sand of the years. At this time, even those who have experienced combat, despite thousands of feelings, will not be as helpless and desperate as they were at the beginning. This metaphor truly expresses the feelings of all "experienced people" looking back on the past-desolate and calm, depressed and detached.
The second letter originated from Fu Cong's meritorious performance at the concert. The success of children is always the greatest happiness and pride of parents, but unlike other parents, Fu Lei's happiness and excitement also come from the success of art and the glory of the motherland. "The highest and purest happiness in the world is to appreciate art", "We are also happy, because you have brought honor to our motherland! How many people can laugh because you can borrow music! " As a father, Fu Lei unreservedly expressed his extraordinary excitement to his son: "We really want to jump out!" "
If you are an ordinary parent, maybe that's all, and Fu Lei's greatness lies in his success, which has given his son more artistic sharpening and showed him a higher realm of life. He first praised his son: "No amount of flattery and praise has made you lose your self-knowledge, and the applause, hugs and praises of celebrities have not reduced your humility to art!" And this is "the best proof of strength." If the last letter is to keep my son strong when he is depressed, then the success here is "not carried away by victory", which is a strong performance. Only by being strong can we never be afraid of loneliness. Fu Lei's understanding of the meaning of "firmness" is full of the feeling of life, which is very intriguing. The highest state of being strong is to maintain a pure childlike innocence. Because "a naked child doesn't know loneliness." If you are lonely, you will create a world and many spiritual friends! "It can be said that life has reached its peak!
Next, Fu Lei's imaginative thoughts flew from art to China's "Dawn". From Fu Cong's fluent playing style, he thought of Christopher, then the "Fudan" in new China, and the endless Chinese civilization. He inspired his son, an artist who grew up in such a great river of civilization, to "perform bullfighting passionately", brimming with enthusiasm for new China and confidence in China culture.
At the end of the letter, Fu Lei once again returned to the issue of "contradiction and happiness" of emotions. In the first letter, he once said that life must be full of emotional ups and downs, and only mediocre and detached people will not rise and fall; This time, he emphasized that "contradiction is the proof of vitality". So as to encourage our son to face all kinds of contradictions bravely, to be "perfect" in the process of constantly solving contradictions, and to let the "perfect" horizon inspire us to move forward forever.