First, care for and respect children.
Shaping children's intrinsic value with respect, I think as parents, we should respect the children themselves like adults, get the synchronous development of body and mind with children in the process of getting along with them on an equal footing, guide children to take every step of life according to their own growth trajectory, give them intrinsic value, and let them become the people he wants to be.
Usually, in the communication with children, I will listen to his opinions and ideas more and return the decision and choice to children. Let him make his own decisions about his own affairs, and then make suggestions if he feels inappropriate. I hope the children will become people with strong will and positive and healthy attitude.
Every night before I go to bed, I will talk to her for half an hour and ask her what she is happy or unhappy about at school today. My daughter will tell me, and I will listen wholeheartedly. We always talk about everything. I think communicating with children is not questioning, but heart-to-heart communication, understanding and tolerance, timely praise and praise, and firm support and encouragement for children.
Don't underestimate the half-hour chat time with children before going to bed every night, which can make children open their hearts, let them vent their emotions and share them happily, shape their sunny and optimistic personality and cultivate their expressive ability. Therefore, chatting with children before going to bed is the best way to pay attention. I think it is one thing to pay attention to children's learning, and more importantly, to pay attention to children's spiritual growth.
Second, pay attention to scientific educational methods and cultivate children's all-round development.
I think we should pay attention to the cultivation of children's good ideological and moral education when educating children.
I remember when the children went to preschool, the teacher asked the children to go home and ask their parents: What is the purpose of going to work? After the parents answered, they went to school the next day to tell the teacher. When my daughter came back to ask me, I thought about it and told her: Mom and Dad went to work to help others, to be happy, to realize their dreams and find their own value. The next day, my daughter told the teacher about it, and the teacher called to praise me. I think it is very important for children to have a correct value. It's like asking my children what they go to school for. Children will say: it is to contribute to the country in the future, help others, be happy and realize their dreams. When a child has such an idea, he will be more willing to take the initiative to participate in learning.
My daughter just entered the first grade this year. In order to help her develop good study habits, I taught her to make a study plan, review what she learned that day after school, then do her homework, and finally preview the new courses the next day and arrange her time reasonably. She should study hard when it is time to study, and be happy when it is time to play. Once she forms good habits, she will learn easily.
In terms of living habits, let him tidy up his desk and belongings, tidy up his schoolbag according to the curriculum, and let her be my little helper to help me do some simple housework. As long as parents are willing to let go and children are willing to work, he can feel a sense of accomplishment.
Third, create a good family education environment.
I couldn't find the direction in educating children before. Later, by constantly learning the knowledge of family education, I gradually realized that family is the best school for educating children, so my husband and I never quarrel in front of them. We discuss everything and let them see the happy picture of our mutual love, mutual understanding, mutual accommodation and mutual trust. See the beautiful scene where we honor our parents and unite our relatives and friends; See us study hard and work hard. These will be stored in children's memories, which will virtually shape their character and basic qualities, so family is the cradle of children's spiritual growth.
Fourth, lead by example.
It is often heard that parents are originals and children are copies. Parents' gestures always have a subtle influence on children. If children want to love learning, they should use their own efforts to create a learning family atmosphere for their children.
Remember to read to your child every day and go to the library once a week from the age of one. The books I bought for my daughter filled her bookcase, and I often read books at ordinary times, which created a family atmosphere for my daughter, so my daughter also developed the habit of reading. She can read a lot, and now she can read independently. Usually, when my daughter does her homework, I will read next to her and underline the good words and sentences I see in the book. When my daughter saw me do this, she also learned to circle her favorite words in the book. This shows that parents have a great influence on their children.
In a word, I think excellent parents should set a good example for their children and influence them with their actions. If what we ask our children is what we do on weekdays, then education will come naturally, and I will continue to learn to be strict with myself and be a role model for children.