Children are the most precious gifts in parents' eyes. In the eyes of parents, they are as cautious as children who will never grow up. Perhaps it is too tough in the process of care, which leads to many children in adolescence. He made some irreparable mistakes, which led to the destruction of a family. Just some time ago, some students in Xiamen No.1 Middle School hurt their parents because of family conflicts. So what happened in the meantime? What are the alarm bells behind it?
Mother's scolding led to the tragedy. On the day of the incident, the police rushed to the scene after a resident in Huli District, Xiamen called the police. I saw an amazing scene. Xu, the mother at home, was stabbed by a sharp weapon, and his father was seriously injured and unconscious. When the ambulance arrived at the scene, light dance had died on the spot, and her father was still being rescued because of excessive blood loss. After the enemy's on-site investigation and evidence collection, the locked suspect is his son, a middle school student.
Then the police summoned the student Xiao Li according to law. When the police were questioning Xiao Li. Xiao Li seemed to calmly tell the whole story of the day of the crime. Xiao Li didn't do well in the mid-term exam at that time. When she got home, her mother was very angry with the test paper, so she also beat and scolded her son in various ways. Didn't give much comfort. At this time, my father didn't discourage me, only knowing that he was watching TV.
At first, Xiao Li didn't have any abnormal reaction, but with her mother's fierce words. Xiao Li also ran into the kitchen in a rage, picked up a kitchen knife and killed his mother while she was unprepared. At this time, my father heard a strange noise in the kitchen and rushed over. Who knows that Xiao Li also chopped his father into a coma. Such a complete family has become terrible because of family conflicts. Xiao Li also said many times in an interview that her mother usually fights and scolds for various reasons and doesn't take into account her inner state. So we did these unexpected things in a rage.
Although love has come to an end, although Xiao Li is a middle school student, he will be punished according to relevant regulations. Life is full of ups and downs for him, but from another angle. In fact, part of the reason why Xiao Li made such a move is family education. Many times we often have high demands on our children, hoping that they can do their best in front of others. However, the higher the hope, the greater the disappointment. In such a high-pressure state, you will lack the care of your parents, so in the long run, it will lead to the inner loneliness of your child.
Moreover, there are many tragic events like Xiao Li, and similar events often appear in news reports. Many people may think that such a child really can't be saved? In fact, for adolescent children, although there is a rebellious character, it is not hopeless. The key is to see how parents educate correctly.
First of all, parents should understand their children from an inner perspective.
It stands to reason that for a child, there is no natural bad. Only in the environment where he grew up, bad environment will affect him. Therefore, under such circumstances, parents should consider opening their children's inner world from an inner perspective. Be considerate of them, care about them, and don't restrict their behavior in some conventional ways. As long as you are healthy, upright and cheerful, you are at your best.
Secondly, let go of your hands and feet and give each other free space.
Many times, parents still have strong requirements and control over their children, and they all want their children to do things according to their own requirements and ideas. Never really let children choose for themselves. Therefore, there is little room for them to play freely. In the long run, children will become withdrawn in their hearts. If this phenomenon is not good, as children grow up, their rebellious psychology will become stronger and stronger. At that moment, as parents, it may be irreparable and uncontrollable.
Finally, love should not be too full or too relaxed.
In the process of children's growth, parents should also give their children enough care and let them know that parents are their own umbrellas and can support the responsibilities and burdens of the family. But while caring, we should also learn to master a degree. Give enough care when children need it, and give enough encouragement when children are full of curiosity. Therefore, in the growth stage of children, parents should know how to relax and grasp certain principles so that children can have a healthy growth platform.
Conclusion:
Education for children comes not only from family education, but also from schools and society. Educating children to become stronger and stronger in various societies and environments. What parents can do at this stage is to give enough understanding and support. If parents can understand this. I believe that children can master division at any stage. There is no tragedy like Xiao Li's.