1, there is no medicine for regret in life, you can reflect on it, but you don't have to regret it, because time can't go back and it is impossible to solve a math problem. If one road doesn't work, you can change your mind and go again.
2. Laozi has a saying, "Misfortune comes from the mouth, and happiness comes from the mouth." Most people have neither smooth roads nor adversity that will never return. You think you can choose another way of life, but how do you know that life will definitely bring you the life you want? Maybe adversity made you.
The beauty of life is that you can never predict what will happen in the future until you close your eyes. Will God give you the last gift? Or give you a final punishment? Although I am an atheist, I still believe in good and evil, so it is only a matter of time before God will take care of you one day as long as you are kind to others and don't do anything that hurts them.
Life is the most difficult math problem, because many times you can't deduce the expected result according to logic. There is a saying: "A good man doesn't grow long, which harms people for thousands of years". In this sense, people don't have to stick to details, money is not enough, people are not perfect, and they don't have to be too strict with themselves. It is not a crime to try to make yourself happy on the basis of following the most basic rules of society. Some things don't have to be forced, just let nature take its course. Do not seek infinite merit, but seek peace of mind! It doesn't matter what others say, what matters is to be an open-minded self!
More than once, I have been told that I pity a person with a heavy cross on my back! I can't help thinking, since you feel sorry for someone, have you ever thought about what you are sorry for him? Is there any possibility of making up for it? If you think about these problems clearly, you will know what you should do, and you will not be immersed in troubles all day. Some things can be mended, and some things are like broken glass, which cannot be redeemed. So let go of this worry and do something more meaningful. Isn't this another way to make up?
I admire Rousseau's courage. He has the courage to write an incomparable confession to reveal his heart. Many people have written autobiographies and handed them down, but how many people have Rousseau's courage? Confession is something that westerners are keen on. Through repentance, you can purify your mind and let yourself go. Repentance is not regret, its essence is reflection, as the saying goes, "three rescues a day." By reflecting on your heart, you can get spiritual relief and comfort. If we often reflect on ourselves instead of carrying the burden of regret or even guilt all day, we will not live so hard. On the contrary, we can motivate ourselves to do more valuable things.
Everyone has different known conditions for the mathematical problems in life, but almost everyone wants to get similar results. Unfortunately, there are too many variables in life. It is better to experience a happy process than to pursue a perfect result, and the process is more important than the result. In fact, the real result of life is the combination of one process after another, and no one can guarantee that every process is successful. I still believe that sentence: "An incomplete life is a real life".