When Lele first went to kindergarten, his mother once picked him up from school. The teacher took her aside and said angrily, "Your son probably has ADHD. Other children have quickly adapted to school life and can sit quietly in class, but your son can't sit for 5 minutes and start to make trouble. " The teacher looked at her embarrassed expression and said slowly, "You'd better take him to the hospital for examination."
On the way home, Lele asked her mother curiously, "Mom, what did the teacher tell you?" Looking at the child's tender face, the mother tried to control her emotions, squatted down, touched Lele's head and said, "The teacher praised you! Say you can't sit still for three minutes, but now you can sit for five minutes. I also said that the whole class has made the greatest progress on you! "
Lele was very happy and skipped home. The mother who followed, watching her son's cheerful pace, could no longer hold back and burst into tears.
That night, Lele was very good. She ate for the first time before going to play, and didn't let her mother chase after her ass again. Mother was happy and sad, and secretly left tears.
In the second grade of primary school, a parent-teacher meeting was held, and Lele was habitually called to the office by the class teacher. He said piteously, "In this mid-term exam, your son came last in the class in mathematics, which was worse than the penultimate one 10! We suspect that there is something wrong with his IQ. You'd better take him to the hospital for examination. "
The head teacher paused and raised his voice: "If it is still so bad next year, the school will force you to transfer. We are a key primary school and have assessment indicators every year. We can't influence the whole school because you are a child! "
At dinner in the evening, Lele kept his head down and said nothing. Seeing that her mother didn't talk, she couldn't help asking, "Mom, what did the class teacher tell you today?" Mother's hand with chopsticks shook inadvertently, then slowly put down the chopsticks and looked at her son seriously and said, "The class teacher praised you and said that you have made great progress. Before, you were 20 to 30 points less than the penultimate place, and this time you were only 10! "
Mom looked at Lele's gloomy little face and smiled gradually, like a blooming lily, and continued to whisper, "The class teacher also said that as long as you work hard, you can catch up!" Come on! "
Lele's little eyes were bright. She quickly ate the last few mouthfuls of rice, jumped off the table and said without looking back, "Mom and Dad, I'm full. I'm going to do my homework!" " "
When washing dishes, my mother didn't hear the sound of cartoons for the first time. Instead, she kept hearing Lele crying and kept asking my father, "Is this right?" Is this right? " . . . "
I don't know if it will be uncomfortable to be smoked by steam. My mother has been wiping her cheeks with her arms. . .
In the parent-teacher meeting of the third grade, Lele's mother was not called by the teacher to communicate alone for the first time, which was a bit uncomfortable. Everyone left, so I went to see the teacher. Without looking up, the teacher said absently, "Your child's grades are below average, and the key high schools are hopeless, as long as you don't delay classes." The teacher may suddenly realize that he is wrong and then look up and say, "hmm." . . Well, after you go back, you should be self-disciplined and try to get into a better high school. "
Lele walked out of the teacher's office briskly and vaguely heard the voices of the teachers in the office. "Are you going a little too far?" A young female teacher said. "Where is it! Who let her children get poor grades! Now the sprint stage begins, and I only pay attention to the top 20 in my class to ensure that they can go to key high schools. As for other students, don't bother me, don't drag the class back, and I will be Amitabha! " This is teacher Lele's voice.
It stands to reason that normal parents will be very frustrated when they hear the teacher's evaluation. But Lele's mother doesn't blame the teacher, he also has his pressure. And she is a little happy: because her son is no longer included in the ranks of poor students! For the first time, she was not named by the teacher because of Lele's poor grades!
As soon as she got home, she put on slippers and said happily to her son, "Lele, the teacher praised you today!" " Although you are the top 20 in your class, you can be admitted to a key high school as long as you work hard! "
The college entrance examination is over. While waiting for the admission results, Lele's mother was not as uneasy as other parents, but more calm. Colleagues and friends asked about Lele's grades, and she always said indifferently, "just so-so, not bad."
In fact, she knew psychologically that Lele must be admitted to his ideal university-Peking University. Sure enough, when the score line comes out, she will know that it is stable!
When Lele handed her the admission notice of Peking University, before she could be happy, her son hugged her and cried on her shoulder!
"Why, what a happy thing! Why are you crying? Mom knows you can get in! " My son, who is more than one meter eight, is crying on her shoulder, which is quite tired.
"Mom, because of you, I can be admitted to Peking University! I know I'm not a born smart kid. However, you made me believe that I can be a smart person! Thank you, mom! . . . . Grandpa is right, dad can marry you, which is a blessing for our family to repair for several lives! "
The psychological "Rosenthal experiment" shows that if you sincerely believe and identify with your child and give him positive psychological hints, then the child will really develop in a better and better direction in this positive feedback.
The China Youth Research Center once conducted a survey on "the present situation and expectation of study and life". The results show that among the 10 ways that children like their parents best, the first one is "trust me".
Everyone admitted to Tsinghua Peking University has one thing: don't fight or scold, always recognize, appreciate and encourage him!
Nothing is better than the affirmation, appreciation and encouragement from my mother!
There is nothing better than mother's gentleness.
The experience of countless parents tells us: you can't shout out a Tsinghua Peking University; And affirmation, appreciation and praise will!
If you can have such a mother, how can a family be richer than three generations?