I only choose primary school children as my tutors. This is by no means because I have any overall considerations or other feelings in my heart, but because my personal level is limited, especially math. Children in primary schools are concentrated between the ages of six and twelve. It is not easy to get along well with children of this age and win their love and trust for you. Strangely, I get along well with these little guys, and in the end almost all of them are teachers and friends. That's why I want to write this article. I want to share my little experience with you.
The profession of "tutor" has certain particularity, which can be seen from the name. The first is the workplace. Mentors are usually private mentors. Parents hire you, and you only serve their children, usually after school or at their home on Saturday and Sunday. Secondly, the work content. The main duty of tutor is teaching. Teaching content generally depends on parents' requirements. Some parents just ask you to help their children finish their homework every day. Some parents want you to help their children improve their grades in a certain subject, others want you to help their children develop good study habits ... Parents have different requirements, but more often, parents want you to be a "fighter" in family education, and you can lead them with a meager salary every month. I just want to give parents who have these ideas a cold face here.
When I first started as a tutor, I would be very concerned about my parents' feelings, because after all, parents have to pay for themselves. With the rich experience of tutoring, my focus slowly shifted to the children I took care of. This is also the first experience I want to share with you-getting to know your children.
As a parent, do you really know your children? Many people will give such an ambiguous answer as "not necessarily". My answer is "parents can't fully understand your child." The essence of children is vivid and real life, and the characteristic of life is mystery. Parents should not take it for granted that they are the closest people to their children. Any specific life needs to be understood and observed. It is unnatural to meet under the same roof. In the remedial class, our teacher sometimes communicates with parents who come to pick up their children to behave in the class, usually naughty and undisciplined children. When some parents heard his children's deeds of disturbing order, disobeying discipline and contradicting the teacher in class, their pupils opened wide and their mouths were round, shaking their heads again and again, saying, no, children are not like this at home. People who have worked for many years often say that children live with different masks every day, and children also have this attribute. Facing different people and different environments, they will show different personalities. When I take a tutor, I will learn about the children after work during recess. For example, ask him, how many people are there in your class? Is your deskmate a boy or a girl? Which teacher do you like best? Use such peaceful questions to stimulate children's desire for expression. Most children will be happy to share some of their stories at school with you. As a listener, we should grasp his personality in his narrative. I really hope that parents can spend more time getting to know your child, which is the basis for you to participate in his growth.
Another important lesson is to keep a low profile. I have a habit. When students ask me questions or chat with me, I will squat or bend down, try to adjust to the same height as him, and then listen to what he says. The child is very sensitive, and he will perceive your attitude in your subtle movements. Keep a low profile, treat children as individuals with equal personality, and don't think about ordering them with authority. Every time I go to tutor, I will chat with my children first, and then do my homework. I will share with them the interesting things I have encountered and tell them my troubles. Sometimes these sharing will arouse their interest, they will chase me to ask questions, and sometimes they are not interested in what I say. It doesn't matter. What matters is that in this process, children can be relieved of their guard and get closer to each other. The counseling time is usually two to three hours. When you show him the life outside these two or three hours, he will feel that he has participated in your life and become a close person to you. I have been shocked by the maturity of children's thoughts more than once. Some of their thoughts and words and deeds often make me feel that this is really a primary school student! Today's children have long understood and judged the society through mobile phones, internet and television, so don't get along with them with the idea that they are children. They really know more than you think. I am currently taking a fifth-grade girl. Once we watched the movie "Fuck off! ! Tumor jun, I finally cried with a runny nose and tears. She looked disgusted, handed me a tissue and said, "What's there to cry about?" . Everything in the movie is fake! "
The last point I want to share is an old-fashioned topic, that is, "you should be a role model for your children." When chatting with parents, I often hear, teacher, why do you think my child just doesn't like reading? Teacher, why don't our children be careful? Teacher, our children procrastinate in everything and have no plans for anything ... When these parents say this, they basically have a look of hate for iron.
Children are still growing up, so give them time. No one grows crops, sowing today and clamoring for grain tomorrow. Parents want their children to love reading, be diligent in thinking, be careful and rigorous, and do things in an orderly way ... How I wish all the excellent qualities in the world were concentrated on my children, but as parents, what efforts have you made for your children to have these qualities? I hope my children have the habit of reading. So, parents held their mobile phones all day and chatted happily on WeChat. I hope my children are careful and rigorous, and as a result, parents are almost the same in everything they do; I want my children to love life, and as a result, my parents go home and sit in front of the computer one night every day ... Parents always think that my children must have something I don't have, or that other children have it, and my children must have it. When their children don't behave well, they get angry, loudly accuse their children of not doing well enough, but refuse to reflect on whether they are not doing well enough. In the remedial class, there is a little boy who finishes his homework every day. Although it is not the fastest, it is the most serious. I wonder, because senior two boys are generally more playful and active. Later, at the end of the semester, the remedial class unified the home-school contact book. I found that the boy's father records the child's performance at home and the right or wrong homework in the contact book every day, and finally writes a sentence or two to thank the teacher. Some of the other children's contacts are missing, and some are simply blank. When I am a tutor, I often have to replace my parents to complete the tasks assigned to them by my teachers, such as making handicrafts with my children and recording the growth of plants together ... I will carefully check and find information every time and discuss specific operation methods and implementation plans with my children. Some children don't pay attention to this kind of homework at first, but a serious attitude will infect and drive them, and they will also get into the state and finish it with you. You should be a role model for your children. As a parent, you should take being a child's parents as an opportunity in life, continue to recharge and constantly improve your chances. Maybe you didn't have the motivation before, but in order to ask someone your child admires most, he will say your name without thinking. You should also strive to be a better person and be strict with yourself.
What was I teaching when I was a tutor? This is a question I ask myself again and again. I hope I can not only bring them knowledge, but also be their friend, listener and umbrella. The experience of being a tutor made me secretly look forward to becoming a mother in the future. I am very happy to grow up with a brand-new life, meet the challenges of life and discover the meaning of nature together.
I still remember the name of the first tutor I brought and his eyebrows. In fact, meeting by chance in the sea of people is fate, not to mention being a teacher who teaches people to solve doubts. I hope all the children I have accompanied can always grow up in the sunshine and wind. I hope all parents can give their children more gentle eyes and warm hugs.