Seeing such a topic, although her mother has repeatedly stressed that they are just ordinary families and their children are ordinary upper-middle-class students, I still feel that the experience of being admitted to an ivy league school abroad, whether it is the learning process or the family background, has no reference significance for our truly ordinary families. So many children who receive compulsory education, how many junior high school students have the experience of studying abroad? Whose children attend Crazy English or New Oriental Summer Camp every summer vacation?
However, after listening to Wang Rui's mother's sharing, I think it is really inseparable from family education to be admitted to Oxford in Yi Rui. It can be seen that mother Wang's family education is really worth learning from our parents.
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Home-school integration, parents and teachers cooperate well.
From the time children enter primary school, both the letter from the school to parents and the parent-teacher conference emphasize "the unity of home and school". How many parents really did it?
Many parents understand that "home-school integration" is nothing more than more contact with teachers and schools, and more directly, giving gifts to teachers at the right time. In fact, these are all one-sided understandings.
The real "integration of home and school" is based on parents' real consideration for their children.
For example, check your child's homework every day and sign it. How many parents have written down their children's problems? After checking the homework for the children, Wang's mother will write a comment, even a sentence, on what the children have not mastered. When the teacher checks the child's homework, it will be clear at a glance that the child has any shortcomings and will be given targeted counseling. At the same time, I can feel my parents' intentions.
Also, when Yi went to primary school, the teacher once asked the students to perform the text "Mr. Dong Guo and the Wolf" in different roles. Mother Wang used pajamas as Hanfu, an old schoolbag as headdress, and a black plastic bag cut into the shape of a beard to dress up the clothes. This kind of performance is much better than how to read with emotion.
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Encourage children to actively participate in various activities in school and society.
Easy to apply for Oxford University has a lot to do with her rich social practice. Since she was a child, she has participated in many social practice activities, such as a small commentator in the municipal museum, a volunteer in the municipal library, and collecting money for special children. Although taking part in these activities will take up a lot of time, what you learn in these activities can't be written in class at all, such as how to communicate with people and how to coordinate various relationships.
Perhaps, many children do not have so many opportunities for social practice, so school activities must not be missed.
On one occasion, Wang Rui's Class One was going to stage an English sitcom. The prince has too many lines in the play, and everyone doesn't want the prince. It was suggested that Wang Rui should play, saying that she was tall and thin, which conformed to the image of a prince. Yi Rui was very unhappy and thought her classmates were laughing at her. Mother Wang encouraged her and said, "What a great opportunity! Dressing up as a man is a good challenge in itself! " Encouraged by her mother, she successfully played the role of the prince.
Encourage children to challenge themselves. School activities are all children's exercises. Even if you don't get good grades, even if you fail, it is an experience and a kind of growth for children.
At the same time, the improvement of social skills also has a transfer effect, which will lead to the development of children in all aspects.
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Let go and let the children do their own thing.
An incident happened when Wang Rui applied for a British visa. At that time, when I got the admission notice from Oxford University, Yi Rui had applied for a British visa. Mother Wang asked if she was accompanied by her parents. Yi Rui refused. So Yi Rui went to the British Embassy in China alone to apply for a visa. The appointment is at 9 am. When the results were in place, the embassy said that she was only 16 years old and needed her parents to accompany her. Call mom, mom can't get to Handan and Beijing in half an hour, because the allowed time is only half an hour. Yi Rui's mother said quietly, "This is your own business. I warned you before that if you can't get a visa, you will bear the consequences yourself. " "
You know, even if you get the admission notice from Oxford University, you can't get a British visa and you can't go. Yi Rui used his quick wits to give full play to his thick-skinned specialty and look for his "mother" in the queue. Asked about the third person, she finally agreed to be her temporary mother. Soon, Yi Rui successfully obtained a British visa.
16-year-old girl can do this independently, thanks to the cultivation of her independence by her parents. When I was eight or nine years old, I went to the summer camp on my own. 13 years old, a person goes to Beijing by train and takes the subway.
My family lives next to a key junior high school. I see many parents sending their children to and from school every day. The children in TA are much TAller than ta.
Parents can let go of their children's daily life, let TA wash clothes and help with housework. If you travel, let TA do the raiders and lead us to feel exotic. The more children do, the more they learn, the greater their sense of accomplishment and the more confident they are.
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Do not pay attention to children's scores, only pay attention to children's emotions.
Mother Wang said that her grades were not very high, but only average in her class. She thinks that as long as the children's grades are not too bad, there will be no problem. Many times, for example, when applying to Oxford University, the last thing you look at is not IQ, but persistence and perseverance.
Only pay attention to the scores in front of you, your eyes are too short-sighted. If a child gets 85 points this semester and wants to improve TA by 5 points next semester, 10 points, then he will spend the whole semester in various remedial classes. Even if his grades finally improve, it is not worth spending a semester doing other things happily.
Parents should pay attention to their children's emotions. Mother Wang said, "I won't do anything that will affect their children's mood." As long as you can see that children are growing every day, making progress every day, growing happily all the time, understanding children, trusting children, supporting children and being friends with children, then no child will grow crooked.
Everything in the world has a cause and a result. Looking for reasons from the results, we can always find the root of the problem. The problem of children's education, good or bad, is due to family education. Educating children is a process of self-cultivation. As parents, parents must bend down to listen to their children's voices, because TA will eventually go further and further alone.